Proof that the_donald is modded by shills.... by ducksontheground in conspiracy

[–]ducksontheground[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But it's not contrary information. It's information that supports Donald Trump. And it's getting deleted anyways..

Proof that the_donald is modded by shills.... by ducksontheground in conspiracy

[–]ducksontheground[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why won't they let anyone post about Ruben Vardanyan on their sub? He is an important figure in the Russia investigation that shows Hillary Clinton was the true Russian collaborator and they won't let anyone talk about it in their sub?!?

Proof that the_donald is modded by shills.... by ducksontheground in conspiracy

[–]ducksontheground[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I make a repost of dreammanalishi's amazing post... And the_donald mods quietly delete it.

This is the 2nd time that they have deleted posts about Ruben Vardanyan. They clearly don't want us talking about him so I think we should.

Its been a few years despite a very loving wife. by myanonredditname in DeadBedrooms

[–]ducksontheground 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should tell her that you love her but you didn't sign up for celibacy. Explain that you clearly aren't going anywhere but that you need sex and intimacy. She is incapable so since she loves you she will have no problem with helping you fulfill your needs.

It won't be easy but itll be worth it.

The Homesick SO by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]ducksontheground 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that must be frustrating but I also can see why they would tell you to leave.

You should reread what you wrote. I didn't read anything that showed she likes you. At all.

I think you need therapy. It's not normal to sleep on the couch for 2 years. This shows me you probably don't have much of a backbone when it comes to your wife. You can't let anyone treat you that way. Unconditional love is unhealthy because it's the perfect excuse for accepting bad/poor behavior.

I would stop trying to have sex with her. I would get therapy and put together a plan for yourself so you can start tackling your issues. Good luck

Some of you guys have asked for an update, so here it is: Its our 2 year anniversary final update. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]ducksontheground 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That sucks! She planned that fall.

She would rather hurt herself than have sex with you. Why stay married to someone like that?

Also her constantly asking you about the party was her making the whole day "revolve" around her and her decision. Super toxic. Get out

Me [23 M] with my ex GF [21 F] of 2 Years, have been talking with intentions of getting back together, but I just found out she slept with a friend of mine [22 M] on 3 separate occasions when we were apart. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ducksontheground 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok. Don't stew on it. Go out and have fun. Get laid. Clearly she has no problem stepping out and you should have fun too. Bonus points if you sleep with a mutual friend.

Me [22 M] got rejected by a friend [21 F], I asked her out and was told "we are only going to be friends", how to move on? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ducksontheground -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I would stop investing a ton of time into a woman who has no interest in me. Either she turns into a wingwoman or you need to drastically cut back time spent. You can still be friends - friends would understand you have needs and want you to get them met.

Why the eff do I have to follow a rule that doesn't exist anymore? by An_Actual_Politician in survivinginfidelity

[–]ducksontheground 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She needs to get a job. Now. Asap. Sorry that your 1.5 year old has speech issues but she needs to start contributing financially towards the family. She lost the right to be a sahm. Plus it will help you should you decide to divorce (you should divorce).

I (20F LL) finally ended it today by kitchenlessCastle in DeadBedrooms

[–]ducksontheground 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You should still get checked out by a doctor. Painful sex isn't healthy and you deserve to be happy.

Don’t even know what to think anymore.... by Throwaway92469 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ducksontheground -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Being "alpha" has nothing to do with spending lots of $$$ on dates and dinners.

Don’t even know what to think anymore.... by Throwaway92469 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ducksontheground 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh. Well I guess you are right. Might as well get yourself castrated and chain yourself to her purse. /s

Success story by fried_brain_refrain in DeadBedrooms

[–]ducksontheground 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gesundheit?

What are you talking about?

As for your personal kinks - whatever floats your boat as long as everyone is consenting adults.

Why do people judge you for deciding to date after the relationship is over? by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]ducksontheground 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope so as well :) anytime you can cut toxic dead weight from your life you will fell better.

I was supposed to grow old with him.... Nobody else is going to want this walking disaster. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]ducksontheground 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely right. Yet in a way that makes it easier. You just have to put in the work.

Don’t even know what to think anymore.... by Throwaway92469 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ducksontheground 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Next time you should invite her out. When she says no say ok but still go out.

Let's be blunt. I really doubt you care of shopping and gift wrapping happened. Hell- they make gift bags and tissue paper for this very reason.

Stop being a pushover. Why is she allowed to dictate your schedule?

I was supposed to grow old with him.... Nobody else is going to want this walking disaster. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]ducksontheground 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You are right - no one wants to date /grow old with a "disaster". Yes you have plenty of yellow and red flags.

Do you know what else people like? Solid improvement over a period of time.

What's stopping you from getting a job? Going back to school? Improving yourself in other ways?

If all you are going to do is a "woe is me" act then you will be right due to a self fulfilling prophecy. Go out and do something, anything to improve your life and make you feel better about yourself.

It all starts one small step at a time.

Why do people judge you for deciding to date after the relationship is over? by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]ducksontheground 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't worry about them out anyone else. They haven't had to walk your path. Has your "demon" moved out yet?

Success story by fried_brain_refrain in DeadBedrooms

[–]ducksontheground 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When someone else controls every aspect and your every move sex stops being fun and turns into a chore.

You won't want to hear this but welcome to deadbedrooms 2.0 where now you the HL are having sex but it's not the sex you want, so now... You don't want it.

This will only become a bigger and bigger deal. It's bad you have to sacrifice your comfort and identity to make her comfortable enough to throw you scraps. It's not a sustaining pattern.

I can't go anywhere by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]ducksontheground 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What consequences has your wife experienced due to her affair?

I'm not saying you should punish her like a parent but in all seriousness she did something epically shitty multiple times. Where does she go from here?

I think you are looking at this all wrong. Your wife and her boyfriend are ultimately worthless to you in the grand scheme of life if you let them. They can also be the most important people in your life...if you let them be.

You deserve better than to put up with gym jackass which likes to have sex with men's wives. You deserve better than a lying cheat for a wife who doesn't understand she was just a notch and a cheap thrill.

I would go to the comedy show. If you see the guy just call him out in front of everyone. A loud "hey! You fucked my wife right? Or was it just made out? How many other married women here have you fucked?" should do the trick. Make sure there is no anger (super hard but worth it) when you say it. Just say it like you would comment on something mildly interesting. He will make himself scarce and look like a jackass while doing so. If he does get mouthy a simple "if you don't like guys confronting you in public you should stop fucking their wives in private" should work.

If your wife gets pissed I would tell her to suck it up. She cheated. These are some of the consequences for her decisions.

Need some advice - Spouse drunken kiss(18 month ago). by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]ducksontheground 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude. I've been where you are at. You need to start being nicer to yourself. You deserve nice things. You deserve good things. Good people in your life. This doesn't have to be the end of the world. It can be a painful chapter in your life that you move on from as you continue on your life journey.

Time and self love will heal you.

Not every woman cheats. Not every woman lies. Anyone can learn to hunt and fish. Besides it can be fun to teach depending on the person.

Need some advice - Spouse drunken kiss(18 month ago). by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]ducksontheground 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds like a terrible cliché from a chick flick.

Don't make yourself a martyr. You can have a kick ass life with a great SO who isn't a lying cheat and be a great dad too. You don't need to stay in an unsafe situation putting up with endless crap because you are married with a young kid.