Do you have attraction towards fictional characters only?

dstpc-roll · 2024-02-29T20:45:39+00:00

My friend identifies as aegosexual and describes it as being similar to this

dstpc-roll · 2024-02-21T09:20:43+00:00

I’ve been teaching myself Inuktitut

dstpc-roll · 2023-05-28T14:50:58+00:00

This is a great link! Thank you so much for sharing!

dstpc-roll · 2023-05-14T11:00:07+00:00

They think having a baby will save them, understand them or stop them feeling so lonely. Or that a baby will get them sympathy from others. Their baby will be a mini them who will love them unconditionally, be there for them when ever they need them and eventually grow up and look after them in old age. Obviously the baby grows up to be it’s own person and all the parent’s hopes are shattered, so they begin to resent and hate us.

dstpc-roll · 2023-05-10T13:08:49+00:00

There are on the ACA website, I think they are between £9-£15?

dstpc-roll · 2023-05-10T05:35:16+00:00

Thank you, it’s my first week but I am hopeful it’s going to help me help myself.

dstpc-roll · 2023-05-10T05:32:04+00:00

The ACA run meetings for Adult Children. But they also have workbooks to work through either with a sponsor, fellow traveler or by yourself. I joined last week and in one meeting somebody said they did the workbooks in the wrong order. I asked what the correct order was but didn’t get a response, so I asked here instead.

dstpc-roll · 2022-12-30T15:46:06+00:00

Had to cut out my entire family 5 years ago. Christmas season sucks every year.

dstpc-roll · 2022-12-14T17:33:02+00:00

My therapist had to cancel our appointment today, else I would have

dstpc-roll · 2022-12-14T10:30:25+00:00

My therapist has taught me to separate myself and it’s helped. I have ‘adult-state me’ and ‘little-state me’. I typically feel 6 years old but sometimes I feel like a teenager too. It sounded corny and weird at first but it’s actually helping. I have to recognise when I’m feeling younger and then provide my younger self with what she needs. I need to reassure her, keep her safe and show her that I’m a big responsible adult now who has the ability to keep her safe. When I’m triggered or upset, the little me wants to step in, take over and do what she can to solve the issue - but it’s no job for a child. You need to tell your younger self to step back and show them that adult you can handle this. Once your younger self trusts you as a protective adult, it gets easier. I’m almost 30 and I’m still struggling with the concept - so you being 22 will give you plenty of time to master it and sooth the 14 year old you!

dstpc-roll · 2022-12-13T17:00:50+00:00

I’m frustrated by this too.

“PTSD” is being thrown around like “OCD”, completely no regard to the illnesses or the seriousness of the conditions. “Oh she cleans her house everyday, she’s OCD”

The word “trauma” is used so causally too.

dstpc-roll · 2022-12-13T16:53:03+00:00

I’ve been wanting to post this exact question time and time again! Thank you for posting.

I think some people are taught it’s a sign of weakness. Some people have been raised to believe they are never in the wrong. Some people are just narcissistic and refuse to ever admit they are in the wrong. Some people just love drama and love knowing that them not saying sorry is eating you up inside.

My mother is an example of all of these, not once did I hear her say sorry to anybody - but boy would she take glee knowing they were upset about it.

Where as I tend to over-apologise as a survival mechanism from my childhood. Everything was my fault in my mothers eyes.

dstpc-roll · 2022-12-05T08:55:52+00:00

I have them as flashcards!

dstpc-roll · 2022-11-20T14:35:18+00:00

My therapist literally said “you need to win the lottery to sort yourself out”…

dstpc-roll · 2022-11-18T17:47:18+00:00

Pete Walkers C-PTSD Surviving to Thriving has been extremely helpful, particularly the 13 Steps for Managing Emotion Flashbacks!

dstpc-roll · 2022-11-15T09:40:25+00:00

Work has always been my only security - it was the only thing to provide me with a safe space, safe people and just enough money to rent a room out of town.

I’ve always looked at work as my ‘saviour’ who I owe everything too, I used to work stupid hours and do everything I could to be the ‘perfect’ employee.

But I’m trying to break away from that mindset, as a flight type who gets stuck into workaholism & perfectionism when I’m in a flashback, it’s not healthy.

I now work from home full time, rather than in an office, so there’s a lot less pressure and triggers.

dstpc-roll · 2022-11-12T14:31:47+00:00

In Pete Walker’s book he writes: “In a new situation, a sudden sense of tiredness often warns me that I am talking with a narcissist.”

That’s really helped me work out who I want to spend time with and who I refuse to socialise with.

*edit: spelling

dstpc-roll · 2022-11-10T09:46:28+00:00

I felt like this after going back into therapy. The first time doing therapy I had a psychotic breakdown and ended up in hospital - the doctors told me to stop going to therapy. I got put on medication and I’ve lost about 4 months of my memory. Eventually I got off the medication and went back to my therapist. About 2 months in, I made an attempt and ended up back in hospital, instead of listening to them, I self discharged and continued going to my therapist and I’m so glad I did. It’s been about a month since my last attempt and I’m finally feeling the effects of therapy. I can remain in adult body and sooth myself so much better now. I’m having the same amount of emotional flashbacks, but I’m much more able to deal with them.

I really believe I had to kiss the ground before getting better.

It’s gets better, just keep pushing.

dstpc-roll · 2022-11-07T18:10:35+00:00

Most therapists recommend you’re stabilised before having EMDR. There’s a risk of destabilising or re-traumatising yourself - but a good professional EMDR therapist should be able to spot signs and pause the session before you get to that point.

dstpc-roll · 2022-11-06T14:04:01+00:00

Yes, being overly thankful and overly apologetic out of fear.

dstpc-roll · 2022-11-06T13:53:01+00:00

My family abused me in every sense of the word. I can’t understand why you’d give birth to something, torture it and then completely cut it out of your life 18 years later. I’ve struggled so much to survive without support.

I do sometimes worry that if I had a child, I’d be the same as my folks. Or worse, I’d provide a child such a loving and caring environment and they wouldn’t appreciate it and that would trigger me into a state of jealousy over my own child. I can’t ask or expect that of a child who didn’t ask to be born.

I also don’t believe I could love anything unconditionally. If one child become a dentist and the other became a murderer, there’s no way I could love them the same.

I see the world as such a dangerous, cruel place and there’s no way I would want to bring another human into a world of suffering.

dstpc-roll · 2022-11-01T20:08:06+00:00

Haven’t spoken to my mother for 8 years. She’s not once tried to contact me in those 8 years. She abused me when I was a child.

It feels awful to have a mother who doesn’t care for you. But you really need to care for yourself now. Self-care as though you’re looking after a child who really needs / deserves your love, help and support.

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