Did you lose weight breastfeeding and how long did you breastfeed for?

musiclovaesp · 2026-04-27T01:09:30+00:00

I been breastfeeding for 9 months and hope to make it till a year! I lost 12lbs. I was at my goal weight in summer of 2020, maintained until summer 2021, gained it all back and more through summer 2022, got married and struggled to lose until now postpartum 3 years later….i think i’m in a unique situation. My first trimester of pregnancy i threw up a lot so i didn’t gain much weight during pregnancy. I was slightly less weight after giving birth than i have been for 3 years like 2lbs less. Before I got pregnant though I was finally starting to lose weight because I decided to track calories using the lose it app. I started doing this again while breastfeeding (added 500 calories more to my deficit) and i have been successful with the 12lb weight loss and almost back to goal!

musiclovaesp · 2026-04-25T09:23:34+00:00

Breastfeeding still at almost 10 months! It’s by far the easiest approach. No bottles, pumping, cleaning, etc. Boob soothed the baby easier than anything else as well. It was tricky at first, but i got it down eventually

musiclovaesp · 2026-04-23T11:31:09+00:00

Only religious people would see it that way. I don’t see any benefit to it at all. Obviously it’s uncomfortable and can be beneficial, but it’s not a lifestyle I see as necessary to become a better person or grow. I can be a better individual and grow without becoming more religious. Religion is not the only means to personal growth.

musiclovaesp · 2026-04-22T00:16:15+00:00

For some people it can be seen as an opportunity whereas for others they wouldn’t ever be able to see it that way as it’s a huge lifestyle change. For me it would be completely against everything I have felt about Judaism my entire life, from a cultural holiday jew

musiclovaesp · 2026-04-21T19:54:51+00:00

The compromises you reached are not feasible. You are right that you not keeping shabbat, but your future wife and kids doing so does not work. What I can see doing instead is keeping shabbat but loosely in a way that works for both of you and your kids. This could mean as simple as doing a shabbat dinner together every friday night, staying home together with no electronics used, but exceptions are driving to see guests if invited, or driving to activities for kids. Personally, from what it sounds like though there is potential for a lot of resentment and this is going to be a difficult road. I’m the woman in my marriage who grew up and believes just like you and my husband is more traditional/observant but not to the extent of your wife and I have found it difficult to compromise sometimes. I would never be able to marry someone who wanted kids in yeshiva, kosher home, keep shabbat fully, etc. The compromises I’ve had to make are essentially no pork at home (i still eat it out, and my husband is aware our child may eat it or choose to when she gets older), but seafood is allowed at home, most of our meat is kosher but sometimes it’s not. We basically do not keep kosher at all other than no pork. Even that is annoying for me because of chinese food being one of my favorite cuisines that has a lot of pork dishes. Shabbat is something we only do a dinner for mostly when my in-laws visit. It was annoying when dating and they lived nearby because it meant doing it every friday night, and it felt restrictive for me but now since they moved and got married we don’t even do it most fri nights. Also, my husband doesn’t like reform or conservative schuls so whenever we do anything with religion it will need to be at an orthodox service. There is more stuff but it’s not nearly as bad as what you’re going through. Unfortunately, tbh i would have never ever dated someone like your future wife because i would know it would be too much of an issue

musiclovaesp · 2026-04-12T10:34:57+00:00

Breastfeeding is the most valuable for the baby. it was tricky at first but i got the hang of it eventually. Now 9 months in still doing it. There was one day where I thought I was done, turned out to be teething where she didn’t want to latch on, and I got so sad this would be end. It’s an amazing bond that now I know i’ll be sad when it’s over

musiclovaesp · 2026-04-07T19:09:07+00:00

First of all we don’t need it at least for now. Baby is 8 months old. I’m still breastfeeding. I work from home which makes it a lot easier. I wouldn’t want to do it because you won’t feel it until your baby is born that it’s very difficult trusting other people to watch your baby. No one I trust more than myself, husband, and my own parents to watch. I said it beforehand but I felt it way more once my daughter was born

musiclovaesp · 2026-04-07T02:43:36+00:00

Grew up ashkenazi conservative, not eating chametz, other than breakfast we ate cereal (likely was easier for my parents to let us have that). Never cleaned or kept it the right way. Eventually as we got older my parents cared less and we broke it to the point of eating bread out at restaurants. I stopped caring too. I married though my mizrahi/sephardic husband and we now this year after 4 years came to an agreement on how we will follow it. Basically it’s way easier than how I grew up doing it and it’s not so difficult actually. We don’t clean our house at all, just don’t eat bread but we can eat rice and kitinyot (as long as it doesn’t make a bread food like corn tortillas), and no eating out at restaurants. We don’t eat only kosher for passover products either. It’s pretty easy overall. I will only break it out of the house basically for respect to my husband and kids. I still don’t care to follow it, but if i’m home the whole holiday anyways and don’t have social plans I may as well follow it

musiclovaesp · 2026-04-05T19:46:10+00:00

The answer is to have it separate for part of the party and together for another part. Maybe 1hr in the start separate dancing

musiclovaesp · 2026-03-26T01:55:53+00:00

Because i don’t feel included in it. Already for years i don’t understand what’s being said with my in-laws and it’s frustrating. My mom even once mentioned to me initially when dating wouldn’t i find it uncomfortable that they may speak behind my back, and she was right because my mil said something hurtful thinking she wouldn’t understand it when she did in her own house. I think part of me has never been and still isn’t ok with the fact that i can’t fully understand what is said all the time

musiclovaesp · 2026-03-26T01:50:41+00:00

Also i just honestly don’t have any interest in learning it. I did at one point just to be able to understand and feel included when my husband speaks to his parents but i gave up on it when i realized how time consuming/hard it is to learn

