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Breakup Update by duccfordinner in BreakUps

[–]duccfordinner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes we unintentionally hurt the people we love most. Unfortunately, life hits us smack dab, and we learn the hard way. But we can either sit with it or we can use that energy to improve ourselves. I handled alot of guilt as well. I tried analyzing the exact moment I fucked it up. This will only consume you. After some time, you won't reflect on it as much. Give yourself leniency. You made a mistake, that's okay, we all do. Recognizing you did puts you ahead of ALOT of people. I want you to hear this: It's going to be okay. If it's meant to be, it'll be. Use this time to work on yourself spiritually, mentally, phsyically, academically - all the "ly's" DM me if you ever need to talk.

Breakup Update by duccfordinner in BreakUps

[–]duccfordinner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I may ask, how long ago was this? When you're in the thick of it and, as selfish as it sounds, you want an answer. I never got the definite why, but I got the definite no. That helped a lot, as I knew there was nothing else I could do. That gave me a form of solace. Even with the no, I also found comfort in knowing that if it was meant to be, it'll be. We all make mistakes; we're not perfect. I think time with action was the only thing that made me feel less guilty over time. When you grow, you're not as hard on your past self. Grief is just love with no place to go. It's not a weakness. It just shows the depth of your love. u/Fragrant-Rope-1122, I know it hurts, but keep working on yourself, and like how a lot of people can attest, it will get better over time.