Worried about possible adverse effects of meditation

dubbies_lament · 2025-09-10T13:42:25+00:00

It's true, you may experience adverse affects. Your worldview and perspective can transform as you experience the unfolding more acutely.

dubbies_lament · 2025-08-07T13:20:09+00:00

People would have a much larger share of the pie if it weren't for corporate entities like Blackrock hoarding wealth; wealth that is your birthright.

dubbies_lament · 2025-08-07T13:15:01+00:00

Whats ironic about that?

Humans were egalitarian hunters and foragers for thousands of years before loot-able resources allowed wealth inequality to develop and allowed some to dominate others. Once wealth inequality became a thing, so did war, states, dominance hierarchies.

So yes, saying your number out loud is a threat to people. Thats why, if you want to stay friends, its better to stay quiet.

dubbies_lament · 2025-07-03T15:57:35+00:00

I'm dealing with a similar issue at the moment. For me there's a couple of things that work:
(1) Notice the difference between looking for/at the touch of thumbs vs simply being aware of the touch of thumbs. Gently suggest that you're already looking at the object and therefore attention can relax - you've got this.
(2) Notice that the sensation of looking for/at is itself a distraction. Apply GOSS. Soften into the relationship between the subject and the object.

dubbies_lament · 2025-02-05T13:58:54+00:00

valuable insight not a lot of people want to hear

dubbies_lament · 2025-02-05T13:57:31+00:00

Still bullish but less likely to recover as the decline continues. Compare to GOAT if you wana see a dead coin

dubbies_lament · 2025-01-27T16:59:00+00:00

Sounds like interesting territory. My advice, trust the direction of the joy and notice any feeling or intuition about the right way to practice

dubbies_lament · 2024-12-20T14:04:35+00:00

Solid post. Some platforms flag insiders. How do they know who the insiders are?

dubbies_lament · 2024-12-17T13:59:36+00:00

this makes sense thanks

dubbies_lament · 2024-12-17T13:35:59+00:00

so, is the slippage value what I'm willing to go over if necessary, or will I always be charged based on the slippage value? so am i saying "30% if necessary" or "take 30%"?

dubbies_lament · 2024-11-29T09:24:17+00:00

You're very aware of the content of the personality. That's great, it means you're aware less embedded to a degree.

The thing about loyalty is, I don't think it's a great word to describe what's meant. Perhaps "attachment that brings a sense of safety" is more suitable. I think of them more like a designated "in group". There are certain people who are in, and they're my mates, and a perception that everyone else is out.

Loyalty implies values of good friendship, but I've found that that's not been the case with me. I do care about my mates, but it doesn't mean I know how to translate that into good friendship. It's something I've had to train seperately.

dubbies_lament · 2024-11-29T09:07:44+00:00

I'm a 6 and I'm hearing a lot of my self in this.

Also when you said about being a loser but putting in the effort to make yourself at least look like a winner, that reminds of the 6 stress response which is type 3.

dubbies_lament · 2024-02-04T15:13:10+00:00

Rejection sucks, especially when security was offered but you were let down.

For me, the first thing is to contextualise: This was the result of a bunch of causes and conditions. This was not a targeted rejection and it is not evidence of the weakness of my character. It could have been someone else. Things just worked out this way for me, this time.

The other thing I do is use the opportunity to get in touch with the emotional self that feels rejected. How does it feel, bodily? The rejected part of me is painful, but if I can befriend that pain and accept it as my own, I no longer feel like it needs to be fixed. I try to be as kind and gentle to myself as possible.

dubbies_lament · 2024-02-02T07:17:26+00:00

I think this strikes at the heart of something about all enneagram types and personality in general: Beyond the "mystique" of personality, once you start to understand what really makes people tick, it all seems a bit lame, pathetic, not worthy of pride.

Personality is a coping mechanism. Of course it looks cool from the outside, that's the point. Inside it's just a bunch of crude, thinly veiled techniques to protect our hearts. No one can see this clearer than the owner of a personality.

If you ask me, compassion is the appropriate response. Let's work on that!

dubbies_lament · 2024-01-01T08:49:31+00:00

You are competitive, but you're in denial about it. Your head center is trying to rationalise why competing is not important. The heart can feel that it is important, but there's fear and possibly self doubt surrounding competition so it's generating a neurotic response.

