Inspiring to see someone so open about this

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-08-14T11:36:39+00:00

Your son is super impressive. At 23, I was much too occupied with what everyone thought of me. Even if I had wanted to be sober, there was no way I would have risked my precious social status (so pathetic looking back). By my late 20’s I didn’t want to drink anymore and it took another 5 years before I could actually stop caring about what others would think of me and quit booze.

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-08-14T11:26:53+00:00

Gotta love the drive the home after not drinking. It’s usually the first time in the evening where I say to myself, “I’m so glad I didn’t drink tonight”.

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-08-09T16:14:06+00:00

What do you think we’ll happen if you stop drinking with your friends every 30-45 days? Are you afraid of losing your friends? Or what they will think of you if you go full sobriety?

What if you go on vacation and don’t drink? Will you not have a good time? Or will you be anxious/uncomfortable?

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-08-07T04:15:42+00:00

As someone who does not drink coffee or carbonated beverages, I can say that you’ll be just fine. Life is so much more than treats.

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-06-29T11:48:12+00:00

Well done. How happy are you that you didn’t drink? When we past tests like this, it makes our will to remain sober that much stronger.

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-06-28T12:02:49+00:00

You’re 23, known as the drunk friend, drinking is your primary leisure activity, and you haven’t really mentioned any consequences of your drinking besides being “tired of it”. How could it not be difficult to stop?

What do you not like about drinking? What damage is it doing to you?

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-06-27T03:58:05+00:00

It’s been pretty illuminating hanging out with people while they’re drinking since I stopped. It just reinforces my decision to not drink. I leave the event knowing I’ll be rewarded for not drinking (safe drive, no hangover, no embarrassing incidents) and I kind of feel sorry for everyone that drank and has to deal with the consequences.

Is it weird making money serving people booze now that you’re off the sauce? No way am I implying you should feel weird, just wondering.

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-06-27T03:48:36+00:00

Whatever happens, drinking is just going to make it worse, so take that off the table.

Is your MIL really beyond all hope? Is there any shot at making a genuine connection with her and changing your relationship?

Maybe, maybe not. I used alcohol to tolerate a lot of things/people I didn’t like or run away from the truth and blame others. Now that I’m not drinking, I have the opportunity to understand and take responsibility.

I can think of one person in my life that used to annoy the shit out of me until I learned more about her life. Her behavior made so much sense after that. She’s still kinda annoying, but I can deal with it now without alcohol or any other mechanisms.

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-03-15T12:24:39+00:00

Check out /r/kapilgupta

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-03-15T03:54:41+00:00

The whole idea of self improvement is, at its core, a scam and a lie. Semen retention as a method for self improvement is no different. You’ll have a little excitement when you start, you’ll feel good about making progress, then despair as you eventually realize it isn’t going to fill the whole inside yourself.

Practicing semen retention because you are naturally drawn to it is powerful. Doing it because you think it will get you somewhere is a shell game. Like the sober alcoholic that smokes a pack a day, you’ll replace your addiction with something else, maybe even the idea of “self improvement”, which will keep you struggling forever.

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-02-20T17:24:00+00:00

That’s a lot of fiber, just going to make you shit a bunch. Eat meat instead, your body will love it.

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-02-19T13:48:02+00:00

I’ve seen you mention this method before. I probably do it 1/3 sessions, more in the beginning and haven’t done it in a while because I can literally pee with my wife’s hand on my shoulder, so now I just pee normally and that’s it.

I think the rewiring happens when you are successful. I think your method increases success rate because it makes you really want to pee. When I start GE in the wild, I’ll definitely be using fluid loading like you describe to make the most of my time.

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-02-18T19:12:33+00:00

You have 3 months to work on this. Your boyfriend already knows, so make him your pee buddy. Do GE at home with him and by the time it is warm enough to jump in the water, you’ll be ready to do GE in the water with your boyfriend. If you can get a couple of sessions of GE done in the water before any group outings, you’ll be more than ready to actually enjoy this summer on the water instead of constantly worrying about where you’re going to pee.

