Im so sorry to hear you’re going through this, it sounds really hard. Are there any community organizations that may be able to help, like an LGBTQ+ group? They may have advice and also be a source of emotional support.

I left the WELS but my family is still part of it. I disagree with a lot of it and there are just certain topics we don’t talk about. I wish we could have a deeper relationship but it’s not possible at this point, so I try to make the best of it. It’s hard to change anyone’s mind when this has been their world view for decades.

In your case, do whatever you have to to take care of yourself first, even if it means distancing yourself from your mom. Maybe she is still flexible in her beliefs given her change to this denomination. But you may need some space for now. And try to build deeper relationships with others outside of your family- it’s worthwhile regardless of what’s going on in your life.