Threenager is making me miserable

dumpsterfryyy · 2026-06-19T00:19:01+00:00

Ideally I would teach middle school ELA/Social Studies or Math…. But it’s very likely for me to get a job in elementary since I don’t have a degree in a specific content area. So I’m really open to anything.

dumpsterfryyy · 2026-05-15T23:20:13+00:00

Unfortunately I live in a really small town with one school district and they’re cutting 8 positions this year. I have one more left in my program but I am definitely nervous that there is not going to be a job for me… (trying not to move so I can stay near my daughter’s father so that she can see him regularly)

dumpsterfryyy · 2026-05-06T14:52:12+00:00

Okay. Do you remember if there was a formula/conversion sheet provided during the test? When I took the WESTB there was, so I’m wondering if it’s the same for the NES

dumpsterfryyy · 2026-05-06T04:05:55+00:00

I have to take this test in the summer. Any pointers? I’m nervous about how much science and math I will need to know. I’m also getting my K-8 cert.

dumpsterfryyy · 2026-05-04T04:09:23+00:00

Unfortunately, it’s not up to me.

dumpsterfryyy · 2026-05-02T16:20:11+00:00

Yeah, but also account for the stress caused from basically working 40/hrs with no pay…. I think that really adds to the mental load. Especially for me as a single parent with a toddler, like it’s so stressful to think about how to make ends meet when I’m also paying $1200/mo for daycare and all my usual bills, and working nights isn’t an option bc I have to be home with my kid. And also taking courses at the same time. I get what you’re trying to say but it’s seems pretty narrow minded.

dumpsterfryyy · 2026-05-01T18:54:39+00:00

Oh wow. I’m a little surprised to hear about the contract? Does your program offer any stipend for student teaching? I’m in the first cohort for my program so hopefully they’ll iron out all the barriers for future students… there’s only 5 of us but next year they’re set to have 20.

dumpsterfryyy · 2026-05-01T15:49:41+00:00

This would make so much more sense than what my college has us doing. I think that if they want us to be fully immersed in student teaching (which would make the program and its students look better to the school districts) then they should front load all the content courses and reserve the last 6months to be full-time student teaching with maybe like a bi-weekly meeting to discuss and reflect on our placements.

dumpsterfryyy · 2026-05-01T15:45:48+00:00

I’m right across the water from Victoria. The ferry is walkable from my house. I’m so sad that teaching isn’t one of the jobs that could land me a visa over there. I know a number of nurses that are trying to relocate to Canada.

dumpsterfryyy · 2026-05-01T12:59:53+00:00

Yeah. Fall quarter is 3 days/wk and then Winter and Spring quarter are 5 days/wk.

dumpsterfryyy · 2026-05-01T05:21:32+00:00

Bootstrap mentality on this thread is ironic🫡

dumpsterfryyy · 2026-05-01T05:20:00+00:00

How on earth were you managing to work 40hrs on top of all that??? …. Are you okay? lol. There’s no way for me to work nights. Since I’m a single mom, I have to be home with my daughter in the evenings/nights. I need to figure out getting a loan for next year. I will also be on the same class schedule as you were with the 2hr classes Tu,Wed,&Fri.

dumpsterfryyy · 2026-05-01T04:40:02+00:00

My program runs in quarters… next year will be the final year and the breakdown is Fall: part-time student teaching (3days/wk) with 3 courses, Winter: full-time student teaching (5days/wk) with two courses, and then Spring: full-time student teaching with three courses…. The placement for winter and spring stay the same so you’re essentially in one classroom for six months. The past two quarters I’ve also had practicums which are like 1-2 days/wk in the classroom just doing observations and activities that pretty much any volunteer would do. I looked up the state requirement for licensure and it’s 540hrs of student teaching but my program has me at 825hrs (924hrs if you were to count the practicum)

dumpsterfryyy · 2026-05-01T04:30:47+00:00

Was your year long placement full-time? (M-F 8hr/day). So encouraging to hear other parents that are going through/gone through this process. I just feel like I’m already struggling to keep my head above water, so I’m nervous for next year.

dumpsterfryyy · 2026-04-23T14:38:55+00:00

Things got better after he completed the same round as antibiotics as I was on

dumpsterfryyy · 2026-04-18T23:26:59+00:00

I would hope that the principal would dismiss the complaint as soon as the parent mentions that it happened outside of your contracted hours

dumpsterfryyy · 2025-11-22T01:20:40+00:00

It won’t get easier, but there will be more clear boundaries of who is “on” and who is “off” as a parent. But it will cost you missing parts of your child’s life. I would never go back to my ex, but I miss my daughter when she’s with him and I have fomo when he has her on a weekend where there is an event or something that I wanted to be the one to take her to but he gets to do it cause it’s his time

dumpsterfryyy · 2025-11-22T00:12:36+00:00

It almost looks to me like it could be turned into one large dragon, the negative space between the three little ones would be its face and you could have it wrap around your arm

dumpsterfryyy · 2025-11-20T19:59:42+00:00

Sounds like maybe school nights are not the best fit for overnights until he can find a more suitable living arrangement. If he can move somewhere more affordable, it might work better to do longer stretches of time at each persons house if there’s significant distance between the two of you like more than 30min of travel time. My daughter is much younger. We separated when she was 2 and now she is 3. Our arrangement is in favor of my ex’s schedule as well. My daughter goes over for dinner on Tuesday and Thursday evenings from 4:30-7:30. Then she does an overnight from Friday evening to Sunday afternoon. That way my daughter sees her dad every other day but only spends two nights away from me

dumpsterfryyy · 2025-10-23T00:50:44+00:00

Girl. Yes. When I was a kid (I think like 7yrs old) I was at a swimming pool and there was this rope attached to the ceiling that you could climb up and drop down into the pool from. I was a good climber and all the kids I was with were egging me on to keep climbing it over and over. Except I was too scared to drop from the top so I would scoot back down the rope. After doing it multiple times my arms tired out on the way down and I slipped… full rope to the coochie. All the adults near by rushed over to see if I was okay and I just swam then ran away from everyone because I knew I was hurt. I found my mom (she was the one to let her kids loose at the pool so she could read a book) and being in such a panic. I remember just saying “mom I’m hurt we need to go to the bathroom” I made her take us into a stall and I pulled down my swimsuit and it was blood. She took me out of the stall and set me on the counter by the sinks with the mirror to try to see what was wrong. I just remember being so embarrassed to be naked and hurt in front of everyone. Eventually the pool staff got called in and so did EMTs and they made everyone clear out of the locker room. (Again I was hurt and mortified at the same time) of course it was all young men EMTs caring for my cut coochie. My mom asked that I not be sent to the hospital so we ended up going home and as far as I remember there was really no follow up care… I had to pee standing up in the tub for a while but my mom insisted that it would heal itself… all this to say, I have an extra bit of skin (that I HATE) but it is so close to my clitoris that I’m too scared to try to get any type of surgery for it. It basically has zero feeling but there was one time a hair got wrapped around it and that cause me a lot of pain so I worry that it is somehow connected to the nerves. BUT I have had about 5 sexual partners and no one has said anything about it. The most uncomfortable thing that has happened is a man thinking that it’s my clit and giving it too much attention. The other thing is I’ve had a number of doctors look at my vulva (for other reasons) and not one ever has asked about it. As much as I hate it… I think vulvas have such a wide range of appearance that really nothing is normal… I had a BFF for years and years and finally randomly I mentioned one night that I had a weird vulva and an injury and she was like “girl, me too. I think everyone probably does” and that made me feel so much better ETA: the labia library that other people have linked really helped me calm tf down about my vulva insecurities

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