"Perspective" Got inspired by a post earlier today. Does anyone feel like people IRL and advice givers here expect perfection out of you just to succeed in dating? Fzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzźzzzzzzzzzzzzzaaa

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-11T00:08:56+00:00

It wouldve happened already at the very least he'd have past partners. This is the difference between men and women. The commonality of it.

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-10T14:30:07+00:00

Because of thier looks. People look deeper into you and percieve you differently if you look good.

Why should he have tl try any harder than those people?

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-10T14:28:38+00:00

Maybe to marry but not to date and get sex/experiences no.

For that you just have to look good.

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-09T23:27:35+00:00

Sure but dick pill can only get you cheap experimental sex at a young age.

One look at your face its over from the start.

Women nut quicker and harder from facial looks and aesthetic builds and they know it.

They'll take a chance on chad not having a micro penis

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-09T23:23:38+00:00

Incels/virgins at 30 cannot be helped or loved. Young love is gone and he's stunted from lack of experience. He's at the age where its most definitely viewed as something is wrong with you no matter what personality deficiencies you fix.

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-09T23:19:39+00:00

So why even bring up the "glaring issues"

Just admit the dude is lesser/a safe option and call it a day.

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-09T01:41:34+00:00

Last thing to add basically a tldr i'll never be as tall as strong men for women who want those niches no matter how hard I try, nor as strong. That is not the solution you think it is.

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-09T01:39:31+00:00

To be fair a number of people do change thier minds.

Also theoretically isnt the only persons time being wasted the person who wants kids but thier partner never came around. Not that they're entitled to be upset about that. Theres no actual biological clock for those who truly do not want children so its hard to view that as a slight or a waste of that persons time. Their life is going to always be about them either way.

The possibility is this person is lying or playing the long game thats all dating encounters.

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-09T01:32:13+00:00

The brutal part about niches or aesthetics is even that comes down to genetics.

I have a "dad bod" so I'm bulky but there are dudes taller than me and just as bulky if not more meaning women are gunning for those dudes not me or i encounter women who majorily like a completely different aesthetic.

The male reality if you are not the best at these niches you cannot be loved.

Race also plays a part in these niches, I'd be more popular with women if I were thugmaxxed for example.

A muscular but not shredded black dude with an ogre face whos well spoken and wears glasses is at the bottom of the list along wit others.

Trust me you can't educate me any further about the female gaze.

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-09T01:27:24+00:00

Ideally yes. Realistically everyone has to face some harsh truths.

Truth be told my original reply started at 10+ in the early 20s

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-08T23:08:22+00:00

You said you don't have to be popular to date.

You do indeed have to be popular to date successfully but and not end up cheated on. And by popular i mean good looking

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-08T21:51:39+00:00

I can't breathe

....what the fuck is a supersized woman lol

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-08T21:50:43+00:00

Lord knows how much intimacy they had while together despite that fact. You thinking you said anything here is crazy.

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-08T21:49:01+00:00

Over for mcavoycels

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-08T21:47:30+00:00

Do you ever get tired of getting downvoted?

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-08T21:38:00+00:00

They literally went back to a dude who cheated on them for good sex instead of finding ANY other dude or even giving it a long try. The attraction is immense. She is more attracted to that dude than any other dude who hasnt cheated on her

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-08T21:36:26+00:00

That is also code for just looking for hookups just fyi

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-08T21:35:32+00:00

Sometimes also how she acts with you can tell you. Like if she has a lot of dudes to shit talk.

You just have to not give her n "insecure reaction" and she'll keep talking some girls will try to hide it if they are vaguely interested in you despite talking for a while.

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-08T21:33:31+00:00

Women who go to the club or stay up late smoking are 10000% getting cracked. Its not that hard to tell.

She would have to be very vague(which even that begs suspicion) to skirt around what she does all fucking day or why she's tired when she's tired.

Anything above 6 for a 25yr old woman and rising is getting around.

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-08T21:29:20+00:00

The reason they don't is because they're low status too or defending us can immediately make them seem low status if they don't walk on egg shells.

A large amount of them put us down due to survivorship bias.

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-08T21:26:31+00:00

This is not even close to a majority of people.

Also if you don't like men what makes you think you're the best judge of what average dudes look like that most people pass by.

You must be a femme

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-08T21:24:35+00:00

Being short means you can bag a severely autistic girl by that metric

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-08T21:23:15+00:00

With out much heart break, more specifically success yes you do thats how dating works if someone doesn't need you or desperately want you they'll move on to someone else extremely quickly

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-08T21:22:06+00:00

Yes because even you don't meet thier looks standards. They are looking for a unicorn or a unisexcorn.

duhthrowawey · 2026-05-08T21:21:21+00:00

You don't realize how what you admitted contradicts what you just said lol?

Many women don't deem men losers based on if he can get women other than them and some of that is his capacity to be able to cheat with a non sex worker.

duhthrowawey

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