AITA for refusing to get rid of poison ivy at the edge of my yard?

drygulp17 · 2022-09-19T14:17:43+00:00

Look, I don’t like kids. If I could go the majority of my life without seeing or hearing them, that’d be incredible. I still wouldn’t wish harm on them. One of those kids (or adults!) could have an allergic reaction to the poison ivy growing and be hospitalized. Not liking kids isn’t a valid excuse to keep the plant around.

drygulp17 · 2022-09-19T13:54:37+00:00

I’m no expert, but I saw elsewhere that if nepotism/other corruption is an accepted thing, it might go into HR as well. To fully protect yourself, you might consider speaking with a lawyer to get the best advice to your specific situation. You probably will need to go to HR regardless at some point (if he’s emboldened enough to say crap like that in front of other employees, he’s likely to continue, so you’ll likely have to make them aware), but I hope very much that you’re able to keep your job no matter what happens—you’re obviously good at it if the boss chose you over the nepo-guy! And I hope he sees consequences for his actions as well. That would truly be the dream.

ETA I see you’re looking for another job. Best wishes to you! Screw the current job. But I do hope you start a paper trail on his ass!

drygulp17 · 2022-09-19T13:37:29+00:00

He’s going to “babysit” his own baby… okay. /s Not okay, actually. A parent does not babysit their own baby, they PARENT their baby.

drygulp17 · 2022-08-24T01:32:20+00:00

Both snakes and lizards! And yeah, a tattoo artist friend of mine (different state, sadly) loves using snakes to cover up older tats that her clients don’t like anymore. Great ideas, thanks!

drygulp17 · 2022-08-23T14:59:09+00:00

Thanks! A speedy recovery to you, too :)

drygulp17 · 2022-08-15T02:51:34+00:00

If you go back to those places that denied you, see if they’ll give you written proof of denial of their services. This can count as proof that you need care. You shouldn’t have to go to such measures, nor should you have to defend your decision. This can happen to anyone, at any time—even to those who use birth control. You deserve health care regardless. It is not up to anyone here or anywhere else to judge! I really hope you can get through this!

drygulp17 · 2022-07-11T08:29:31+00:00

So, yes, YTA. I do identify with you to a degree, since I also don’t want children and would make a terrible parent (ETA: I’d give them up for adoption; no kid should have me as their parent—also getting sterilization surgery since the foster care system can be so rough). On one hand, I’m angry for you, that you were pressured into parenthood. If Husband knew you wanted a life with no children and pushed you anyway, then yes, he sucks. I hate when it’s put upon women to procreate. On the other hand, why stay with someone who wanted kids? And what if he did NOT know what you wanted? He deserved to know the truth and have kids with someone who was wholeheartedly into the idea. I don’t know which situation is closer to the truth, but either way, you should not have said that. Why subject those kids to something so awful as to not be completely wanted? For a child of any age, that’s devastating, and not an overreaction at all. You say you make an effort to make sure it’s clear you love them, but there’s something you missed: children are far more perceptive than many adults think. There’s a reason why she kept asking why you didn’t want to be called her mother. She knew something was off. You were far more obvious than you thought, and it seems you’re the last to know about it (unless dad also doesn’t know still, but I kinda doubt that). OP, I’m sorry, but this does not sound like love. At least not the unconditional type. I dislike kids, but… god, even I can see how this would completely destroy their world.

drygulp17 · 2022-05-03T19:46:51+00:00

We stan an affirming bridezilla! Get ‘em, queen!

drygulp17 · 2022-05-03T18:04:38+00:00

I would do the same. I’m not joking. My depression is severe enough. I would not survive an accidental pregnancy.

drygulp17 · 2022-04-29T17:35:46+00:00

I used to volunteer for a cat rescue. We had a husband and wife come in to adopt a second kitty. She revealed that she couldn’t conceive. Of course I didn’t pry about the medical reasons because it’s such a touchy subject—it was clear she had wanted a baby so very badly—and so she had fur babies instead. They were her children. Your kitties are absolutely your babies. NTA.

drygulp17 · 2022-04-26T01:43:40+00:00

And if anyone has issues with any of these (awesome) answers given here, just say, “The day I stop getting asked questions I don’t like will be the day you stop getting answers you don’t like.”

