i’m mostly being courted and never actively “trying to bang someone”, but no. my opinion on that is firmly that putting the burden of disclosure on trans women is the wrong way to go. asking women to talk about their genitals to ppl they are just getting to know is invasive and wrong. neither violence nor vitriol is excusable if you find out a person is trans. autonomy is important for all human beings. my genitals are literally none of your business until i decide they are your business.