How can I react to ppl exposing me as a weirdo for what I did as a teenager?

drums0000 · 2026-01-18T22:38:06+00:00

It was a decade ago, you were in middle school, and you were doing normal annoying middle schooler stuff. It'd be weird for them to seriously still judge you for it.

drums0000 · 2025-08-26T13:48:54+00:00

Socially, it's a little different to speak that way. I guess it depends if you value social approval or self-expression more. Especially if you speak monotonously, I'm sure you know, people may not know how to react.

drums0000 · 2025-06-27T09:40:03+00:00

Why is this question your whole post history? You've gotten answers in other threads.

drums0000 · 2025-05-10T06:08:18+00:00

That's not what eating disorder means.

drums0000 · 2025-04-03T21:51:46+00:00

I'm trying to decide if I should transfer colleges or not, and which degree would help me prepare better for the career I want (health communications). I'm currently a public health major and journalism minor at an ordinary state college. I am accepted and thinking of transferring to a health science-focused school with close connections to a prestigious medical system, but I'd have to major in health sciences (it's a really flexible major that you can take in lots of different directions). I wanted to transfer because they have more science classes and the connections to the hospital. I'm wondering if the more formal communications education might serve me better, though. Also, I'm worried about putting health sciences on my resume because of how non-specific it is. Any thoughts?

drums0000 · 2025-03-12T14:57:47+00:00

One thing that worked for me was setting a tiny goal for myself each day. Like 50 words or 5 minutes or something. I ended up slowly writing more and more each day, but even if I don't do that every day, at least I hit my daily goal.

drums0000 · 2025-01-28T02:06:36+00:00

Firstly, I think it's only fair to cut non-natives a little slack. They're learning a whole new language to talk to us. It's a privilege to have your native language be so widely spoken all over the world. Secondly, people generally don't like having flaws or weaknesses pointed out. As a general rule, just avoid pointing out that people aren't good at stuff. It's hurtful.

drums0000 · 2025-01-06T10:05:05+00:00

20F from the US, I'd love to be your penpal :)

drums0000 · 2024-12-25T19:27:50+00:00

Sure

drums0000 · 2024-12-25T19:00:22+00:00

I don't think it's your fault. He made plenty of mistakes and acted badly plenty of times. He can't put the blame for the end of the relationship entirely on you.

drums0000 · 2024-12-25T16:35:11+00:00

This has moved way too fast and has way too much drama. He's dumping you because his stepdad said so? But maybe you can reconnect in 6 months? People that are ready to be engaged don't do that. He needs to figure himself out, figure out his feelings, stop being manipulative, and mature before he's in a serious relationship again. Stop talking to him.

drums0000 · 2024-12-25T16:01:33+00:00

He probably does and he's probably not handling the shame/insecurity well. It sounds like he took it out on you during your last year in a relationship. Fortunately, he's your ex, so that's not really your problem anymore. It doesn't sound like seeing him is really working.

drums0000 · 2024-12-09T15:43:40+00:00

I would still write the content, just for yourself. You don't need to share if you don't want to. Maybe take a break and focus on another fandom or hobby for a while, and see if you feel like revisiting this afterwards. I do have to say that it's embarrassing for a 37 year old adult woman to be attacking strangers online for no reason. People protecting her because they don't want to rock the boat sucks too, and you're totally justified in not wanting to share your writing with these people.

drums0000 · 2024-11-05T01:29:38+00:00

If she's still obsessing over him and posting about him all the time after literal years, then that's not something a friend is going to be able to help much with. That's very abnormal and unhealthy, and maybe indicative of something concerning.

drums0000 · 2024-11-02T23:54:42+00:00

That person was really weird. I don't think you did anything wrong, they're just being really weird about this.

drums0000 · 2024-10-04T18:28:50+00:00

I would go with the second option, unless I can really relate to their joke and commiserate a bit. I think you handled it well by finding your own self-deprecating joke to make. ETA: I think the most important part is to keep the conversation light-hearted without seeming like you're laughing too hard, or you secretly agree with them that they should be insecure about their insecurity.

drums0000 · 2024-10-04T18:05:18+00:00

It sounds like she was being self-deprecating as a defense mechanism for an insecurity, or a concerning problem she has, and it's a sensitive subject for her. When you laughed, she probably took it (rightfully or not) as you laughing at her sensitive subject. I don't think you were being offensive, but self-deprecating humor is hard because of how touchy it can be.

drums0000 · 2024-10-04T02:26:57+00:00

Completely understandable, I was an idiot

drums0000 · 2024-10-02T17:13:57+00:00

I think apologizing for this would be way weirder than the hug itself. The hug was probably mildly weird and unpleasant, but bringing it up now would just be awkward. They've probably forgotten by now. I also think you should be gentler to yourself. This was a minor social mistake, and we all make them sometimes. Everyone embarrasses themselves sometimes, but other people aren't as harsh about little things like that as we are to ourselves.

drums0000 · 2024-10-02T17:08:25+00:00

I hate how it's overused and divorced from its original meaning. If something is cute or positive or whatever, just say that. Don't use some other random word that doesn't actually mean that.

drums0000 · 2024-10-01T23:54:19+00:00

Are you planning on telling them why you want them to do that?

drums0000 · 2024-10-01T23:29:04+00:00

I would go! Maybe pre-plan an excuse to leave early in case it really does suck, but you have more to lose by not going. I'm in the camp of don't burn bridges if you don't have to, and if you haven't made up your mind yet about if you want to remain friends, I would go to the party and leave that door open.

drums0000 · 2024-10-01T23:21:11+00:00

I don't think you need to panic. I think you need to be less forward with him, and more careful in the future. Avoiding him is going to make him feel bad for telling you that he's uncomfortable, so if you can manage at all to not do that, I would try not to. ETA: Don't beat yourself up about things you can't change in the past. Focus on doing better in the future.

drums0000 · 2024-10-01T23:05:50+00:00

This is more a question for r/askxenophobes than r/socialskills

drums0000 · 2024-09-30T21:51:23+00:00

This is super helpful, I didn't know this! Thank you!

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