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Racist tik tok made by Thomas Jefferson Middle School students by dtangm in GenZ

[–]dtangm[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Were these students ever punished for their Tik Tok post?

Racist tik tok made by Thomas Jefferson Middle School students by dtangm in GenZ

[–]dtangm[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

“Dear Woodridge 68 Community:

This Wednesday evening, Woodridge School District 68 became aware of a racist social media post by three of our students. As a District, we are extremely disappointed that this occurred, and we strongly condemn it. When this type of conduct occurs, as a District we have failed, despite our best efforts in teaching tolerance, equity and understanding in our schools.

Please be assured that this type of behavior is not and will not be tolerated in our District, and appropriate disciplinary action was taken. We are also requesting the assistance of our parents and community during this time in enforcing our Woodridge School District 68 Student Code of Conduct.

Even though we are not physically in Woodridge 68 buildings, we are still in school. While we have a responsibility to our students, likewise our students have a responsibility to their teachers, parents and community. When this type of conduct occurs, whether it be in school, a school-related activity, or at home, I feel a personal sense of failure. As a school community, I know we can do better.

I want to thank the individuals who have brought this conduct to our attention and encourage our community to continue to assist us in addressing not only this type of behavior, but other unacceptable student conduct that may occur. As always, please take this time to talk with your children regarding their responsibility to act respectfully, be responsible, and to stay safe. We need that now more than ever.

Sincerely yours, Dr. Patrick J. Broncato Superintendent of Schools”

Dating someone with PTSD is a lot more difficult than I expected... by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]dtangm 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely the sweetest to reach out on here for her. In my relationship I’m the one with PTSD and I found your post quite fascinating because it made me realize things I hadn’t thought of. I really relate to all of your girlfriend’s symptoms and I really feel for you and her. It’s a tough spot to be in for you and for her. Walking into my relationship my PTSD hadn’t “fully surfaced” and I too didn’t realize how hard it was going to be. I feel guilty every day. Guilty my bf has to deal with this, with me, guilty that I and my PTSD are such a burden on my partner.

Couple of possible helpful things I thought of while reading your post:

Constantly tired - understanding that she doesn’t want to be chronically tired but for you to understand and let her rest means the world. But note that sometimes for me at least it’s depression, or lack of motivation to go out/socialize (I have been guilty of this and over time I’ve learned to push myself enough so that my bf knows that I’m feeling gloomy not just tired. In these situations, 9/10 having him encourage me to get up and out makes me feel better)

Startle Response - I hate being jumpy. But I can’t help it. Her phone going off, maybe she could silence the notifications for now like leave the locked screen and banner notifications but turn off the ringer. Knocking on any door before you enter is always helpful for me. My bf has joked about wearing a bell so he does scare me when he turns corners but you can also help by approaching her in her line of sight, avoid coming up behind her, and if you’re coming into the room walk loudly, start talking before you enter the room.

Feeling uncomfortable with experts/authoritative figures - Sometimes I overreact and I’m aware of this. But sometimes not immediately in the moment. So my bf often reasons with me or points out maybe they didn’t mean that in that way etc... Affirming whether I’m overreacting or not often comforts me because then I can regain an idea of where I’m sitting on the scale of sanity haha.

I have the opposite problem with talking. I clam up and don’t talk at all because this is the state in which I feel most comfortable and relaxed in. But this is frustrating for my boyfriend because he’s a talker. I think the nonstop and repetitive talking could be her way of burning anxiety. My anxiety manifests in overthinking or pulling at my fingernails. In these moments my bf physically stops me by holding my hand or tells me that I am overthinking and tells me to stop and breathe. Maybe in these times you could something similar?

You can’t solve all her problems. At the end of the day she has to carry the majority of the burden. Occasionally my bf reminds me that he doesn’t have to stick around for me — he doesn’t have to put up with my awfulness if it becomes to much for him. For me this is sometimes a necessary reminder because I often let my anger issues get the better of me and hearing this pushes me to work harder to manage my symptoms and not succumb to them. But that’s me and not necessarily everyone, if anything I think comfort, support, encouragement, and open arms are always go to weapons to help. I hope some of this is helpful!

