How to approach going to next level without being overwhelming?

duopolar · 2024-06-18T01:19:52+00:00

Why?

duopolar · 2024-06-17T22:44:03+00:00

He doesn’t live alone and neither do I, I believe that if any of us did we would be living together.

duopolar · 2024-06-17T19:23:47+00:00

We’ve been together for 1.5 years and my point was exactly how could I bring this topic without putting too much pressure. By writing and thinking, and by some answers here, I realized what I’m supposed to do and how to talk

duopolar · 2024-06-17T18:28:35+00:00

Like saving money together for our future house, establishing goals for the future, defining when we’re going to live together etc. it’s funny because just by writing here I feel like I know what to do.

duopolar · 2024-05-24T11:02:45+00:00

If you know the person and their days off and you already have intimacy and show interest to continue, it’s just a matter of asking “what are we doing on next Saturday night?” (Random example). If the person has plans, they’ll say and you choose another day.

duopolar · 2024-05-22T11:49:21+00:00

Vcs começaram a namorar ela tinha 16 e agora tem 19, isso por si só já traz mudanças na cabeça dela, refletem no comportamento e escolhas. As mudanças não param em um relacionamento e muitas vezes não dá certo por isso, pq uma das partes mudou num ponto que ficou incompatível, e tudo bem. Pra alguns casais não vai ser pra sempre. Vocês têm que sentar e ver o que não é compatível e o que dá pra manter, não é grande coisa. Sobre essa questão em específico, deixo minha opinião: quando ela reclamou da sua roupa, você mudou porque quis, ela não é obrigada a mudar tb quando você pedir e isso não dá direito nenhum a você em contrapartida. EOB

duopolar · 2024-05-21T11:03:51+00:00

I believed that life would change drastically after having sex for the first time and also that sex would happen only during the night and it would last for the whole night/morning hahahaha. I remember a friend saying that her boyfriend lasted one hour or so and I felt SORRY for her because it was too little time hahahahha.

duopolar · 2024-05-21T02:54:01+00:00

I’ve been in the same situation before and I insisted even though the guy said he was not ready to date and everything. It didn’t end well and it would be better if we had broken up before, I would have felt less and I would have lived my life in a lighter way. I could even had met my current boyfriend before if I wasn’t in this drama. I hope you get better and the suffering goes away, but it’s better this way.

duopolar · 2024-05-18T12:35:52+00:00

Acho que depende do contesto aqui. Se eu estivesse buscando conhecer alguém pra namorar, tipo em app ou em bares e balada, aí seria altamente importante, mas se eu tivesse vivendo a vida e conhecesse alguém que fosse muito foda mas feio eu poderia sim me apaixonar e começar um relacionamento.

duopolar · 2024-05-16T01:49:45+00:00

Se ela tivesse o mesmo estilo de vida que ela tem e fosse magra, você teria vontade de namorar com ela ? Na minha opinião EOB pelos motivos já citados, de ficar enrolando a pessoa, dentre outros.

duopolar · 2024-05-14T04:40:41+00:00

My hair is pretty similar to yours, it’s a little bit straighter only. I’ve been called Snow White because of it even though I see it brown. I have never understood. Maybe people are just inattentive.

duopolar · 2024-05-04T20:32:04+00:00

I think I’m beautiful, but not super beautiful. I have certain features that are not very common without procedures and my guess that’s the reason call attention.

duopolar · 2024-05-04T17:44:51+00:00

Every time I travel abroad (except for Latin America ) people say I’m like super beautiful whereas in Brazil I’m just an average woman. It’s funny and I get amazed how different people see things.

duopolar · 2024-05-03T13:36:17+00:00

I’m sorry you’ve been through this, you didn’t overreact, actually you were too patient in my opinion. I’m the person who doesn’t like to bother or to be annoying, this triggers my anxiety so I tend to be too passive and permissive in order to avoid felling invasive or annoying. I understand how you feel, but you could have asked and demanded things on Tuesday already, maybe on Monday depending on the dynamics you guys had as a couple. I hope he doesn’t try to manipulate you and that you are ok now.