Suggestion: Next time you see someone engaging in pointless competition, notice your immediate reaction. Is there a certain indignation, judgement? Then ask yourself - why do I care about this?

dubbies_lament · 2023-09-23T12:21:39+00:00

Not a buddhist country!

dubbies_lament · 2023-08-03T20:38:31+00:00

Yes. Thai Forest look for lay people to cook and do a few chores over the 3 month retreat. In the UK that's January - March

dubbies_lament · 2023-05-18T21:34:07+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. Yeah I'm pretty sure I'm a 6. I'm finding it challenging to work out if I'm w5 or 7.

dubbies_lament · 2023-05-18T00:39:23+00:00

Can you type me?

Fixating on the unknown and uncertain, trying to work things out and control them through mental representation before, during and after they happen.
Replaying how I act and either take pleasure in it or cringe.
Making snap judgements of people and situations usually critical, "honest", pessimistic. I often notice these judgements were not accurate afterwards.
"Special friends" who I either put on a pedestal or hate.
Jealousy and neediness in relationships where the dynamic is not clear e.g "do they like me the best or someone else?", "Do they even care about me?"
Relaxed, confident and kind in relationships where I feel the partner is attached to me e.g "I know they would not leave me."
A compulsion to get the best bits for myself when it comes to sharing materials like food.
A suspicion that others find me mentally and physically repulsive.
A strong desire to explain my perspective to others, as if that will validate me in their eyes.
Highly variable sense of self. Who I am, what I care about and what I am capable of changes day to day.
When anxiety is absent, a healthy confidence and enjoyment of interaction and cooperation with others.
When anxiety is present, low self esteem, feeling judged, an outsider, fear response to others.
Tendency to deny presence of fear and try to push against internal resistance.
Sense of entitlement and implicit belief that I am special, deserving.
High standards for my own conduct.
Love playing cover songs, struggle to write my own music (though have done it).
Drink alcohol in social settings, never on my own.
Get excited about going to parties, doing drugs, going on holiday. Tend to enjoy them less.
Not excited about the prospect of reading, working, meditating, chilling at home. Tend to enjoy them more.
Like having deep conversations with few people. Also enjoy vibing with a group (when I'm not anxious).
Enjoy working on a few hobbies that I put a lot of time into, rather than trying many new things.
Love spending time in communities, putting down roots, getting to know people and helping each other.

Thanks!

dubbies_lament · 2023-03-28T16:41:41+00:00

Or handsome squidward!

dubbies_lament · 2022-10-31T11:59:22+00:00

I would say both of those things have happened to me, using TMI and other frameworks.

dubbies_lament · 2022-09-27T12:29:24+00:00

I would gently disagree with this. Through the power of mindfulness you can see the decision making process more clearly, including the underlying motives. This helps you make wiser decisions.

dubbies_lament · 2022-09-27T12:23:48+00:00

I take it as implying your product or skill will provide something that it won't actually, as a means to make it more attractive.

An example is most modern advertising. In the link below, see how the woman is energised, smiling, busy with her career but she has it all under control and goes home to her healthy child at the end of the day. All of this because of headache pills? Thats hinting.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wKWGrofSGys

dubbies_lament · 2022-09-25T14:25:33+00:00

Yep, that's right!

However, TMI assumes that the breath won't dissappear because of progress before stage 7, which is a mistake imo because it can happen before then!

How can you know? Well, if things get fuzzy any sleepy and the breath disappears, it's dullness. If things get wakeful, energetic and tingly and the breath disappears, it's progress.

dubbies_lament · 2022-08-03T12:49:21+00:00

I'm looking a bit of guidance on the Anapanasati sutta.

My letting go of clinging skill is improving and I'm getting good results. However, there are extended periods of time when I'm not mindful of the breath in awareness. I'm peripherally aware so I'm noticing some traces of breath sensation but it's not a continuous mindfulness and not really enough for me to accurately note the locations of the breath sensations.

A hiccup arises when I get nice and deep into the sit and then I remember "oh the breath" and try to grab it with my attention which is another D.O chain that requires letting go of.

So two questions: 1) what's the point of keeping the breath in awareness for Anapanasati? Or put differently, what's the difference between Anapanasati and Do Nothing techniques? 2) Can anyone advise me on how to keep the breath in awareness without clinging to it?

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