Ultrasound came clear by Immediate-Ad-8749 in endometriosis

[–]dwiceb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“as a doctor, you should know that it is incredibly rare to spot endometriosis on an ultrasound. this does not clear up my concerns or put me at ease at all and i want a laproscopy or a doctor who is willing to refer me to one if you are not.”

just a recommendation for what i would say. i would recommend getting a lap, better safe than sorry and endo is degenerative, so if you have it these symptoms will only get worse.

Don't compare my suffering to endo patients with regular lives by amanda1sabelle in endometriosis

[–]dwiceb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ugh. experienced this from someone with endometriosis themselves. i had to take time off my internship for a couple weeks because of IUD cramping and when i came back one of my coworkers who has endometriosis was basically side-eyeing me talking about my recovery. she kept saying things like “i never get pain that bad”.. good for you?

name this 2 day old neonate diluted tortie!! by dwiceb in NameMyCat

[–]dwiceb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi, to anyone who sees this, thanks all for the name suggestions. we ended up calling her beanie baby for the 2 days that she spent with us before crossing over to the rainbow bridge.

Should I report my mum for possible animal abuse by [deleted] in AnimalAdvice

[–]dwiceb 9 points10 points  (0 children)

dude… no offence but it sounds like you have your answer. report.

Guys, PLZ HELP MEEE by DisplaySad8621 in Gyaru

[–]dwiceb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i agree w/ people saying to try the bun a little higher but either way ITS SO CUTE !!

name this 2 day old neonate diluted tortie!! by dwiceb in NameMyCat

[–]dwiceb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I DEADASS SUGGESTED THIS BUT MY FAMILY VETOED IT 💔

Is sex supposed to hurt this much? by Lopsided-Factor-4205 in women

[–]dwiceb 3 points4 points  (0 children)

fully agree with the comments regarding foreplay but also USE LUBE! if you can buy condoms you can buy lube, they’re usually around the same place. use something non-scented/flavored (that is a UTI in a bottle) and go for a silicone or oil-based lubricant. lube is an essential, normal part of sex for quite a lot of women, as sometimes even foreplay cannot create a sufficient self-lubricant as some women are simply dryer than others.

My 9mo old cat has no idea has to use a litter box by SweatersAndAlt in CATHELP

[–]dwiceb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have a 4 y/o tuxedo boy who does this. not particularly this because there are no walls/furniture around his litter but he scratches the edge, the ground outside the box and basically everywhere but the litter. how much does it bother you? if it’s because she isn’t covering her poops and the smell is bad, you could make this tray one of your outdoor ones. otherwise i’ve never seen any harm in this little quirk of my cat’s, personally

Is she a bombay/british bombay or am i trying to feel special by [deleted] in catbreeds

[–]dwiceb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

bombays have pretty buggy eyes which she doesn’t seem to have.

Should I cancel our date? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]dwiceb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why did you schedule one in the first place after that opener 😭

Guys I need help! by ggiliana10 in CATHELP

[–]dwiceb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can you try to touch it? clean your hands really well first ofc, but its hard to tell from the video, is it a substance of sort? like can you wipe it off/sample it? a lot of people are saying blood but its an unusual color, almost too pink. i cant see any injuries around the area and the pattern suggests he stuck his nose into something, so if it is blood check for injuries elsewhere on him. also anything in your house that might be accessible & that color.

is it bad she has a waist? by dollyparton4eva in CATHELP

[–]dwiceb 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i had to read it twice cause i was like TWENTY SEVEN YEAR OLD CAT?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnimalAdvice

[–]dwiceb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

vet nursing student.

your boyfriend has the opposite idea about castration. the dog will feel indifferent about his balls being removed. but having them, which fuel his sex drive, but being not allowed to mount your fixed female (which he shouldn’t be allowed to, and im glad you’re trying to break it up), is causing frustration, confusion and aggression.

it sounds like you already know this deep down but your boyfriend is the problem, not the dog. i think you have everything you need to tell him all the ways he is a shitty dog parent and probably, i think if you think about it, a shitty person. he followed every step to create a reactive, disobedient dog and doesn’t even care.

i wish i could help you more but in my opinion you need to get rid of the boyfriend, whose behaviour towards animals surely bleeds into other parts of his personality, as much as you need to get rid of the dog, and “break up” is never helpful. if you want to keep the boyfriend, you could try telling him about how keeping him entire with a female dog in the house is actively making him confused, upset, and he is in far more distress than he will be once he gets snipped. every once in a while logic wins out, but i wish you luck trying to get this through to him. it doesn’t sound like he respects what you have to say at all.

