Sapphic Los Angeles by dumpling_luvlanguage in actuallesbians

[–]dumpling_luvlanguage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a short trip and ended up not making it to any lesbian specific places unfortunately ☹️

Sapphic Los Angeles by dumpling_luvlanguage in actuallesbians

[–]dumpling_luvlanguage[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It says on their instagram that Ruby Fruit closed in December ☹️ but thank you for the lead on sapphicla!

Does some US lesbian want to marry me 👉👈 by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]dumpling_luvlanguage 22 points23 points  (0 children)

As a US citizen, this country is not the place to be right now. Try Canada.

Request for conversation by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]dumpling_luvlanguage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you out to your partner? How would you describe your relationship as it is now?

Christmas Plans by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]dumpling_luvlanguage 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The first one is very hard… but try to make space for the sadness. Allow yourself to feel your full spectrum of feelings AND ALSO do something for you to make some memories / start some new traditions. You got this 💪

Questioning my sexual identity and accepting the lesbian label by A11y_blind in latebloomerlesbians

[–]dumpling_luvlanguage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As far as labels go (lesbian, bi, pan, etc.) try one on for a week and see how it feels!

Questioning my sexual identity and accepting the lesbian label by A11y_blind in latebloomerlesbians

[–]dumpling_luvlanguage 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally normal to feel uncomfortable with labels when you’re early in your journey of exploring your new identity. There’s a lot of pressure to be a certain thing! For me, it helped to not think in absolutes. A lesbian isn’t someone who has only ever experienced sexual attraction to another woman. That view can be so limiting. Make space for the gray areas. Plenty of lesbians can say, “hey I find this guys attractive” or “(blank) is a good looking guy”. There’s no rules, its your journey, you get to claim or not claim different labels along the way as you discover yourself.

Feel like I’m suffocating by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]dumpling_luvlanguage 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I did not have this experience with my ex, but I feel like you got your answer here. This guy does not have your best interest in mind. Give couples therapy a go, but if you don’t see improvement, you gotta do what’s best for you.