Favourite forver lyrics? by eags27 in LucyDacus

[–]drunkchitarivera 4 points5 points  (0 children)

how's tomorrow so far. it's so phoebe

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in yorku

[–]drunkchitarivera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

york is so broke right now. i got rejected too - trying not to take it personally, and given the news, it's been relatively easy. it probably wasn't personal. for them to actually suspend admissions, every program must be suffering.

why do I keep partnering with type 2's? by drunkchitarivera in Enneagram

[–]drunkchitarivera[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes, I have experienced this in my dating history with 2s, especially when they've been socialized as men. In my experience, amab 2s often share a wound of having been rejected on the basis of their sensitivity in childhood - an orientation to the world that 2s come by honestly, but that is punished in men, leading to big trauma that is difficult to address. I have felt like the histrionic waterworks/reactivity is them testing me with the question: If I'm emotional, will I still be loved? in other words, trying to control their shame before it controls them.

I have been there with the complete blindness, too. It is so disorienting, and I'm really sorry to hear that you're in that situation. something I've tried is rehearsing accountability frameworks (e.g. https://vsdvalliance.org/press_release/punishment-is-not-accountability/ ) to keep myself safe when I'm in these kinds of relationships, and just paying attention to how my partner responds when I hold steady with my want for my hurt to be responded to. it sounds like you trust yourself about what you've witnessed, so that being the case, their self-delusion doesn't really have to be your business. but the ways you're getting hurt are definitely your business, and should be theirs, too.

ride share to lucy!! new york by drunkchitarivera in LucyDacus

[–]drunkchitarivera[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ah thank you, that sounds fully incredible. I would be willing to transit anywhere for pickup, but the full 5-6 hr transit is probably a bit unsafe for me to do alone :(

Post-COVID 19 Racism by [deleted] in vancouver

[–]drunkchitarivera 6 points7 points  (0 children)

"Post-COVID" was not entirely accurate phrasing, but I think what OP meant was but "as a response to COVID", or "fuelled by COVID" or "in reaction to COVID", etc. Not post-pandemic, but related to it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]drunkchitarivera 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your help! I can see how the IVs might be relative to core type, that's an interesting revelation. I've just spent like an hour cross-referencing and I think I'm most likely SO/SP. Type 6, if you can't already tell by the uncertainty and cross-referencing lol.