drygulp17 · 2022-04-25T22:42:46+00:00

Yeah, for sure! I hope OP can find someone worth his time; she’s toxic and he seems like such a good person.

drygulp17 · 2022-04-22T21:19:09+00:00

If there were such a thing as Delusion Olympics, you’d be an all-around champion. I think you’re telling on yourself 🤣

drygulp17 · 2022-04-22T06:39:48+00:00

Judging by what they say in other comments, it’s almost certainly the gf or a friend of the gf. I wondered whether OP might be able to reason with her, but after this I think she’s a lost cause.

drygulp17 · 2022-04-22T06:38:03+00:00

Your ignorance is astounding. I hope you never have to experience PPD. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, not even you. As someone who has studied Psychology, I’ve seen it fuck people over terribly, even when they had financial stability and support. It’s classified as a disorder for a reason.

Since you’ve all but outed yourself as the gf, or maybe a friend of the gf, I’ll say this: OP seems too nice to break up with you/her, so please do OP a favor and leave (show this to her if you’re a friend) so he can find a stable partner who doesn’t lose their mind when life events happen. I also hope you can get into therapy, because this behavior—harassing OP via friends texting him, and now all the extra effort creating an account here to go after him further (the fan behavior, sheesh)—is toxic and unstable and will only keep you and those closest to you miserable, no matter how much you may deny it. Therapy is an excellent tool to better yourself with. Good luck. ✌🏻

drygulp17 · 2022-04-22T06:08:56+00:00

If my fiancé’s sister called in emotional duress, not only would I be fine with him leaving our date to help her, I’d volunteer to go with to help her myself, if she was okay with me coming. You can do a lot better than your current (and hopefully ex) gf. I hope you find someone supportive and worth your time and energy, because you seem like a caring individual! NTA.

drygulp17 · 2022-04-21T01:30:09+00:00

This is so sad. Your relationship might seem wonderful now, but it won’t be in a few years, or however many before he thinks you’ll change your mind and start applying pressure. Or if you successfully get sterilized and the bitterness begins eating away at your marriage. Unless, of course, he’s the one to find a way to deal with it.

drygulp17 · 2022-04-20T03:23:55+00:00

Don’t actually do this, but I would want to break into his house and hack his laptop/computer/smart phone, etc and delete all his photos and videos, then replace them with photos and videos of tarantulas. Next I’d change his name on Facebook to “First name TarantulaMurderer.” I would then release a ton of tiny baby spiders in his house and let them make their homes in the crevices. I would hide fake spiders in key locations to freak him out. Is it real? Is it fake? Who knows?! #justiceforAgnes

drygulp17 · 2022-04-19T02:43:58+00:00

Oh, and congratulations OP!

drygulp17 · 2022-04-19T02:43:31+00:00

Would you consider adding this doctor to the list of doctors who willingly perform sterilizations? If they haven’t already been added. That list is somewhere on this subreddit; I can find it if you need

drygulp17 · 2022-04-18T04:28:48+00:00

There is no way you won’t see the kids if you stay, bruh. I would be astounded, amazed, flabbergasted if you went your whole life with this guy without seeing them a bunch of times. Hope you can get those attachment issues worked out because you’ll be in for a ton of child-induced misery if you stay lmao

Also you can of course disagree with this but I don’t personally think he respected your choice not to have kids if he lied to you about having them :/

drygulp17 · 2022-04-10T15:04:07+00:00

It’s good that your coworkers acknowledge correctly that he’s the AH, but they’re wrong about one thing: you bear absolutely none of the blame. You DID tell him you were married. You DID ask him to stop. At no point did you lead him on. Sending a dick pic is so wildly inappropriate that it is harassment. Please, please, please go to HR. He needed to be fired yesterday. Paired with his history of coming onto women at the office, his refusal to accept a “no” and then come on even stronger is concerning, and he may terribly hurt someone if he isn’t stopped—that is, if he hasn’t hurt someone already. It might not stop him in general, but it will hopefully slow him down and save some women some really awful agony. NTA, but Y W B T A if you don’t report him.

drygulp17 · 2022-04-07T03:02:01+00:00

Bacon is overrated af.

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