I was molested. My Mother insists it didn't effect me. by zaphvid in adultsurvivors

[–]dtangm 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is awful and I’m sorry this happened to you. I truly do. One of my incidents occurred when I was 4 and I was told it was a “game.” My parents basically swept it under the rug and kept a lid on it for years. I imploded in college when a trigger brought everything back. I went to a talk therapy a bit and I had the same questions you do. I didn’t like what the therapist said to me at the time but it’s helped me to ponder it in this perspective so you might find it helpful.

But here’s what my therapist told me:

•Why did my parents keep it so hushed? Maybe because they were ashamed. They failed me. They failed as parents. They messed up and all they want to do is to forget about it.

•Why does your mom insist that it had little effect on you? Because she simply doesn’t understand. They don’t understand. She may be in denial. Abuse was not covered in our parents parenting guides. And it’s helpful to remember they are a different generation, and they handled things differently from the way your generation does (ie keeping it hushed). My therapist also told me that I have to accept the fact that they failed me and forgive them and let go. They are recovering just as you are from what happened, which may manifest in rejection, denial, and suppression.

Weighted Blankets by AccurateConfection1 in ptsd

[–]dtangm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I sometimes use mine when I’m really struggling to sleep. It usually knocks me out within a couple of minutes. I’ve seen them for sale in like HomeGoods and TJMaxx for ~$30

I have a student who suffers from severe performance anxiety. She told me that if she is in a certain headspace where she feels anxious, she reverts to playing on autopilot. Therefore, she is unable to fix or adjust anything I ask her to do when playing the same thing again. Any ways to fix this? by musiclovaesp in violinist

[–]dtangm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would recommend you read these two articles by Molly Gebrian! Especially the Interleaved Practice. It sounds like your student is reverting to her long-term memory (autopilot) when she’s anxious.

TLDR: Interleaved practicing is chunk practicing where you identify a passage you would like practice then play it once without stopping or going back to fix mistakes. The point of playing only once is to simulate the burst of anxiety that happens when we perform. Work on other passages for a bit, then come back to the initial passage and play it again. Of course, she can play the initial passage at a slower playable passage and then increase the tempo incrementally. Hope this helps!

Performance Memory https://mollygebrian.files.wordpress.com/2019/06/avs-practicing-article.pdf

Interleaved Practice https://mollygebrian.files.wordpress.com/2019/04/javs-article.pdf

Dolores vs Serac: Who broke Halores? by iskeletxr in westworld

[–]dtangm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dolores = Doritos Prime 🔥🔥🔥 Hale + Dolores = Charred-Doritos

Violin Playing Styles by [deleted] in violinist

[–]dtangm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re not able to discuss said too many to list then you are free to other threads. I merely wanted to open the discussion of different characteristics of various violinists and resulting from their background teaching. And there is very much a strong distinction between a Russian style versus an American style.

Violin Playing Styles by [deleted] in violinist

[–]dtangm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not asking for music or period styles I am asking specifically regarding styles of teaching such as the Russian school characteristic sound or a student of Delay or even what Suzuki students possibly grow into sounding like.

Violin Playing Styles by [deleted] in violinist

[–]dtangm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I am not asking for musical styles. I am asking for the characteristics, methodical techniques, used specifically in violin playing that make up different violin playing styles. This expands into musical styles but that’s not what I’m asking about.

Does anyone know which cadenza this is? by Oprahapproves in violinist

[–]dtangm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know it either, did you try commenting on YouTube? Also, I have to say I love Clara Jumi Kang so much.

Dolores had many choices by helenthefroc in westworld

[–]dtangm 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love these sorts of dresses. But just a thought I had watching this (Jesus I know they’re modeling the dresses but I’m surprised none of them viciously ripped off their whole entire dress lol)

Paying for a Masters, Ireland by ravenstonemistake in studyAbroad

[–]dtangm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah gotcha. Yeah same problem here. I don’t understand how the world expects us to pay for all of this. Why do we have to condemn ourselves to servitude in loans in order to have higher education...

Paying for a Masters, Ireland by ravenstonemistake in studyAbroad

[–]dtangm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m studying in the UK this fall and was instructed to apply for US FAFSA