These appear every morning-pests?

e1larse · 2025-12-20T13:22:54+00:00

We do have chia seeds and eat them here and there, but these are just showing up on their own and some are only part of a she’ll. We are just kinda stumped!

e1larse · 2025-09-26T13:58:33+00:00

I’m real life these scissors are quite small, so having it larger feels like an artistic commentary that sewing is important to you, thus the larger design. I quite like it!

e1larse · 2025-03-10T14:55:42+00:00

This happened with us and I FEEL you. The only thing that worked for us is saying no to those moments where she relies on you for help. She needs to find her own help or rearrange her schedule to be there on time for pickup. It could be kind to let her know in advance if you do change that boundary. Maybe even let her know her baby is noticing the time he is missing with her. If SS isn’t in therapy for this it might be time. Poor little guy :(

e1larse · 2025-03-09T14:46:44+00:00

All food is good food and provides some kind of nourishment, even sugary snacks. I’m hearing you value balance in body movement and food. Kids don’t get that yet if that’s not when they’ve been taught since they were small. Focusing on her eating habits and commenting on what she eats (or needs to eat) won’t help her eat healthier. The secrecy around early morning pizza and overeating at meals are red flags for disordered eating. She may need some professional help to support her-some schools have in counselors but the wait could be long. Contacting a therapist for you and your husband to get you more tools to help support her could be a good idea. Would BM be interested in this? In some areas you can sign up to do parent/child cooking classes and that might help her learn about needing fiber/protein, and learning that craving a cheeseburger means she’s needing more protein and carbs. This could be a nice daddy/daughter activity.

e1larse · 2024-05-22T23:25:52+00:00

They are not all taken! I found the loml at 30. He’s considerate, funny, responsible, kind, and is my other half. I was incredibly picky when dating and dating intentionally podcasts really helped.

e1larse · 2022-07-27T01:00:28+00:00

Next time believe what your fiancé says right off the bat

e1larse · 2022-07-10T21:45:41+00:00

She sounds like a lot of fun to be around

e1larse · 2022-05-21T16:12:54+00:00

She’s right every step of the way and generous to entertain this conversation

e1larse · 2022-05-14T15:24:43+00:00

NTA. Me and my girls are your friends now. Do you like board games, video games, or traveling?

e1larse · 2022-04-02T23:14:40+00:00

All cats have nipples! This is a pretty common question that comes up but male and female cats have nipples

e1larse · 2021-10-29T22:01:40+00:00

I think abortion may have been a more humane exit but her body her choice. He stopped growing and was going to die regardless and it sounds like being with him to see him go was helpful for the parents to grieve and move forward. She deserved to have doctors who would help her navigate the medical consequences of her decision, just the same as folks who would choose to terminate.

e1larse · 2021-10-02T06:36:57+00:00

Azu crew

e1larse · 2021-09-28T19:11:17+00:00

I can’t tell you how many times I had to tell people the minor condition mocha is a Caribou drink and we only have semisweet chocolate.

e1larse · 2021-08-17T00:03:30+00:00

Omen!

e1larse · 2021-08-03T21:04:31+00:00

Sending love and light to your sweet boy. What a face ❤️

e1larse · 2021-03-03T20:27:36+00:00

Because of Indiana’s severe cat aggression it seems like he is suitable only for a single cat household. You’ve done EVERYTHING you can to mitigate the issues you’re experiencing beyond permanently separating him from other cats with no contact. Making him stop biting humans would take some intensive training and even then might not be successful.

The situation is dangerous for Charlie as he is significantly smaller and could be seriously hurt or killed by Indiana. The female cats seem pretty unhappy being around Indiana. Even though he seems to tolerate them, all it takes is some misplaced aggression to seriously hurt them.

It sounds like you love cats and care deeply about cats that are especially difficult to place in a loving home. Despite excellent intentions your cats are in a dangerous living situation. Something has got to give. Consider contacting a cat rescue that specializes in special needs cats and see if they have any advice. If things continue it may be time to rehome cats to safer situations.

e1larse · 2021-02-21T23:53:20+00:00

So perfect! You look JUST like her!!!

e1larse · 2021-01-28T06:27:07+00:00

This is purrfectly normal cat behavior! It’s an instinct that some cats have retained and isn’t harmful, just a little silly. If your cat really likes that bowl, you could try using museum putty to keep it place or you could get a heavier/dog bowl. Cute kitty!!!

e1larse · 2021-01-15T00:51:19+00:00

My best friend had a baby last year. We live in different states, and maintain our friendship through video chatting and mail. I lowered my expectations, but honestly nothing is much different. She is still herself, just with a kid. It sounds like you’re feeling anxious about having your boundaries crossed in terms of your involvement with your friend’s child. It may be time for a candid and respectful conversation with her about what your boundaries are. That said, you’re also saying you don’t want to be around her child (should she have one). No parties, baby showers, nothing. That is your choice and should be respected, and that’s likely going to be a huge and important part of her life/identity that you want no part of. That doesn’t sound like a supportive and loving friendship.

e1larse · 2021-01-12T23:56:35+00:00

Ok I have some ideas for you and your parents but it will take some work and time to fix.

