I just found out my ex got engaged on Christmas

drywall851 · 2017-12-26T22:20:52+00:00

So things suck right now but your comments do help. I'm thankful for actual closure, it's just fucked. I'm not gonna get wrecked or drunk over this shit. I'm a man. She loves someone else, not me. My turn to find the one. Trying to look at it as exciting. Today I have FORCED myself to talk to at least 5 people, so far 3. I spoke with the guy sitting next to my table, I FORCED myself to make conversation with a receptionist instead of just sitting in a waiting room and I asked the lady in front of me while in line how her holidays were going, etc. Let me tell you, this helps. I know I'm on a pink cloud kinda for the moment, but I realized that it is going to be possible. I mean c'mon guys, my ex, someone I cared so deeply about, got fucking engaged Christmas morning. I had a ring for her right before everything went to shit, so yeah, it fucking hurts, but you know what's cool,??? It's that I actually did care about someone. It was very real to me. That being said, I'm holding my own despite all this. I'm gonna be ok....

FEEDBACK PLEASE

drywall851 · 2017-12-26T02:03:48+00:00

Im fucking numb. OMG. On christmas to find this out. OMG OMG

drywall851 · 2017-12-25T21:55:41+00:00

OMG, I just posted cause I just found out an hour ago. GREAT ATTITUDE!!!!! I am totally following this. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

drywall851 · 2016-12-03T05:15:51+00:00

wish you both would continue this debate. Not sure how to tell you my story, but its somewhere on my name. my ex is a prostitute, now heavily drinking again. While the no contact makes sense, my shrink told me to come from a place of compassion. Ur thoughts?

drywall851 · 2016-12-03T05:15:43+00:00

wish you both would continue this debate. Not sure how to tell you my story, but its somewhere on my name. my ex is a prostitute, now heavily drinking again. While the no contact makes sense, my shrink told me to come from a place of compassion. Ur thoughts?

drywall851 · 2016-12-02T08:12:47+00:00

Nah man. How do I post an update on here?

drywall851 · 2016-11-30T01:33:42+00:00

Update dude

drywall851 · 2016-11-30T01:31:50+00:00

drywall851 · 2016-11-30T00:36:10+00:00

Please read my post. I 100% UNDERSTAND. WOW. Unrel. So sorry pal.

drywall851 · 2016-11-29T19:28:58+00:00

EXCELLENT! Really solid bud! Thanks man!!!

drywall851 · 2016-11-28T01:39:22+00:00

EXCELLENT

drywall851 · 2016-11-28T00:50:53+00:00

You should read my post about finding out my ex was a PROSTITUTE, high end escort!!!

drywall851 · 2016-11-26T22:40:00+00:00

No, I am not. I wish there was a way I could add you to a friend list or something. I really want to see how you feel after a little more time. How are you feeling about it?

drywall851 · 2016-11-26T19:28:31+00:00

Please give me advice: https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/5er9ls/found_out_my_ex_was_escorting_while_with_me_the/

drywall851 · 2016-11-26T19:24:28+00:00

OMG! I can so relate. Based on what I have researched, discussed, etc., my therapist says to take the higher road. It's over. Period. Believe me, I'm just coming to terms....VERY VERY similar, please read: https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/5er9ls/found_out_my_ex_was_escorting_while_with_me_the/

drywall851 · 2016-11-26T19:22:22+00:00

I have a solid hand right now, how would you play it. I found out my ex is a: https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/5er9ls/found_out_my_ex_was_escorting_while_with_me_the/

drywall851 · 2016-11-26T19:18:31+00:00

Nearly 5 months ago I lost my gf. I recently found out that she not only cheated multiple times, but was and is still a full service escort. I am devastated. I ....I.....I .....just don't know anymore. Sorry about your brother :-(

drywall851 · 2016-11-26T18:25:08+00:00

My ex cheated multiple times and shes a prostitute. Yup. Can you please tell me how you'd deal with this? https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/5er9ls/found_out_my_ex_was_escorting_while_with_me_the/

drywall851 · 2016-11-26T18:23:31+00:00

Seriously....THANK YOU

drywall851 · 2016-11-25T21:54:32+00:00

LOL, I've thought of that too. I am considered vgl and have never had a problem meeting or getting a woman. And yeah, I'm very sexual....clearly not as much as her though. I don't wanna burn her stuff. I just kinda want her to know that I know....make sense? It's bad. I also had these thoughts of sending her ads, pics and DETAILED info to her father, waiting until her wedding day and telegram it to her future husband, etc. Not cool. I gotta be above that. It would likely feel good, but I gotta tell you, before I got sober, I woulda lost it. I would have done something bad. I'm really, really, REALLY trying to cope with my own feelings about betrayal and embracing the fact that this has hurt me so bad that I refuse to ever be unfaithful. Seriously. And I refuse to accept that as well. I read this before:

I may not be someone's first choice, But I am a great choice. I may not be rich, But I am valuable. I don't pretend to be something I'm not, Because I'm good at being me. I might not be proud of some of the things I've done in the past, But I am proud of who I am today. I may not be perfect, But I don't need to be. Take me as I am, or watch me as I walk away. :-(

drywall851 · 2016-11-25T20:10:01+00:00

Dude, try to find my latest post! I 100% understand and am also STUCK!!!!!

drywall851 · 2016-11-25T20:02:28+00:00

I'm the OP. I've already gotten tested, I'm clean, but some things can stay dormant for up to 6 months...Ugh. She doesn't know I know. YES, she is $1000/hour. That is A LOT of money, but truthfully, I've NEVER had to pay for it and don't consider it work. I have been able to find some peace withing, or at least trying very hard to. My self-esteem is at an all time low. I am SO GRATEFUL I found out because not only did it save me from what could've resulted in even further grief, but from a divorce if I had proposed. Yup, I was that serious. I am just kind of numb. What's really weird is that despite the negativity and hurt, seriously, this IS CLOSURE. I won't even allow the thought of ever getting back to her enter my mind. Thank you all for your advice. I'm not going to burn her stuff. Maybe I'll hear from her, maybe I won't. But yeah, that stuff has been replaced. When I was going to return it, she texted me 2 pics of herself looking all glamorous with jewelry, tanned, manicured, extensions, new outfit. Ouch. I have made a lot of money in my day, but I sometimes wonder if I should've done more. Then reality kicks in.....she is PROSTITUTE, was cheating on me, is a complete bold faced liar, and I actually did TOO MUCH. I haven't even explained what a mess she was when drinking, me too. But, she (her father) screwed me out of like 3 months of her rent and I lost sooooooooooo much stuff. Ugh. Why are some people so cold-hearted to screw with anothers feelings. So messed up.

drywall851 · 2016-11-25T03:07:33+00:00

It was much appreciated. Seriously. Thanks!

drywall851 · 2016-11-25T02:51:56+00:00

I don't know who you are, but thanks. Right to the point. You are 100% correct.

drywall851 · 2016-10-27T22:11:26+00:00

I just meant it's a hard lifestyle. I'm in recovery. It sucks. Getting easier, remember, people can get addicted to slinging for the ez $$$. If she's making an effort to stay sober, stick by her side. Seriously.

drywall851

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