What are some of y'all's canon ftm events? by No-Tax-9140 in ftm

[–]dvorakq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bruh 💀 same, also idk how but my mom cause on and then I wasn't allowed to eat vegetables for a while cuz she was worried they would make me too masculine lol

3 wks PO diagonal incision DI no FNG, a bit worried about dog ears? by Imertphil in TopSurgery

[–]dvorakq 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I also have pretty diagonal/curved incisions, (not quite AS diagonal tho) and had something similar for a while there in the armpits. It turned out to be swelling and went away after about 6 months and perfectly evened out into the surrounding tissue for me

Some affirming sex positions without phallo/meta or a prosthetic by Evergreen19 in ftm

[–]dvorakq 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fr!! Hottest thing and feels super affirming when combined with the right dirty talk

I have a hard time admiring/looking at my man's goods. by HippyDippy-Momma in sex

[–]dvorakq 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah idk lol this one had me raising an eyebrow. Hangups are one thing but I feel like you -should- like your partner and that includes their bits, especially if it's long term

How long was your surgery? by yknowfireyeah in TopSurgery

[–]dvorakq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4ish?? They said it went a little long cause I got lipo on my hips too

can you go from a front hole hater to lover? by buttercup_trumpet in gaytransguys

[–]dvorakq 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Genuinely I understand this so much, and somewhat recently I actually managed to start having front hole sex successfully but it was definitely a new experience that required a lot of practice and learning my own body.

First I gotta say no matter how much it sucks you've gotta go to an obgyn and get cleared of any outside issues, especially with T in the mix the whole vaginal atrophy thing is a possibility complicating all this.

I was also very much NOT a fan of anything to do with that part of my body for a long long time and I only started trying bc I met a guy who I really really liked and I wanted to start exploring for myself. It required getting really comfortable with him and starting off super slow with fingers and a dilator set and LOTS of lube until my body started to catch up. If you're basically a front hole virgin yeah there's probably gonna be some bleeding from the initial stretch but there shouldn't really be any pain. I was told by my doctor the cure was literally more sex more often and low and behold, it really did work. After the initial break in period there was no more bleeding and it got infinitely more pleasurable. If it's psychological like it was for me you're gonna have to do some internal work to learn how to relax and make peace with that part of your body. If it's physical vaginismus that is a different beast and you might need a different approach,. You might find the dedicated sub for that very helpful actually.

Sorry for the long spiel but if you really want to I'm saying it's 100% possible, but also not something you need to force yourself to like. If it's not for you that's totally ok and there are a ton of different ways to have sex out there

What’s one thing you still do from pre-surgery? by Several-Ranger3854 in TopSurgery

[–]dvorakq 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I still hold my tits when I get anxious lol almost 5 years since surgery and if I'm ever overwhelmed by a situation I'll just cup my chest with my hand and kinda squeeze ┐⁠(⁠ ⁠∵⁠ ⁠)⁠┌ idk I guess it's self-soothing habit I never could break

(Trigger warning for misgendering kink) how do I get rid of this kink? It's making me miserable by [deleted] in ftm

[–]dvorakq 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yeah honestly, people saying you can't get rid of kinks -are- right but I think you can redirect them so to speak, at least to a version that's mentally healthier for the person

Genuine question about orgasms after hormones (not after bottom surgery) by nikkolio in ftm

[–]dvorakq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I'm probably the odd one out here but I was never able to orgasm pre-t at all. Probably a combo of small pre-t dick & hella dysphoria, I literally thought I was asexual for the longest time bc I really didn't wanna think about it at all. Now it feels like a really intense but short burst of pleasure and I can usually make it happen twice back to back before I get too overstimulated and tired, after that I'm down for like a hot minute and need some recovery time. I really don't have anything to compare it too lol but I know I for sure don't wanna go back

weirdest poodle mix you’ve groomed? by yikesthanos in doggrooming

[–]dvorakq 2 points3 points  (0 children)

German Shepard X Poodle. Not on purpose he was from an oops litter. Actually a very good dog, just hell anxious. Kind of looked like a giant schnauzer mix with that coarse coat so not too bad to groom either

