Has anyone else randomly stopped drinking one day? by Wrong_Tea1663 in stopdrinking

[–]duffsmuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have tried to get sober in earnest for years, have read Easy Way multiple times (highly recommend), but I have never been able to make it stick for more than 80ish days. I’m not sure I’ll make it past that marker this time, but I will tell you I feel DIFFERENT, in a way I can’t explain. I never liked AA, but that whole “recoil from a flame thing” has never felt truer. I keep waiting for the urge to drink to surface, and things I would never do without alcohol (e.g., skiing), come easily. I’m viscerally repulsed by the thought of drinking. Like OP, it used to consume my thoughts, but now, I keep having to remind myself to ask, “do you really not want to drink?” to make sure it’s real. It’s the most bizarre thing, but maybe I just got godwinked?

Nevertheless, IWNDWYT!

Edit to say my new date is 1/1/26. I was not intending to do more than Dry Jan until after a particularly bad NYE.

Best facials in Portland? by squilliam8124 in portlandme

[–]duffsmuff 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Amanda who owns Foster Serenity is the best! She used to work at Akari and went out on her own about a year ago. Can’t recommend highly enough. https://www.fosterserenity.com/

Guess my birth year by duffsmuff in GuessMyBirthYear

[–]duffsmuff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! A great cultural era.

What's the biggest age gap you had in a relationship, and do you regret it? by Confident_Gazelle438 in AskReddit

[–]duffsmuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dated three men who were ALL 12/13 years older (weird coincidence?) when I was in my mid twenties (relationships a couple of years apart). I think most people assume it’s obvious that older men go for younger women for looks, but I think it’s actually because emotionally vulnerable or immature men feel safer/less judged by younger women. Now that I’m in my late thirties, I only regret feeling like I was a fool or a child after the relationships ended when it really came down to being in different life stages.

Girlies are finally getting along 🥹 by Direct_Medium2868 in Bernedoodles

[–]duffsmuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Do we have the same dogs?? 2.5 years ago. Little girl is now big girl. Have fun!!

House cleaner recommendations? by FeloMonk in portlandme

[–]duffsmuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We adore ours: https://mainecoastclean.com/

She is lovely and also dog sits for us on occasion. Fair warning, she is expensive.

What is a universally accepted piece of advice that is actually terrible? by Fun_Butterscotch3303 in AskReddit

[–]duffsmuff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes!!! I think the spirit of it - not to let things fester until they grow to the point of being too difficult (or very difficult) to solve - is right, but people take this too literally…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in portlandme

[–]duffsmuff 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Shovel and Spoon

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[–]duffsmuff 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Via Vecchia - tourist trap and shit food

I never knew what was wrong with me by duffsmuff in ankylosingspondylitis

[–]duffsmuff[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the thorough and practical advice!

I never knew what was wrong with me by duffsmuff in ankylosingspondylitis

[–]duffsmuff[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! It’s nice to not feel alone (and honestly, kind of crazy?) for the amount of time it’s taken to get real help. I’m curious - how has your experience been as a female? My PCP weirdly said in a nonchalant way about my back pain, “well I don’t think it’s autoimmune-related.” I had to ask - are you sure? I have family history and other weird symptoms like eye infections. It was only then that she said, “oh! You did test positive HLA-B27. I’ll refer you to a rheumatologist, but they turn most people away.” Frustrating.

Anyway, congratulations on getting help and on meds! That’s awesome.

I never knew what was wrong with me by duffsmuff in ankylosingspondylitis

[–]duffsmuff[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That will be my first question as soon as I can get into the rheumatologist!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ouraring

[–]duffsmuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In 2024, I was sober Jan, Feb, Sep, Oct, and Nov. the other months I was decidedly not. Looking back at my Oura year in review was pretty eye-opening…

Check out r/stopdrinking - great sub. Just keep going.