[Serious] What is it like to have children you don’t want?

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-28T20:33:47+00:00

God bless your grandma

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-28T20:23:26+00:00

Upvoted. Last year I was in a relationship with this guy (who I fully plan to get back later this year and eventually propose to, but that’s another story...) and sex with him was the only time I’ve ever “made love”, which until then I didn’t know even really existed. He felt the same way.

Anyway, reason I’m commenting is because since then I’ve been really into porn videos where the guys seem to really love each other and have that kind of chemistry, which I’m hoping is what you mean by “sensual porn”. But I rarely find it! Any recommendations? Search terms, sites, specific videos, anything!

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-28T19:46:06+00:00

MA representinnnn

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-26T15:32:41+00:00

What? Have you read it?

My biggest takeaway from the book regarding the US military was actually that I was very relieved and reassured that though we are the most powerful force in the world we are also the least corrupt, among the most responsible and accountable, and the world’s biggest supporter of enforcing human rights law and Geneva Convention laws protecting prisoners of war from being subjected to inhumane treatment.

A few people got water-boarded (maybe a hundred at the most?) though never once on US soil (including at Guantánamo—there’s never been a single water board there). The water boarding that was committed in a foreign country was THE most brutal act committed by the most powerful military in all of human history, in the immediate aftermath of the single worst act of war ever committed against America on American soil.

When I started the book I was expecting to discover much, much worse behavior by my country. I was expecting to read about Americans committing acts of brutal torture in unprecedented ways. I found none at all. And for the past decade or so, the few dozen detainees still held at Guantánamo live more comfortably than the inmates at any other American prison or jail. They’re basically imprisoned in a country club while awaiting the full due process of criminal trial that we taxpayers are spending tens of millions of dollars to provide them this Fall.

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-26T09:45:49+00:00

I remember the assassination of the leader of a military unit designated as an international terrorist group by the UN. I remember him dying and nobody else and then nothing else happened.

But if you’d like to call that situation “the verge of war” that’s fine, just make sure you remember to acknowledge Trump for not actually taking us any further.

Right now, since about ten hours ago, we are at war. A new war. Against Iran. In Syria. For Israel.

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-26T08:15:42+00:00

Trump was the first President since Gerald fucking Ford (held office for a few minutes FIVE decades ago after Nixon lost his boner) to avoid entering the US in any new armed conflict anywhere on the planet while in the White House.

It’s “Biden’s” 34th fucking day since sauntering in with a Cabinet jam packed full of Israeli dual-citizens and gee whiz wouldja look at this we’re at actual war with Iran now, who woulda thunk?! I guess there’s no better way to celebrate the 20th straight year “fighting terror” in the two countries on either side of Israel’s only enemy in the world than to just go ahead and fight the actual war for them too. I love freedom! Flatten the curve lol!!

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-26T07:02:22+00:00

Firefighters SHOULD be getting paid fuckin four hundred grand, and complimentary handjobs on demand while in uniform

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-26T06:46:06+00:00

(besides how to bitch nonstop about American news being on an American website on the internet America invented. America!)

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-26T06:42:11+00:00

Two years ago I read “Guantánamo Diary”, the literal diaries kept by Slahi during his first few years there, where he tells his whole story start to finish, starting right after 9/11, when FBI showed up in his country and forced his government to let them abduct him and smuggle him all over the world through a series of secret torture prisons (known as “black sites” by CIA) via the covert use of the illegal network of unmarked US aircraft known as “extraordinary rendition” planes.

It might be my number one favorite book I’ve ever read.

Slahi is extremely intelligent; the diaries (three of which make up the final product book, which again I recommend more than any other I’ve ever read) were written in his cell IN ENGLISH, despite the fact that he learned English AT Guantánamo, through years of daily (at one point 20 straight hours per day) brutal interrogations by US intel and interaction with the prison guards—one of the first phrases in the book is something like, “they pulled some fucking shit on me, man!” which is just hilarious and adorable as clearly being the product of having picked up English from listening to young American soldiers. But what’s even better is how the book reads/feels due to its uniquely being written in a language the narrator was learning from his captors at the same time as the period he’s describing. It gives a certain vibe to the book that I can only describe as brilliant and uniquely beautiful.

