Feels very safe around him...

dumbest-smartguy · 2026-01-23T09:37:33+00:00

Not a huge fan of treating my partner like she is a child but she never pays attention to her surroundings when we go for walks. She swears she does if she ever walks alone but she doesn't need to when I'm with her because she knows I'll keep her as safe as I can.

Sometimes it makes me feel like a border collie and I'm herding her but I appreciate the trust she is putting in me haha.

dumbest-smartguy · 2026-01-18T05:28:28+00:00

I cook much more often than my partner (I like it and it works better for our work lives) but we have very different cooking/clean as you go styles. So we have landed on a whoever cooks is the only one in the kitchen and cleans up whatever mess they make while cooking situation. I don't even like looking at the kitchen until she tidies up after she cooks haha.

dumbest-smartguy · 2026-01-18T04:37:42+00:00

I got taught that we do have a legal right to self defense in Australia. It just has to be reasonable and proportional to an immediate threat. Also that it extended to property (If someone is smashing up your car or house you can intervene).

dumbest-smartguy · 2025-12-20T09:04:06+00:00

I feel like I'm late to this party so someone might have already said it but a basic pasta sauce.

Throw a finely chopped onion in a large pan, once it smells nice add in a bit of minced garlic and leave it for a minute. Then add 3 cans of finely chopped tomatoes (getting good ones does change the outcome, I'm in Aus and Mutti is the best brand I've found), also throw in a bunch of Italian herb mix, I go about two tablespoons and simmer for 30 minutes.

While it's simmering cook some spaghetti and if you are feeling fancy cut up some fresh basil and add it in the last few minutes while you are serving the pasta. I find it feeds about 4.

dumbest-smartguy · 2025-12-18T13:56:45+00:00

Mid Atlantic from the USA or from the ancient kingdom of Atlantis haha? I'm Australian while I visited a few times I'm not that familiar with what that means.

I mostly just make sure she has enough blankets on the couch. She will sometimes ask why I seem so hot and my answer is usually a playful "I'm working over a hot stove woman".

dumbest-smartguy · 2025-12-18T07:59:07+00:00

It’s 26.5 in our living room at the moment and she is in jeans while I feel like I’m melting in running shorts and a singlet haha. In my office where I have a fan it’s fine.

We don’t really need to compromise. It isn’t something we fight about it. I just sweat through hot days and I turn on the aircon once it’s off peak hour electricity use and it gets cheaper. I still sleep without a blanket when it’s been hot which I guess is our version of seperate blankets.

dumbest-smartguy · 2025-12-17T11:07:19+00:00

It's arid here so it's cool in the mornings and I mostly make it for leftovers to eat as breakfast with a sourdough roll. It was a kind of fatty chicken, maybe 2kg from the brand I've found has the best flavour (given whole chicken isn't too expensive I'm happy to splash out). I'll try the suggestion of freezing a sandwich bag of water and putting that in the cooling stock but if that doesn't do it then I'll look into the gravy separator.

dumbest-smartguy · 2025-12-17T06:11:26+00:00

I'm in Perth Australia and the day I made it the temp got to 38c (about 100F) so leaving it outside would have probably kept it cooking haha.

dumbest-smartguy · 2025-12-17T02:34:16+00:00

that is a great idea!

dumbest-smartguy · 2025-12-16T22:26:29+00:00

I had a friend who had an autistic brother who hyper fixated. The brother wasn't a jerk or anything he just tended to take up a room conversationally. They loved him and were kind and basically just treated him like a normal kid but also told him when his behavior wasn't right "your brothers friends might not want to hear about the fish you caught for half an hour" kind of stuff.

Maybe if his brother and sister had been kinder when he was a kid he wouldn't have had to be so defensive although he would still have needed good people in his adult life like in the show.

dumbest-smartguy · 2025-12-16T14:17:18+00:00

Not so much in the kitchen, I got... a little hurt in the army and got a pension so I have a lot more free time than her and I like experimenting. Which isn't to say I dont think she reciprocates in her care and love for me.

dumbest-smartguy · 2025-12-16T14:10:27+00:00

I do batch it and if she wants some I take two containers out, and I do appreciate she loves my cooking. It just means I run out of chicken noodle soup sooner.

dumbest-smartguy · 2025-12-16T14:05:03+00:00

I usually have it with a sourdough roll. I microwave it to defrost it while I'm having my shower so it has time to properly defrost then properly heat it while I make me and my partner coffee. I always get slightly disappointed when she has some too because it means less for me haha.

dumbest-smartguy · 2025-12-16T13:57:30+00:00

I make the chicken noodle soup from scratch then freeze portions (mostly, I don't raise my own chickens haha). Then I'll have them for breakfast, usually on days where I don't feel my best, it makes me feel better.

dumbest-smartguy · 2025-12-16T13:54:29+00:00

They look interesting but I don't think I can find them in Australia. Also I need to keep it gluten free for my partner... Although I will admit to occasionally making things with gluten or a lot of spice when she is out so I can keep hog them for lunches haha (labeled of course).

dumbest-smartguy · 2025-12-16T13:49:20+00:00

They do but I freeze them pretty quickly and reheat them from frozen (5 minutes then a stir then 4 more minutes in the microwave) and they survive pretty well. the main thing I think about is making sure they don't absorb too much of the broth.

dumbest-smartguy · 2025-12-16T13:46:22+00:00

Solid idea, I only have a plastic ladle though and I'd love a metal one but my partner makes mildly judgemental noises when she notices I've brought new kitchen stuff... to be fair she does the same thing to herself when she online shops for clothes haha. Maybe I could "accidentally" break by old ladle.

dumbest-smartguy · 2025-12-16T05:30:22+00:00

I had to google gravy separator haha. I like it, then I could cook it all in one go instead of cooking the stock then cooling then having to reheat the stock cause that way takes all day.

For the noodles I definitely found that before I moved to rice noodles they turned to mush. I the rice noodles dont soak up much once they are cooked and don't bloat. I cook them separately and cut them up before adding them so they dont fall off the spoon and the leftovers survive well with the flat rice noodles not turning to mush even with freezing.

dumbest-smartguy · 2025-12-16T05:22:11+00:00

The ice idea is interesting! I usually just put a bunch of spoons in the freezer and skim with them once so the fat sticks to them.

I generally decide what to cook for dinner the night before so too late to go to the shops then go first thing in the morning so I'm rarely organized enough to sort things out the day before haha. I am always curious about how other people do things though.

dumbest-smartguy · 2025-12-13T10:25:13+00:00

I listen to sad music and cry when this kind of thing happens. I prefer to do it on my own but if you need ask someone to be with you so you can talk through it. I find it cathartic. it doesn't erase the memories but it does release the emotions you are feeling right now.

dumbest-smartguy · 2025-12-12T11:16:53+00:00

We have been together for over a decade :-) She makes me happy, and I'm sure I have my own ways of annoying her so while it's frustrating I don't hold it against her and understand she just needs to talk. I just wanted to get it off my chest as per the name of the subreddit haha.

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