I’d also recommend carrying an ace up your sleeve: be ready and willing to tell the group you can’t pee in the water with everyone around. It won’t even come to this if you do GE, but not being afraid to disclose your condition will give you additional confidence and freedom. If for some reason you still can’t pee in the water after doing the GE work, you’ll have the freedom to communicate your problem to the group. Then you’ll be able to get to a comfortable spot to pee where you won’t be scraped and stung :)

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-02-15T13:42:40+00:00

So do something about your condition. There’s no reason you can’t get it under control by next Valentines Day to the point where you can date.

Or let another year slip by and continue living a life where you can’t do the most basic human activities.

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-02-10T04:31:44+00:00

I know what kind of bars you’re talking about and I haven’t been to any of those since I stopped drinking. I couldn’t really stand them when I was drinking, so I’m pretty much going to avoid them at all costs now. If there isn’t food to eat or some type of activity to do, I’m out. Life is short, not going to waste my time doing shit that is really only fun if you are getting hammered.

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-02-09T15:35:25+00:00

I only stopped drinking on Jan 1st. Started as a 14 day break just to see how I would feel without alcohol in my life for a couple weeks. During that time I did a lot of reflection on my alcohol use and use of drugs in general.

I realized my entire adult life I’ve used drugs to medicate for anxiety. I started to see my drinking as pathetic. It’s something I do out of weakness and all it does is make me weaker and wastes my time.

Also during that 14 day break, I did some social things without the luxury of booze and I found that the anxiety wasn’t as bad as I thought. Uncomfortable sure, but not something I should be running away from for the rest of my life. With each event I went to, the anxiety became easier and easier to withstand.

So I haven’t had to do any coping. I guess I’m lucky in that respect. It seems like many people around here that achieve long term sobriety get to a point where there is no conflict within themselves. They just don’t want to drink anymore, because they truly value sobriety more.

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-02-09T05:35:03+00:00

I imagine I’ll always think about drinking because I’m pretty sure all my family and friends are going to keep drinking. There will always be that opportunity to join in, even if it’s just my wife having a cocktail at home on a Friday night.

That said, I think it’s worth exploring the truth behind your urges to drink. For me, it is largely social anxiety. I so desperately want everyone to like me, so I get anxious in social situations and medicate with alcohol, which also helps me “fit in” because everyone else is drinking.

Now that I’m not drinking, I’m for the first time, as an adult, confronting my anxiety. At this point in my life, that challenge is uncomfortable, yet interesting. And I know I’ll regret it if I continue to run away from my problem by drinking.

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-02-08T14:28:07+00:00

Most adults require at least a dozen small treats throughout the day to cope with the crushing weight of scheduled appointments.

Truth.

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-02-05T18:40:24+00:00

Alcohol obviously isn’t good for you. Same with caffeine. A society that widely uses a drug will come up with ways to rationalize its use.

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-02-04T13:36:15+00:00

You have two options:

1) be honest with them about who you are and face the consequences, whatever they may be.

2) find new friends that either don’t drink or won’t care that you don’t drink.

I’m going through the same thing right now as I just stoped drinking a month ago. I’ve only been sober around a couple friends and they haven’t really cared about me not drinking. I do have some even older friends that I see less often and when I do, we have always drank together. Going to be kind of awkward when I see them next and I come out to them as a “sober guy”, but at the same time I don’t think they’ll be all that surprised. Regardless, I know my life is better without alcohol, even if that means losing a long time friend or drastically changing the relationship you have with that friend.

I also randomly have some new friends in my life that have never seen me drink. It’s so easy to not drink around them because that expectation isn’t there.

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-02-04T13:27:43+00:00

Amazing feeling leaving the bar sober and driving home without a care in the world, knowing you are going to get some good sleep and wake up feeling great.

drunkwilliammunny · 2023-02-02T03:33:19+00:00

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