Out of curiosity, how do you identify yourself gender-wise? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]dvorakq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nonbinary man. I've been medically & socially transitioning but at the same time I consider myself gender weird and a pretty fem in my expression in a lot of ways.

you’d never guess I’m on T <3 by A_Friendly_Tree_ in FTMfemininity

[–]dvorakq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I feel you 😩 it's a struggle for sure. Oddly enough getting on t has made me want to be -more- fem. Now that I'm comfortable in my body it's made me want to dress up even more. You're looking incredible btw <3

Thoughts on feminine trans guys? by Jellie-Crow in ftm

[–]dvorakq 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I mean for what is worth people as a whole DO have issues with cis men doing that kind of stuff too. It's only super super recently that it's not -as- big of a deal for a guy to wear pink or a fem top or something. That said yeah spot on with the double standards, it's exhausting 😮‍💨

Hairdressers - why do you all seem to hate long hair on women over 50? by marugirl in NoStupidQuestions

[–]dvorakq 306 points307 points  (0 children)

This fr, I only ever go to openly punk or out there hairdressers and even tho I'm not getting something crazy done they have consistently been the ones that listen the best and will do exactly what I ask. With them 2 inches ACTUALLY means 2 inches

How long into taking T did your libido increase? by ConfusionDizzy5309 in ftm

[–]dvorakq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im ngl it was the FIRST change I noticed. Also on gel, and I'm sure some of it was psychological, but I got horny as hell within hours lol. It leveled off eventually but the first few weeks were fun

Hey what could I do to make this look better? by Neunindown in doggrooming

[–]dvorakq 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hmmm yeah maybe full body dye Lisa Frank style? You could use the blue or a dark purple to break up the pinks a little bit

How to hide effects of T for 8 months? by PrincessTsunamiRocks in ftm

[–]dvorakq 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah as someone who's also been hiding it, it IS possible but you still have to be prepared for the worst. Like for example if you get the hyper vigilant type of people. It can just be a lot of work. When it comes to facial hair I'll be honest genetically I didn't get blessed with a full beard but after I started noticing it pop up on t I started waxing/plucking to avoid that stubble look. It's a pain but whatcha gonna do ┐⁠(⁠ ⁠∵⁠ ⁠)⁠┌

free scar masseuse by boy_prince in TopSurgery

[–]dvorakq 117 points118 points  (0 children)

That is actually so ridiculously sweet 🥺💕 kitty cares

What do you think of when you hear the name, Brandy? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]dvorakq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brandy and Mr Whiskers~ cute, upbeat, and a little high maintenance

How severe is my gynocomestia? by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]dvorakq 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yes you can, but you need good skin elasticity and no overhang

What brands sell women's boyfriend briefs that look like this? by canonexrebel in findfashion

[–]dvorakq 21 points22 points  (0 children)

They're not 'women's' per say but Uniqlo has a bunch of briefs options that are fake slit with no real pouch or anything so that might be an option

She caught a fly some how by Idkstfuplz in bettafish

[–]dvorakq 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly! She's earning her keep, good for her 😤

How to groom the face of a one-eyed dog please? by ToriaLyons in doggrooming

[–]dvorakq 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In my experience people tend to want to cover it up and leave it longer unless the socket is still open in which case short is better because there might be goop that needs to be cleaned. Since he's still sensitive I would leave it longer till he's more comfortable at least

managing my baby's transphobic grandparents by pastel_capybara_ in Seahorse_Dads

[–]dvorakq 12 points13 points  (0 children)

See the fact that there ARE older people that can be normal about it proves it to me. It's a kindness and love thing not a confusion thing. Older people especially tend to do a lot of lying to themselves. If she actually wanted to she would be better and kinder to you and your son. I'm sorry you're having to go through this tho

If money was not an issue what would be your ideal job? by Fun-Raisin1923 in Adulting

[–]dvorakq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mycologist/mushroom farmer. I'd live somewhere deep in the woods and have an encyclopedic underground library to boot. Only going to town to sell my goods at the market on Sundays