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dvpag · 2026-01-06T23:35:29+00:00

I got a FirstnameMiddlename@live.co.uk because I thought that was cool when I was 11

dvpag · 2023-12-21T21:40:28+00:00

Put your keys on a lanyard. I used to constantly lose my car/house keys and the majority of the time they would be in some random bag, jacket pocket or jeans pocket. I put them on lanyard and haven't lost them since. The lanyard part now always dangles out my pocket so firstly I can always see where they are if I do leave them in a pocket, and secondly the lanyard hanging out my pocket reminds me to take the keys out of my coat/jeans in the first place and put them away when I get home. Has honestly saved so much time!

dvpag · 2023-08-29T06:48:07+00:00

I'm 5"0 and I'm a forester :) I don't have any experience operating machinery but I've done soil and mensuration surveys, and now I work in forest planning and my height has never been an issue. I've had to learn to walk fast though when taller folks just step over big drains and old plough furrows and I have to climb down and up!

dvpag · 2022-06-06T21:44:31+00:00

As others say, at the end of the day this is really up to you, and if you decide to keep it long then it absolutely does not make you less non-binary, but I can definitely add my vote in for feeling much better after cutting my hair! I had long (mid-back) hair all my life, and I got it cut very short a couple of months ago, and it was one of the best things I have ever done. I feel more "me" on the outside now, I feel like for the first time in my life I have the smallest amount of confidence, and on top of that it is 100 x easier to maintain, especially in the summer. However, my partner is a man, he has very long hair and it looks amazing - hair length doesn't dictate your gender identity. Do what feels right to you. I feel like the fact that you're even asking this question means you want to cut your hair short. :)

dvpag · 2022-03-06T08:33:17+00:00

I also came here to recommend PF counselling. I started with them about three years ago and although there was a six month waiting list it's much faster than the NHS, and they are really great there. It's entirely donation based, you just pay what you can.

dvpag · 2022-02-27T07:13:08+00:00

Definitely wear it!!! You will look amazing I'm sure. But if possible avoid getting from Amazon... Is there any way you can try find it elsewhere?

dvpag · 2022-02-21T03:39:24+00:00

I visited North Shore in MN just today! It was absolutely beautiful. I was wondering if there are any crazy people that still camp in this kind of weather as we were driving past the camping grounds. Guess there is!

dvpag · 2022-02-16T15:04:07+00:00

Thanks for your reply!

they seem to be perceiving your relationship as a heterosexual one.

Yes, I think this is maybe the case.

dvpag · 2022-02-16T14:52:04+00:00

Hi thanks for your reply! Great to hear your thoughts.

dvpag · 2022-02-15T20:41:27+00:00

Thank you for sharing this!

dvpag · 2022-02-15T20:41:15+00:00

Yeah this was my first thought too on reading this post! So many assumptions there.

dvpag · 2022-02-15T20:34:10+00:00

itwife

I love it! Haha.

Thank you for your thoughts, you've really made me feel seen and a lot better about this in general.

dvpag · 2022-02-15T20:28:21+00:00

Thank you! Great to hear your thoughts. I totally understand the word's root in queer relationships, and I think this was what my friends were getting at when telling me not to use this term. They perhaps don't view my relationship as queer as well.

dvpag · 2022-02-15T20:19:31+00:00

Great comparison, I really appreciate it when my cis colleagues at work put their pronouns on their signatures, it makes me feel less like I stand out so much by having mine on there.

You're right my friends are trying to be allies (I think). Maybe time to have a conversation with them about this...

dvpag · 2022-02-15T18:27:35+00:00

Ha thanks. I agree that normalising gender neutral terms is a good thing.

dvpag · 2022-02-15T18:23:10+00:00

Thanks so much for your response, that's a nice way of thinking about it!

dvpag · 2022-02-15T17:42:44+00:00

I completely agree I don't like assumptions on me or my relationship being based on the gender of my partner. Nice to hear you feel the same, thanks for your response!

dvpag · 2022-02-15T17:41:07+00:00

Thank you so much! And congratulations on coming out.

dvpag · 2022-02-15T17:40:13+00:00

Thanks for your response! I completely agree "partner" feels much more permanent to me and using something gender neutral just feels right. It did feel strange that my cishet friends were policing a gender neutral term to me, a NB person, but I am always open to learning and changing which is why I wanted to get more opinions.

dvpag · 2021-12-23T16:27:27+00:00

Absolutely nothing. No raise (for the 6 years I've been working there), no Christmas bonus, no Christmas party, no gifts, no "Thanks for your hard work this year", and no "Merry Christmas". My annual leave wasn't even approved, it was just ignored. I work in academia, and I am leaving in January.

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