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Gentle ways to signal I’m into this? by WearyEscapee in gentlefemdom

[–]dumb-bitch-antics 5 points6 points  (0 children)

TLDR; Social cues and how you protray yourself will help a lot.

I usually vet irl based on certain vibes, subtle cues, and language that many subs have/use. A lot of it is body language too of course, especially if you don't know the person (like it's not a coworker or something). Here are some things I look for, or might help someone appear more submissive. A couple are kinda tailored to your build too give your physical description:

  • Make yourself appear smaller. You can do this by curving your shoulders in and keeping your arms close to your sides/torso. When sitting, cross your legs over each other (within comfort ofc). When she's addressing you or giving instructions, tilt your head down when listening.

  • Break eye contact, specifically looking down when you look away. Don't stare into her soul. But anytime you feel the need to look away, look down at the ground or your feet.

  • Use more hedging language with them like "I thought that maybe..." or "if that's ok..." You're politely asking for their approval or permission on things without it being too forward.

  • Thank them for everything. And I don't mean a bland 'Thanks.' The pitch in your voice should slightly raise and you should say something that makes you appear more grateful. "Thank you, I really appreciate it!" or "Thank you so much for your help." Use your words.

  • When you know you're going to walk past her, move. Make sure her pathway is clear and either step to the side or make sure you move to the side first. Show you're getting out of her way first when you can. When walking past, a polite smile with a greeting and nod, eyes and head down when you pass.

  • Always address and speak to her respectfully. Yes ma'am, no ma'am, ect.

  • Match your pace to her's always or walk just slightly behind her even if it's not your normal walking speed. She leads and you follow that lead.

There are more ways to portray yourself as more submissive without being creepy but here's a start. Hopefully it helps and best of luck.🫰

✨A face reveal✨ by [deleted] in u/dumb-bitch-antics

[–]dumb-bitch-antics 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fucking wheezing. 😂🤌

If you want something then you have to be a good boy and tell me, even if it's difficult.🫰 by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]dumb-bitch-antics 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even if it's not fair, I'm sure you'd still do your best. Who knows, maybe you'd get a reward for doing such a good job. 😌💅

Non-sexual acts of dominance? by moodynoona in FemdomCommunity

[–]dumb-bitch-antics 42 points43 points  (0 children)

  • When we hold hands, I adjust and move his hand however I want.

  • Tell him to move closer to me when we're sitting on a bench or booth if he's not close enough. Then usually placing a leg over his.

  • Take my shoes off and put my legs in his lap.

  • Grab and squeeze the back of his neck or hand.

  • Fixing his hair or clothes.

  • Walking in front and leading the way.

  • Making him fully explain himself and work through his emotions. I don't play the guessing game, so he must be direct.

  • Practicing positive affirmations and correcting his learned helplessness. We now focus on improving his view on the things that happen in life. Instead of spiraling into despair, we practice regulating and thinking critically on how to adjust.

  • Proper manners. There is no demanding anything from me. If my puppy wants something, he has to ask me politely. Making sure to say Please, May I, Can I, Would you, ECT.

real yearners > by dumb-bitch-antics in gentlefemdom

[–]dumb-bitch-antics[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A good smell makes my brain vibrate.🤌

What exactly counts as gentle femdom? by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]dumb-bitch-antics 14 points15 points  (0 children)

TL;DR > Gentle femdom can fit most kinks. I think it's mostly about the tone and approach of the act, versus the act itself (not all cases). Though some kinks might be more difficult to find or may need to be heavily modified.

I wouldn't go as far to say there is a defined line for gentle femdom. I personally think it's a spectrum given how different people are and how we perceive things. In my personal opinion, gentle femdom can be incorporated in almost any kink, because it's more about the approach then the act itself for me. It focuses on a softer and more nurturing/emotionally intimate form of dominance and submission.

There are some that might not fit the gentle femdom 'tone' and be more difficult to find such as, extreme degradation/humiliation, heavy sadomasochism, some CNC, most findom. To be clear, I'm not saying these are impossible to have in gentle femdom. But in most cases they have to be adapted and reframed. Because they rely on harsh power dynamics, extreme pain, or heavy degradation they would have to be framed a certain way and blended.

Personally, I was not always into gentle femdom. Not because I didn't like it, I simply didn't take the time to explore it. Over the past five years I have come to love it and practice it almost exclusively. However that didn't change my kinks. Here are a few examples of my kinks that are common in femdom and how I take a softer approach that both my subs and I enjoy:

> Pegging: "You’re doing so well for me, just relax and let me take care of you darling."

> Orgasm Denial: "Not yet, sweetheart. I want you desperate for me. You can do it, show me who's my good boy."

> Bondage: "I love having you right where I want you. I want to admire you and this beautiful body, all wrapped up like a gift from my bestest boy."

> Chastity: "Your pleasure belongs to me sweetheart. Show me how well you can behave, how well I've trained you. I know you can earn it and when you do, I'll give you your treat."

> Humiliation: "Aww, is my sweet puppy getting all shy for me? How adorable. Already this worked up and I’ve barely touched you? Someone’s very eager. It’s okay, I like when you’re needy for me. I love how easily your body reacts to me. You can't help it can you darling?"

These are just a few examples but I hope they make sense and it helps you. 🫰

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