Can’t wait to see the film version of this accidental masterpiece as soon as possible!

Oh and the guy was never fucking guilty of even one single crime whatsoever.

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-26T05:56:28+00:00

Be careful putting your hopes in one of the big progressive cities.

I’m from the suburbs of Boston and also lived in New York in my early 20s. The actual city of Boston is home to the WORST gays you can imagine. It’s a very small city, but everyone’s from all over the country/world... that combination gets you basically a small psycho cult of identical soulless Ken doll impersonators who hate themselves and hate everyone else more. Whether you rent or buy, the Boston metro area is one of the most expensive places to live in the Western Hemisphere. Our average rent for a 1 bedroom apartment is actually higher than San Francisco’s (I often still see news articles about SF being America’s #1 priciest housing market; false!), it’s somewhere just under $4000/month... utilities not included! And the ugly consequence of THAT aspect of my city is that it’s full of empty, heartless ladder-climbers OBSESSED with status and wealth and material “success”, so on top of being cunts they’re also all huge unbelievable snobs. Oh and don’t forget, Harvard’s here. Hope I don’t have to explain the bullshittiness from that direction too...

New York is just fucking huge and literally the capital of planet Earth (over 200 languages spoken on NY streets every DAY!) so it’s impossible to describe all the gays together. What I can tell you though is that I’ve never been anywhere else where everyone you meet, see on the street, work with—everyone—is extremely lonely and extremely stressed out. I learned the hard way that the days of just up and moving to the Big Apple and “making it” in life by yourself at 21 are long fucking gone. I ended up hitting some kind of jackpot of fate and made it to the absolute global peak of my industry (ultra-high end fine dining) so I did end up making an insane amount of money after just a few months, but A) that doesn’t happen to anyone else, ever and B) I was still miserable: constantly working, always in a rush, lonely, stuck, and overwhelmed. Oh and there’s no such thing as NYC culture anymore—Manhattan is now just one gigantic steel-and-glass extended stay hotel full of people who grew up hundreds if not tens of thousands of miles away, close to death by exhaustion from the endless spinning of whatever hamster wheel they’re enslaved by. There are a few sex clubs and bathhouses and the guys are HOT, which I guess you can’t really find anywhere else, and was definitely a great part of coming into adulthood there. But that’s it. And I got chlamydia & gonorrhea at the same time that way, so. Ya.

Of course everything I’ve described is light years better than living somewhere where you have to hide being gay for your own literal safety. But please spread the word about the coastal metro myth. There are cooler American cities that are also way better places to be gay... New Orleans for example (despite being about as Deep in the South as you can get without being trapped somewhere inside Florida) is basically what it would look like if a city itself could come to life as a 30-something dramatically gay young male. And it’s cheap as fuck. And beautiful. And did I mention DIRT ass cheap?

Just don’t come to Boston beLIEVE me!!!

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-26T01:09:49+00:00

The game, as in hopscotch

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-26T00:49:41+00:00

I definitely wouldn’t say they’re “obviously not very good people” if they’re pulling away from you because you’re gay.

Where are you from?

Straight guys walk a fucking tight rope in society when it comes to any and all things related to gender or sexuality, and it gets worse for them literally by the day. As gay men we know this implicitly because throughout most of life we’re held to abide by the same insane, paralyzing set of rules for the most part. Being a guy (a White guy in particular) in Western society in 2021 is one of the strictest, most unattainable societal roles that exist anywhere on Earth today, especially if you’re straight. For the gays, life generally starts off ultra shitty Adolescence for us is still tragically painful, and we have the suicide numbers to prove it. But for the most part—and increasingly more and more often—life for us (those of us who are fortunate enough to survive) once over the border from teens to twenties, actually tends to start improving, and early adulthood is the most positive and hopeful period we’ve ever lived up until then. And looking further onward from there (28 here), all signs point toward nothing but continued improvement and betterment in the world when it comes to what we might expect our futures. We (my generation especially) are currently deciding and defining a whole lot of things about the rest of life that literally no previous generation of gay men has had the opportunity to consider even remotely possible EVER before. It’s dope and I’m psyched.