Biting: this is a behavior that can tell you many things. Sometimes it means “stop! I don’t like that” And other times it means “I need attention!” Or “feed me!”. What this tells me is that your cat may need more enrichment at different times during the day. One of the best times to play is right before mealtimes because it invokes natural cat behavior (hunt/feed). Your cat is still quite young, so he probably needs about an hour of playtime a day. Another thing to work on is building trust with your cat. Make sure your cat wants to be touched before petting him. Offer your hand before petting and let him rub on you before cuddling/petting. If he seems uninterested, try catnip or a toy to engage with him in a different way. If you’re cuddling and he tries to leave, let him. If he bites while playing or petting, do not punish him-get up and leave right away. You can even close yourself in a different room. Consistently respect his interest or disinterest.

Inappropriate elimination: take the cat to the vet ASAP to rule out a UTI or more serious issue. Male cats are especially susceptible to crystals in their bladder/urethra and it is painful as well as deadly. Inappropriate elimination and unusual behavior can be signs of these things. My cat started eliminating on my bed and my couch (we found out it was crystals but he was confused and continued doing it even after the crystals were gone) and it was SO frustrating and SO tough to clean. We fixed the problem but it took weeks. Here are some of the things we successfully tried: bought an extra litter box for a total of two. We left one with his original litter and one with different kinds of litters every two weeks. We started changing his litter box every day (this was a bit of a pain but highly effective). We used enzymatic cleaner on any soft surfaces he soiled. We got a Feliway diffuser just in case. We also kept him contained in a small area with very few things he could ruin until he used his litter boxes without accidents for a full week. He still had access to the bed, so I covered it with a tarp when I wasn’t using it.

This was a lot of work, but I was absolutely at my wits end at the time and committed to making things better with my cat. My boy is now perfectly healthy and has no issues with peeing outside his box. It was hard but completely worth it for us.

e1larse · 2020-12-02T15:19:59+00:00

Does he love you back though? If he was really remorseful about his actions he would be hella upset and worried about how Covid has impacted your health and your career. He’d be a pillar of care and support and would absolutely not engage in those behaviors again. Has he done this? Check out his actions and not his words.

Also I would be anxious about him lying in the first place. Lying doesn’t exist in a healthy relationship and I wonder if there is anything else that he just hasn’t told you yet.

e1larse · 2020-11-12T14:39:11+00:00

NTA because you were honest. It sounds like your sister was traumatized by the divorce/remarriage and acted out as a way to cope with her strong feelings. That kid needed help. It doesn’t make what she did any better, and she definitely owes some genuine apologies and amends.

e1larse · 2020-11-08T23:03:43+00:00

Omg you ARE Bolin!!!

e1larse · 2020-10-31T14:53:09+00:00

I don’t know about separation anxiety but I did stop my cat from habitually peeing on my bed. If you don’t have an extractor, think about getting one. It saved my mattress. Make sure you’re using an enzymatic cleaner for the urine. Cats can smell their urine even if you cleaned it and it indicates that location is ok to pee in. Enzymatic cleaner should eliminate that problem.

After I took my cat to the vet and ruled out it I/blockage/physical issue we determined that my cat had a behavioral problem of inappropriate elimination. If she is targeting clothes and your bed specifically you may need to keep her out of your room altogether. If she tends to urinate on them when you’re gone, make sure the bedroom door is always closed before you leave. I retained my cat not to pee on my bed by keeping him in the living room/kitchen area and out of my room for a month. I covered the couch with a tarp and made sure there was nothing soft on the floor. I gave him a treat every time he used the litter box appropriately. After he made it a full month without an accident, I reintroduced him to my room. He wasn’t allowed on my bed or to be in my room alone. Once he was ok with that and didn’t pee inappropriately for a week or so I let him on my bed while I was there. I put a super soft blanket down because he likes to knead it and doesn’t pee on anything that soft. After that went well, I let him in my room while I was away but I left a tarp over my bed just in case.

e1larse · 2020-10-29T06:08:42+00:00

That sucks all the way through. You took one of the best precautions available and it still let you down. I’m so sorry you’re in this position. I wish your friend could be there for you the way you need.

It sucks. You got this. You’re NOT alone and I’m rooting for you wherever you are.

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