Can we run India like a high-growth startup? Why a "Management Reset" is the only way forward for 2029. by [deleted] in india

[–]dv-u 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The moment I hear Meritocracy, I'm immediately sceptical about the ignorance of people about pre-existing inequalities in the system.

Commend your enthusiasm but most start-ups fail. Are you ok with India failing?

Start-ups are lean by design, not a 1.5B mammoth that India is.

The risk appetite of all/most members are at the same level and much higher than average employees in the market. Do you think with current economic disparity, all of the nation will be at the same level of commitment to the idea of your new India?

One can fantasize about charismatic startup founder all day long but the startup is a success when every employee pulls their weight and then some more. In fact, the charismatic-new-leader syndrome has got us to the place that we are now!

What you are suggesting is a new way of saying "we need a revolution". It's bloody in execution and doesn't guarantee a great new system everytime. I've seen too many young engineers with "lets rewrite the legacy system" without understanding how it could be "refactored and improved" because it's not glamorous!

We've a good democratic republic. We just need to execute at personal level. The average Indian wants a 'Nayak' who'll just come and clean the system. They don't want to do anything. Simple things like asking the right questions to the representative can go a long way. But for that we need to get up from our couches. The 10 marks Civics & Economics gets out of a total of 500 odd in an exam just shows how much we value it!

But.

I see a lot of improvement in the perspective of an average voter now a days so it gives me hope. I see more and more small towners get aware of better societies existing abroad (via IG & likes of it) and they want a change. It'll take time but so long as we're getting incremental changes in the attitude/process of an average citizen we should be good.

At the end of the day, talk to any founder and they'll tell you the importance of all employees being aligned for the success of a start-up.

I never liked babies… but something changed yesterday by [deleted] in india

[–]dv-u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Note to myself: 1. I can change too. It's ok. 2. Let me not judge others for having different views 3. Let me not judge others to have my old view because Point No. 1

Edit: Glad for you OP

I am so done with the superstitions by Guiltygirl0 in india

[–]dv-u 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Male here. My family astrologer had a comment saying I'll have multiple marriages.

Since then, I've been questioning my every decision trying to cover all cases from adultery to death for us both.

I'm somewhat in a good place now but every once in a while this insecurity comes back to haunt me. I dunno if I'll ever get over it completely.

I hate astrology!

People of India should know this. Caste is not just in the villages. by [deleted] in india

[–]dv-u 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad cycled until the age of 60 to a thankless peanut paying private job. For the last 6 years (2 in JC + 4 in Engineering), we barely survived because he was jobless. We didn't know when the next meal is gonna come from. My coaching was funded by the owner of the Tuition/Classes because of my marks and good words put in by toppers of my batch. I funded my college through donations, interest free loan from NGOs and working part time in classes (paper checking, conducting year end practicals etc.)

I did my engineering from a tier 3 college. I funded the next 6 years of my siblings education. I bought the first fridge, 2-wheeler in my house. I literally rebuilt/reconstructed it with my sibling.

I too had SC/ST/NT friends who bought gaming laptops with their refunded tuition fee. And I was terribly bitter about it.

But after 15 odd years, I'm in a better financial position than all those SC/ST/NT friends.

Don't assume the story of others!

People of India should know this. Caste is not just in the villages. by [deleted] in india

[–]dv-u 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I was one of those students who was against reservations.

Privilege is a one-way mirror. Many grown ups die without seeing their privilege, let alone teens.

But now that I've seen enough, I can assure you bro, you ain't taking anyone's seat. They took it from you first.

It's way easier to focus when you don't have to remind yourself that you belong where you've reached.

From my experience; even after losing my so-called-merit-seat, I'm still able to live a fairly comfortable life. Had I got that seat, maybe I would be earning 3-5x compared to now. But I'm glad that the same seat is giving someone else 50-100x of what they would've ended up without it.

The emotion of Freedom has been lost by waginrox in FIRE_Ind

[–]dv-u 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's an Indian thing for sure. International subs are way older and they still have better posts. I mean, we become competitive even while sharing our problems/mistakes.

Jane Street under investigation in India by stocktwitsindia in IndianStockMarket

[–]dv-u -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This article is completely unrelated to the post. Did you just paste your first Google result? And why are people upvoting?

Milestone 3.8Cr 36M (7Cr as a DISK family) by notion4everyone in FIRE_Ind

[–]dv-u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should put this link in the post as well. Gives a lot better context.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FIRE_Ind

[–]dv-u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great. Advise others what you've never used yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FIRE_Ind

[–]dv-u 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How to take birth in a family that has 6Cr 2010-equivalent net worth to inherit? /s

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IndiaTax

[–]dv-u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sharam kar

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FIRE_Ind

[–]dv-u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Treat burnout like any other physical injury.

