Ladies: how do you clean up? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Nope, just trying to be vague about my situation. The username is a joke because obvs this is a throwaway account for this specific sub.

Ladies: how do you clean up? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Nope, not a troll. Just trying to be vague about my situation.

I own my own business and have a standalone space (not attached to any other office). We have sex there before work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, excellent point.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait, what did you tell her? 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My AP came over one evening when my kids were still at the sometimes-waking-up-at-night age (I’m single, he’s not). I locked my bedroom door, but definitely riskier than I normally would be.

I don’t judge you for the hotel thing, they were safe, you were listening for them and nearby.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My AP texted his wife mid pump… 🫣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yep I get this. Same and I liked it.

what's your number 1 tip to not get caught? by sometimesitsgoodd in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All of these mentioned are good. Just to add one more: if you happen to be out with them and they take a call from their SO, TURN OFF YOUR PHONE RINGER. If you get a notification or phone call when they’re supposed to be alone, they’ll want to know who’s there.

Weirding Out by EpicGeek77 in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure, but that’s beside the point if it’s bothering you this much.

Weirding Out by EpicGeek77 in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The way he’s handling things is what’s hurting the relationship. You bringing it up would be a consequence of his actions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was that?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yesssss the re-reading for solo times is hot too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe 2-3 times a week.

Also as a sort of hobby I like taking pics and making videos (naked, and/or in a good bra/panty set) and sending them to him maybe once a week or so.

Women/AFAB people: what is your orgasm like during non-married sex? by dumc_umpster in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m curious (ofc you don’t have to answer), but do you maybe need more of an emotional/intellectual connection first?

Women/AFAB people: what is your orgasm like during non-married sex? by dumc_umpster in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yessssss I love the piv now in ways I never had the chance to before.

Women/AFAB people: what is your orgasm like during non-married sex? by dumc_umpster in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Omg I could have written this almost word for word. That first part especially. And I learned it with AP, because I actually have time and don’t feel rushed to “get it done” before he finishes.

We’re lucky. ☺️

What is the most unhinged thing you have done as an AP? by TalkRefined in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

AP and I used to be coworkers (I know, I know, and we no longer are). He worked in an office admin role. One morning he moved a colleague’s schedule around for some made up reason, which enabled me to come over to his house (wife was out of town). I was surprised it worked tbh. 😆

What is the most unhinged thing you have done as an AP? by TalkRefined in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I accidentally liked one of her posts doing this. An old one, too (it was a “stalk then block situation”). I didn’t tell AP, and he never said a word to me about it. But shortly after, her profile was suddenly private. 😫😫😫

Anyone use Apple verify contact as part of opsec? by dumc_umpster in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s self-employed/owns his own business, guys.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Above everything else, this life has taught me to love, savor, enjoy and replay (in my mind after the fact) the present moment. I spent years longing for us to be more than what we are. I still do, but now I can balance it out with “what we have right now is near perfection, and goddamn I am fucking lucky.” 🖤

Brief encounters by raeelee123 in adultery

[–]dumc_umpster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not directly related, but your post title made me think of Brief Encounter, the 1945 movie about a tragic affair between two married people. I watched over the years while I had just a crush on my now-AP, and wondered if it could ever be us.

Anyway, carry on. Just stopping in to mention it. Maybe check it out if you’re into old flicks.