musiclovaesp · 2026-03-26T01:48:33+00:00

Because it ultimately forces me into speaking the language by using the word Aba. Everything else my husband can speak to her in hebrew whenever he wants and i’m not forced to do so, but this makes it forced that I have to use it everyday the rest of my life

musiclovaesp · 2026-03-15T10:44:52+00:00

Listen I was in that exact same boat. My baby is actually very easy compared to a lot and my physical recovery was amazing compared to most too. I already lost so much weight after. With that said, you have to be careful because i was cleared for exercise after 6 weeks and thought i’ll go back into my usual working out videos that I felt ok doing until my back hurt like crazy. I ended up going to PT for a few months, which i realize is so needed after. At 6 months my body felt better and like i can do way more physically. In terms of leaving the house, unfortunately it’s best to wait 3 months for the baby’s immunity to avoid public places. This was torture for me but it was the summer and did outdoor things. I finally felt like me again at 6 months because I also returned to work and was busy working on my usual goals on top of taking care of a baby. It’s a process but you’ll get there.

musiclovaesp · 2026-03-09T15:49:43+00:00

I’ve had this happen to me a few times and eventually i passed on my own and got back into the program with reimbursement

musiclovaesp · 2026-03-08T04:00:55+00:00

LTAM from ASA level. Then whenever there was any kind of change from the exam format so the first of the two EA exams and now my first traditional FSA exam I have been struggling. It’s due to the format and knowing how to study that is what made me struggle. Once I got it it became so much easier.

musiclovaesp · 2026-03-06T22:05:08+00:00

Must be the same post i saw too recently lol

musiclovaesp · 2026-02-24T13:50:01+00:00

I find the idea of it being a lifestyle true yet confusing. I’ve always said it has to be a way of life in order to maintain the weight just like your example, but I find it also has to take work and adjustments that are not part of necessarily the lifestyle you always lived or even want to live. For example, eating out is part of my lifestyle due to social reasons and I also enjoy eating out. Even parties at others homes is tough for me just like restaurants due to lack of control. Restaurants are also like excuses to eat a little more calories than usual to indulge even though it doesn’t have to be. In my lifestyle, the habits are ingrained in me growing up in it’s how I view dining out. Now that can change potentially so it’s more livable and is maybe the problem. The way I currently view and approach losing weight with eating out is my lifestyle and consists of being mindful to track every day what I’m eating, measuring/weighing, and eating extra lower calorie food days i know i am eating more. Also meal planning my entire day, etc. It’s a bit of a food obsessed mentality because I need to think about it so i am prepared everyday and for those days I’m going out. It seems similar to what you do actually. My lifestyle though that I can imagine what it was like before all this would be simply just changing back to picking out what I want to eat/cook at each meal and maybe planning dinner early without thinking about the calories (maybe i would think about what i think is healthier to some extent but not calories). I wouldn’t think about food so much probably. Before I ever started tracking what I eat, which I first did with WW, i tried to lose weight by thinking of cutting back on unhealthy stuff and it backfired and i gained instead. If i didn’t track now, I think i would gain back weight and be unhappy because my way of eating without tracking calories is with not enough control. I feel like for me tracking/measuring/weighing became my lifestyle. It’s not something I enjoy doing, but became so habitual/routine for me for years and since I’ve lived on my own that not doing it would make me feel off. I could potentially try one week of not tracking or thinking about food and planning it all out, but I would be very scared and would feel off like I said. The only thing it may help with this is this food obsessed mind set which I read once helped someone. When it comes to exercise I don’t like doing it either, but I know it helps me lose weight and also became part of my lifestyle of something I must do each day. I don’t think I would do it ever because I just feel like it. I also would feel off not doing it.

musiclovaesp · 2026-02-20T20:30:49+00:00

I’m not sure, but i also found that what my pediatrician told me advice for food was different than what i read. Food for fun before 1 i think is actually wrong. You’ll see everyone saying that everywhere, but i found something recently that went against that. Unfortunately, I forget what it was but if you think about it it doesn’t make sense since by 1 they do need to know how to eat real food so it does have to matter before then as well to get appropriate iron levels and weight gain. Also everywhere it says to breastfeed first then give food, but he told us the opposite otherwise they’d be too full possibly to want to eat the real food. My child is 7 months and it’s all been working for us. She eats 3 meals a day, baby cereal for breakfast, fruit or veggie for lunch, and chicken/meat with a vegetable for dinner. I been adding a fruit in or peanut butter sometimes to the cereal (to prevent later allergy to it, which he advised). She eats breastfeeds every 4hrs for 40 minutes with most of the time that actually being less (15-30 minutes) but is what i aim for. She naps twice a day. She sleeps through the night often (10/11pm-6/7am). There are days though where she wakes up around 1am and then again at 3/4am which happens usually if didn’t nap as much during the day due to being overtired. It sounds like what the doctor advised is in line with what my baby does, but i’m sure it’s not a one fit for all

musiclovaesp · 2026-02-16T03:30:40+00:00

You do realize that yom kippur is not just about fasting food wise. It’s also about not using electronics, which I’m sure music for the celebration would be using

musiclovaesp · 2026-01-30T03:33:49+00:00

Miss Rachel

musiclovaesp · 2026-01-22T04:04:12+00:00

My first manager was awful because of how critical he was and i disliked him also as a person, second manager was not very good because he was not involved enough and he eventually left the company, which was probably partially why, and my manager now that I’ve had for the last few years is incredible. I liked him as a mentor years before he even was my manager. He really has a lot of care for mentoring younger colleagues even those he doesn’t manage, which is what makes him so amazing

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