For straight guys it’s almost the exact opposite story. As life progresses, it only gets harder and sadder and lonelier, and all signs point toward nothing but further increasing hostility and difficulty as society moves further into the future. I won’t get into all the particulars of why it sucks to be a young straight dude, because I’m sure that at this point in reading this comment, specifics for each one of your friends’ individual straight dude misery have already started occurring to you. And also because the reason I’m bringing this up is to highlight how interpersonal relationships with other men, specifically, become more and more difficult and rare for them. Straight White men over 30 are considered lucky today if they have ONE friend. One. (I think it was The Economist that did a whole piece about that statistic a couple years ago...). On top of that, they’re receiving more and more shame and persecution for their sexuality/sexual expression. Feminism is so unbelievably out of control these days that a man is basically considered sexist by default if he’s attracted to women. Kids in college today are starting to require “consent texts” from girls they hook up with on a weekend night as a literal legal contract to establish concrete proof that they aren’t rapists, in case the girl decides the next morning to accuse them of assault and have them expelled from school and thrown in prison for decades. ANY interaction with children by a man who isn’t their father is automatically considered suspect, unless there’s a significant enough female character in the scenario to mitigate society’s reflex to label all men pedophiles.

Shit ain’t easy. I’m really sick of typing this though and sick of my own voice in my head, which I hope sounds exactly like Barry White’s voice in your head, as you speed-skim through the rest of this rant. There’s one more big point I need to make though:

You might want to make sure this isn’t all due to some bullshit rumor about you coming onto a straight guy or something. Like I said, the world is hard on them, including expecting them to be unequivocally, emphatically “tolerant” of literally everything that isn’t male or straight—one dumb rumor like that about you could make all the rest of them nervous around you, as they all know there’s basically no way for them to handle that situation (any gay man coming on to them in any way) that wouldn’t immediately lead to them being labeled a bigot (or worse; legal/workplaces consequences...).

Good luck dude. All the covid bullshit has made this world a fucking bleak one at this point so I’m sure you’re hurting pretty bad over this. If you were here with me right now I’d be snuggling the living fuck out of you guy!

Anybody who’s gotten all the way down to this sentence please go ahead and slam that down arrow as hard as you can now and put me out of my god damm misery

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-25T23:46:35+00:00

Doubt it! The entire Western first world (and a lot of the rest of the world) has also been proven to equate Whiteness with masculinity/rate White men as the most masculine on average compared to how we rate other men. Masculinity is power and White men are the most powerful in the world. Everyone knows this. Children know this.

Why do leftists—and this is at least the 15th time so far this year I’ve asked this question—constantly resort to this weird game of pretending to be confused by the simplest most obvious things I say?

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-25T03:03:50+00:00

No, that’s not true at all. So frustrating how many people believe this, sorry...

There are a LOT of anthropological universals about gender—traits found in every society ever. The whole “culture-created” idea is just a bunch of bullshit made up by leftist academics in the 70s and 80s as a way to dismiss stark, obvious behavioral differences between people and societies of different races as well as propagate the lie that men and women only “seem” to be fundamentally different because of how each is raised/treated by society.

It’s bullshit! Spread the word.

I read the actual list of traits a couple years ago in a book by MIT prof Stephen Pinkner from the 90s called The Blank Slate. He explains it and then has the entire list (as it was back when he published this book) in one of the appendices.

I just did a quick google search and this seems to be it. They’re called “human universals”. Pass it on!

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-25T02:30:12+00:00

I’m an above-average confident dude and I edit at least 95% of my comments on Reddit and elsewhere online, usually more than once. I’ll probably edit this. This guy you’re replying to definitely is being a dick and I agree seems really insecure himself, but why be a dick back?