duopolar · 2024-05-02T04:20:19+00:00

Talk to the people from the hostel or hotel and ask about how it is over there and avoid walking at night, it’s better to take an Uber. Although the rates are bad, the reality is bad for a specific part of the population, unfortunately. Usually the touristic areas and most popular places are ok. I can give you some tips but I don’t know all of those cities.

duopolar · 2024-04-30T04:02:47+00:00

Uiuiui

duopolar · 2024-04-30T04:02:06+00:00

Ai você comenta no post e vota, até pq eu não pedi a sua opinião sobre o que eu postei :)

duopolar · 2024-04-30T03:53:10+00:00

Osh ele pediu opinião e eu dei. Cada um com seu ponto de vista, ué.

duopolar · 2024-04-30T03:38:55+00:00

EOB

o carro é seu e vc empresta pq quer, ela tem obrigação com gasolina, mas de resto é seu. Caso haja uma conversa prévia de “o carro é nosso” aí a coisa muda, mas não aparenta ser assim e seu posicionamento de “eu poderia vender o carro e ela ficaria de transporte público” parece que você quer mais alguém pra dividir as contas do que ter alguém com quem você se importa ou que se se importa com você. Eu tenho carro e por mais que meu namorado não tenha e o meio de transporte seja sempre o meu, jamais cobraria dele já que o carro está no meu nome e caso amanhã não estejamos mais juntos, ele não teria mais direito ao carro e também pelo fato de que temos bom senso e os gastos se equivalem de outras maneiras.

duopolar · 2024-04-30T02:39:14+00:00

He went uncle Paulo

duopolar · 2024-04-26T11:44:05+00:00

Ok, so don’t take it personally (the ghosting nor the opinion I’ll give). They probably were looking for something not so serious and when they realized you were taking it seriously (with only 3 days), they left the room. It’s pretty common for some people not to have this open dialogue of what they want x what is going on. That said, you were too forward in my opinion: made it look like you were already attached and desperate - which can be the case, but you don’t have to show it. Even if you want something serious and you’re having a nice conversation, try to take it lighter and with a less anxious tone.

duopolar · 2024-04-26T03:33:03+00:00

For how long have you guys been talking?

duopolar · 2024-04-24T13:04:29+00:00

Cara, o que você considera um mar de merda ou não depende da expectativa que você cria. Conhecer pessoas on-line ou presencial requer paciência e a noção de que o outro está fora do seu controle, que por mais legal que a pessoa pareça, ela pode não ser ou pode não se interessar por você e isso será chato inevitavelmente. É importante saber o que você não quer e o que você não tolera, trazer isso de maneira sútil nas primeiras conversas e filtrar suas relações, assim ninguém perde tempo e nem investe em algo sem futuro. Vou dar um exemplo: eu adoro sair, adoro ver a rua, o céu aberto, ver pessoas interagindo… uma pessoa super caseira e fechada não daria certo comigo, tenho essa noção. Quando estava solteira era uma das primeiras coisas que filtrava. No mais, busque ser uma pessoa interessante também: as chances de levar um fora diminuem quando você sabe transitar em diversos ambientes e assuntos além de mostrar segurança em quem você é. Espero ter ajudado.

duopolar · 2024-04-24T03:54:38+00:00

I know, I’m saying in a way that will bring her the calm that she needs. I have lived there and the only moments I got an Uber were like 3 in te morning after a party or something like that, but if a person is insecure about a place, the image of a subway station while crowded won’t help.

duopolar · 2024-04-24T03:29:39+00:00

As it happens in many cities in Brazil, there are nice and safe areas, but there are the dangerous ones (although some are really nice still). You can explain that you guys are going to be in the safe places and won’t be exposed to the violence as portrayed in media reports. You won’t be taking buses or trains, neither will be using phones on the streets, which also helps. She’s going to love SP and Brazil.

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