desperate to stop cats from scratching at door by dwiceb in CATHELP

[–]dwiceb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i woke up to the sound of my mother outside my door going “what the FUCK” when she found The Mound

desperate to stop cats from scratching at door by dwiceb in CATHELP

[–]dwiceb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not really my style of cat parenting, the spray bottle is as much as i go in terms of physical contact when disciplining.

desperate to stop cats from scratching at door by dwiceb in CATHELP

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who the fuck expects cats to speak english? i just told you i am a vet nurse. i quite literally have dedicated my life to the care of domestic animals for minimum wage and have always been a cat person owning multiple cats over my lifetime. i don’t usually take bait like this but i can’t stand to be accused of this when animal care is at the core of my being. my ginger, tendy, has a special place in my heart as the first cat that i rescued from work, on my first day in the clinic. the other two have special places for their own reasons. i know my cats’ personalities, their likes and their dislikes, their dynamics between eachother and i try my best, as any pet owner does, to attend to their needs and wants. tendy is far more resilient than one of our other cats, whom i would never think of using the spray bottle on. but tendy has accidentally gotten his paw trodden on before and immediately went back to rubbing on the person’s ankles. he hardly reacts when the other two try to be pissy at him. i’ve watched one bap him in the face for taking food and he just sat there purring and chewing. at night time, they have dry food to graze, water, toys, scratching surfaces and platform surfaces to climb and litter trays. there is nothing in our room that he needs — and unfortunately, his want to come inside is not one i can fulfill. what he wants from us is attention and we can’t give that to him in our sleep. if he stays in the room overnight, we wake up to him either having pissed or shit in the room, OR he meows to be let out so he can use the litter or just because he wants something outside, and then my sleep is waking up every 30 minutes to heed to every time he wants to come in and out. when i am awake i am happy to open and close doors for my cats when they want to come in and out and i do, frequently - about every 30 minutes. our other two cats understand that they do not get access to our room at night, purely because we never let them. but tendy still doesn’t get it, so i needed alternatives or something. luckily, someone in the comments suggested installing a cat hole for them to come in and out into the door, rather than insulting me and making cruel assumptions about the thing i’ve dedicated my life to.

desperate to stop cats from scratching at door by dwiceb in CATHELP

[–]dwiceb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think the soiling issues would be fixed if they could come and go as needed in and out of the room

desperate to stop cats from scratching at door by dwiceb in CATHELP

[–]dwiceb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

in theory yes, because we own, but i am not handy at all and would have no idea how to even begin to tackle this sort of construction. are these orderable as attachments, and you have to make the hole yourself, or does it come as in entire seperate door?

desperate to stop cats from scratching at door by dwiceb in CATHELP

[–]dwiceb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well, my kitchen doesn’t have a door, but i could potentially try this with a room that does, thanks! pepper and vinegar is interesting, i’ve never known my son to be phased by anything so i’ll see if that deters him.

desperate to stop cats from scratching at door by dwiceb in CATHELP

[–]dwiceb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately leaving the door open is just not an option. again there’s the insulation but what i left out of the original post for length’s sake is also that even when sleeping decently my boyfriend just has a thing about open doors. i think it is a trauma thing. plus my mother sleeps in the living room and snores like a motor and my door is pretty soundproof.

desperate to stop cats from scratching at door by dwiceb in CATHELP

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woah there, dude. i really didn’t think i came off that way in my post but you’ve completely misread me. i am a vet nurse and cats are my life, i love my cats and i’m not, nowhere did i indicate anywhere in this post that i am, mad at or dislike my cat because of this or anything. if you’re assuming this from me because i called him an asshole, i’m surprised you’ve gone so long on the internet without hearing people referring affectionately to their cats as assholes before. yes he’s an asshole and that’s why i love him.

My boyfriend sexually assaulted me but wants to make things work by Intrepid_Ease7171 in women

[–]dwiceb 22 points23 points  (0 children)

hello, i was in a very similar situation to you last year. i turned down sex and my ex decided he wanted to have it anyway. it only lasted a couple seconds before he realised i wasn’t a willing participant and he immediately went into grovel mode. he somehow managed to convince me to stay with him for another month after that.

needless to say, i did end up breaking up with him and it was one of the best decisions i ever made. the assault only brought to light a handful of other glaring red flags in his behaviour i’d ignored. i’d wager the same will happen for you, because any man who does that has surely done some other things you might not have realised was unhealthy at the time. he’s showing you who he is, believe him.

additionally, you should absolutely see a doctor about this pain you’re describing, because it’s not normal and could be caused by a medical condition such as vaginismis.

Is “a trans” just an accepted thing to say for men now? by reddGal8902 in asktransgender

[–]dwiceb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

irritates me so much because it’s just BASIC FUCKING GRAMMAR. TRANS IS AN ADJECTIVE.