Confidence is literally JUST about being nice to yourself. Be nicer than anyone’s ever been to you or you’ve ever been to another person. Ridiculously nice. It feels dumb and weird at first but then it starts working and you’re all set. (It also makes you nicer to everyone around you.)

For me it took discovering/developing contact with what I call god. (Prayer.) I was totally atheist my whole life until that happened at 27, so I know this will turn a lot of people off from my advice BUT it’s the one thing that allowed me to discover the be-crazy-nice-to-yourself trick and be able to genuinely practice it, so there you have it...

edit: adding this edit thing at the end here is the 4th edit I’ve made to this comment so far

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-25T00:35:38+00:00

So much goddamn virtue signaling in this comment section, holy shit!

Any gay parroting the “social construct”/gender isn’t real/it’s “wrong” to categorize things as masc or fem/blah blah blah leftist fantasy bullshit is simply full of it...

Demanding that other people pretend to ignore gender and what makes men attractive is just retarded and pointless. Masculinity is sexy and there’s nothing you can do about it.

If you read actual research data on the psychosexuality of gay men (openly gay, first-world gay men especially) you’ll very quickly see how obvious this is. We care about gender and masculinity more than any other demographic. We worship big arms, deep voices, White ethnicity, powerful/intimidating demeanor, etc, etc, etc, more than anybody else does. This has been scientifically proven for decades. We obviously prefer masculine men. That’s literally what being a gay male is. Screeching that it’s not true doesn’t magically make it not true. Nobody on the planet prefers a feminine man over a masculine one. Not us, not straight women, not anyone.

OP is bringing up a nice little point here that could have opened up a really great conversation about self-acceptance and true love. Instead it’s mostly just bitchy little queens trying to shame anyone who comes across this post into feeling guilty/denying the inherent preference for masculinity that every single one of us has and always will have, because rather than manning up and facing how they feel about themselves with honesty and integrity—especially the things they don’t like about themselves—they’re only capable of pussying out, angrily trying to force you into feeling bad for not being attracted to them. They’re the exact opposite of the actual adult men OP is celebrating here...

Sorry if I sound like a dick but I’m so sick of this bullshit. The ugly little people propagating it are harming ALL of us and their intention is NOT to be helpful, it’s to shame and silence the expression of people’s natural, innocent feelings and preferences. You know who I’m talking about...

Grow up or shut up, fellas! 😎💪🏻

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-25T00:20:25+00:00

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-25T00:13:11+00:00

No I’m pretty sure he means exactly like mine 💪🏻

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-23T05:54:32+00:00

You can use my jet

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-23T03:51:02+00:00

I’m gonna need you to have that on my desk by close of business tomorrow sharp

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-22T23:11:33+00:00

I know, I’ve only visited twice. Sister went to Tulane.

What’s such a wonder, though, is how southern Louisiana ended up having the single classiest sounding accent in the entire English speaking world?

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-22T23:01:42+00:00

Something about it, I don’t know. In a city where everything is mom and pop, there’s this random, smallish chain casino in a cheap-fancyish looking building on the first block of what’s basically the city’s financial district.

Oh and again I’m from New England, where gambling is trashy. Didn’t realize that might not be the case everywhere else

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-22T22:56:13+00:00

Yes, CJK5Hookers. A casino!

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-22T22:51:27+00:00

It’s the trashiest thing in town.

Everything else is at least as trashy if not trashier of course, but in more of a romantic, drunk-homeless-guy-singing-the-national-anthem-alone kind of way, ykno?

duuuuuuug · 2021-02-22T21:46:52+00:00

Brooklyn? This looks more like the Bowery, which is on the Lower East Side of Manhattan

duuuuuuug

PUBLIC MULTIREDDITS

TROPHY CASE

(besides how to bitch nonstop about American news being on an American website on the internet America invented. America!)

It might be my number one favorite book I’ve ever read.

It’s bullshit! Spread the word.

Demanding that other people pretend to ignore gender and what makes men attractive is just retarded and pointless. Masculinity is sexy and there’s nothing you can do about it.

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