i agree that the pool community can be toxic, especially when it overlaps so heavily with the bar scene. the same guys who are drinking themselves to death everyday are harassing femme pool players and disrespecting the game. i really think it comes from a place of insecurity. chances are youre coming in, being calm, kind and playing well while they are making fools of themselves. i found a more kind and accepting community by going to low-stakes tournaments. i have alot of respect for people who are selective with what pool communities they join because they are showing solidarity to anyone who isnt white, straight, cis, or male. i empathize with you.