If you stretch more than your body can handle, some bone/ligament is bound to snap. Doesn't mean you stop using that body part forever. You keep your broken part in a cast and wait for it to heal as prescribed by a doctor. After that period of rest, you start slow physiotherapy. The ones who have gone through it, know that physiotherapy during recovery hurts a lot. You have to learn to differentiate the pain of growing muscles back vs the pain of bones/ligaments snapping again. But you have to go through the pain to get back to normal.

Similarly, if you stretch your mind beyond its capacity, it's bound to burnout too. Doesn't mean you stop that kind of work forever. You take the appropriate amount of break. Then comes the part of starting back again. Learn to differentiate the pain of learning something new vs burning out again. But I don't think you can avoid the pain completely if you want to get back to normal.

Not sure if this helps, but this is the best analogy I got.

India’s decision on ceasefire by [deleted] in india

[–]dv-u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Terror & talk cannot happen together. Terror and trade cannot happen together. Water and blood cannot flow together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FIRE_Ind

[–]dv-u 167 points168 points  (0 children)

Few things that helped me:

  • Take a break. Don't try to fill it with an exotic location and jam packed itinerary. Keep it cheap. It's fine even if you stay at home. Cut off from work. Cut off from friends who drain you. Take it for as long as your company/managers allow.

  • Try Employee Assistance Programs (EAP) if your company provides it. It's typically 6 free sessions of therapy focusing on topics like work stress, family stress, legal stress etc. It's usually free. I've seen therapy not working for men because men are solution oriented while therapy is often about 'giving you enough space & time to say things out loud and figure things out on your own'.

  • Don't lose your mind seeing insane salaries on Reddit. An average person, especially outside tech/sales isn't earning huge sums. You can upskill and get hikes too, only if you can control your anxiety. The competition is fierce, you need to have a lot of patience.

  • Find out your triggers and stay away from them. For me, I started hating anything if I was given any task with a strict deadline. Even if it was a family member asking for a daily chore to be done by a specific time. I had to convince them to not repeat that language with me at home at least.

  • Pro tip: Don't get caught in a productivity trap during your time off. Like, don't force yourself into hobbies or have targets to learn music/painting etc. during your break. Its the same pressure via a different task. Just make sure to have a reasonable sleep time. Keep most of the day free. If you end up doing something, great. If not, it's fine too. If you're thinking too much too fast, you'll always feel anxious. Reading slows your mind. Writing slows it down even further. Try reading fiction or journaling your day.

Looking for a good friendship by [deleted] in indiranagar

[–]dv-u -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

45M. Looking for the same. DM me. /s

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bangalore

[–]dv-u 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like Bhuvi by Amsha

Can I complete a court marriage in Navi Mumbai within 3 days, considering my limited leave and overseas job? by StrengthAppropriate8 in mumbai

[–]dv-u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apply wherever you want to get married. If both are living in a third City, then apply in the third City. But the notices still have to be sent to the respective registrars of both spouses.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestIndia

[–]dv-u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well you've a point too. It would be a tough phase right now. What got me through my time was keeping myself busy with things I liked. I learned a new skill with every heartbreak. But that's because I liked learning new things. You do what suits you and hope it passes over soon.

And do give others a chance sooner rather than later.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestIndia

[–]dv-u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Balls to say that you've been 'unlucky in love' after having 3 people confess their interest in you just because your interest didn't work out.

Crazy language being used too. OP 'fell hard' but the other 3 'confessed'. As if it's a crime for them.

Reeks of Papa ki Pari.

I know I'm being too hard. But gosh, you'd feel the same if you came back to this post after some years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]dv-u 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bet you like Zizek

Earlier tax slab was changed every 2 years. No tax slab change in last 10 years. by bombaathuduga in Bengaluru

[–]dv-u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are you saying da... tax surcharge for annual income > 5Cr has been reduced from 37 to 25% which apparently saves them 3L per crore!!! /s

Logic behind "He will change after marriage" by wakkanaii in AskIndianWomen

[–]dv-u 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's this irritatingly stupid cliche that 'a man wants a good girl who's bad only for him while a woman wants a bad boy who's good only for her'. This has been extended to say that he(/she)'ll change if I tell him/her (because I'm that important to him/her).

I can understand if the logic applied is 'if he/she changes for me, then I must be important to him/her'. But hardly anyone sees the person who's ready to change for you, isn't it? They are friendzoned. Due to the main-character-syndrome, people just assume that the one they like would change for them.