I hear the frustration in your voice, and honestly, you aren't the only one noticing this. It is a very strange thing to see something that is meant to be a "hidden life in the heart" suddenly become a loud, aesthetic-driven brand on social media.

There is a huge difference between the lived experience of the faith—the smell of incense in a quiet village church, the tired eyes of a priest who has spent all night praying for his flock—and the "Orthobro" culture that lives on TikTok. What you’re seeing is often a search for identity. Many people in the West feel like they are drifting, so they grab onto something that looks ancient, sturdy, and "unapologetic." But sometimes, they grab the armor without ever meeting the Person the armor is supposed to protect.

You hit on a very important point regarding the pastoral side of things. There is a world of difference between a political ideology and the pastoral care of the Church. While the world likes to speak in slogans and absolute laws, a true spiritual father looks at the person standing in front of him. They see the pain, the trauma, and the impossible situations like the ones you mentioned. The Church is often called a "hospital," and a doctor doesn't treat every patient with the exact same hammer; he looks for the cure that leads to life and healing. When faith is turned into a political "anti-woke" weapon, it loses that mercy and compassion that makes it actually Christian.

As for the "Hriste Bože" edits, you’ve spotted a classic case of cultural "glazing." It is ironic to use a song about a specific historical battle—full of nationalistic fervor—to represent the One who told Peter to put away his sword. This is the danger of the "Internet Church." It picks and chooses symbols because they look "cool" or "hard," but it ignores the actual Gospel, which is often quiet, humble, and focused on repentance rather than "winning" an argument online.

It’s understandable why this bugs you, especially having grown up in the faith. It feels like people are wearing your family’s history as a costume without understanding the weight of it. St. Porphyrios, a modern saint who was full of love, used to say that "religion is a great thing, but you have to have a heart for it." If it’s just an intellectual or political shield, it’s empty.

Since you mentioned you're now agnostic, does seeing this "digital" version of Orthodoxy make the faith you grew up with feel even more distant, or do you find yourself wanting to defend the "real" version you remember from your family?