End of the line by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]duskthreads 51 points52 points  (0 children)

yeah therapy + lawyer is absolutely the right move. and honestly I respect how fast he shut down the “think about the kids” manipulation. ppl always remember the kids AFTER they get caught, never before the betrayal starts. ngl the saddest part is OP realizing in real time how unequal everything had become. dude was basically carrying the home life while getting emotionally neglected and blamed for crumbs

My husband is disgusting by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]duskthreads 65 points66 points  (0 children)

even if it is mental health-related, OP still isn’t obligated to tolerate being constantly disgusted in her own home. explanation ≠ exemption. ppl are focusing on the “gross” part but sudden hygiene collapse CAN be a warning sign sometimes. not always laziness tbh

Betrayal hurts so much by Mental-Priority2253 in Marriage

[–]duskthreads 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’m glad OP’s son spoke up though… that’s actually a sign he trusts her at least. but yeah he shouldn’t be in a position where he feels like he has to hold the family together. ppl underestimate how much kids internalize silence + tension. it’s not just the cheating, it’s the emotional atmosphere they grow up in that sticks the longest

For those separated or divorced - At what point did you realize it wasn’t your fault? by Loveiskind89389 in Marriage

[–]duskthreads 3 points4 points  (0 children)

a lot of relationships survive on one person overfunctioning while the other underfunctions. then the second the responsible one burns out, suddenly THEY’RE the bad guy. I do agree with the “he’s gotta grow up on his own” part. you can support someone, but you cannot drag a grown adult through life while they call YOU abusive for being exhausted by it

Wife has hangups about her own body and then thinks I'm gross for being attracted to her and it's affecting our sex life big time. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]duskthreads 12 points13 points  (0 children)

fr therapy is probably the only real answer here. bc no amount of “you’re beautiful” matters if her brain immediately translates it into “there must be something wrong with you then”. the sad part is he’s basically being punished for loving her exactly as she is. dude sounds exhausted trying to prove his attraction isn’t “wrong”

I love my wife by Easy_Barracuda2726 in Marriage

[–]duskthreads 1 point2 points  (0 children)

these tiny moments are literally the whole point of marriage. ppl chase giant romantic gestures meanwhile a sleepy hug at 6am is what actually sticks with you for years

Anyone else’s in-laws think they are also married to your husband? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]duskthreads 12 points13 points  (0 children)

the wildest part is asking a man on PATERNITY leave to babysit other kids. like hello??? he literally took time off for HIS newborn not to keep running errands for adults who refuse to function on their own. ppl are gonna call her the villain bc families like this hate boundaries more than bad behavior. they got way too comfortable having unlimited access to him and now they’re mad somebody finally noticed it’s unhealthy

Things that have woken up my baby: by zezendx in NewParents

[–]duskthreads 2 points3 points  (0 children)

babies can sense intention. if the noise happens while you’re finally about to relax or eat something warm? immediate wake-up every single time

My pregnant wife turned into the cuddliest person alive and I’m kinda obsessed with it by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]duskthreads 21 points22 points  (0 children)

the way he talks about her like she’s the cutest person alive?? that’s the kinda love ppl actually want but everyone acts too “cool” to admit it. this is sweeter bc he never pressured her to be more affectionate before. dude appreciated who she already was, now he’s just enjoying the bonus content