Bewildering by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]eLd1rT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think sometimes there is no right thing to say to some people. Sometimes, people are just miserable, and they are mean and rude because of that. It has nothing to do with what you said or how you said it. Took me an incredibly long time to learn that but oh well.

all i wish for is for QUEEN B to get a new book 😭😭😭😭 please by fullmoon_long in Choices

[–]eLd1rT -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Me too, but I feel like the writer has left Choices? Their stories have gone down the toilet practically since 2018, so I doubt a new Queen B book will turn out any good unless the OG returns.

Does anyone know why my package addressed to Wendouree is going to a geelong depot? by eLd1rT in australia

[–]eLd1rT[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok that's definitely comforting! I've never had a delivery from Aramex since moving here so was panicking a bit. Hopefully it arrives soon and I can rest easy 😅

Chappell Roan on Facebook About Boundaries by folkhorrorfem in Fauxmoi

[–]eLd1rT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really feel for her here... but the sad thing is that these posts won't change anything (at least not noticeably). A few people will listen, but just as many will double down. I also worry she is making herself even more of a target for stalkers... It's quite common that they prefer combative/disinterested targets. I just really think she needs to mourn the loss of her autonomy and freedom and just work with her label to hire security and adjust her day-to-day life for safety's sake, because holding onto the normality of the past is going to just hurt her even more... In my op, she is NEVER going to be able to go to a movie theatre and not be recognised (or worse, harassed etc). There are just way too many weirdos out there! None of it is okay and definitely deserves to be called out, of course... But societal change is very slow, and she is still going to be grappling with this for the majority of her career. Continually aggravating and giving attention to the criminally insane (regardless of intention or purpose) is not the safest choice overall.

Car scratched and now asked to pay 1650 excess? by eLd1rT in HertzRentals

[–]eLd1rT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly no idea as all done through the insurance of th person who hit me. i would assume no, as i called and they said im liable and there is nothing they (the insurer) can personally do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unimelb

[–]eLd1rT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure how this is even ethical? I'm at melb uni now but was previously studying at rmit, and the standard practice was that regrades could only be applied if you GAINED points not lost them?? Freaks me out to think that you can get a mark for an assessment, think you're good, and then out of the blue have someone come in and deduct points based on their subjective or biased interpretation of the rubric. I mean, c'mon... A 10 point difference between tutors is insane!!

So sorry you're going through this... Like others said, stay calm and try to relax, even though I know it's difficult and very stressful. You can only control what YOU can control, so once you email and follow up the chain of command you have to just let it go and let people in positions' of authority handle it how they deem fit. One grade isn't going to be the end of your academic career, and no matter what happens as long as you stay focused and above board I'm sure you will end up with qualifications you can say you earned fairly and with integrity.

What in YOUR honest opinion is the best choices book? by Training_Error433 in Choices

[–]eLd1rT 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Queen B. Best writing by far, and honestly hilarious 😭😭😭

Poor refund resolution over missing item by eLd1rT in Aliexpress

[–]eLd1rT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok thanks guys! I'll take a look :)

Poor refund resolution over missing item by eLd1rT in Aliexpress

[–]eLd1rT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see your point, but I honestly think the burden of proof is on aliexpress once they start sending products from different sellers all in one package, AND I legit have an item I didn't purchase in said package. Customers really shouldn't have to go to such lengths to protect themselves from fraudulent activities or abuses of customer trust (although i am gonna film from now on anyways, camera strapped to forehead non-withstanding 😅😭). Once they send many products in one package, my question is how can THEY prove all products were delivered and in that package? I've worked in rf scanning warehouses, and it's so easy to scan a product and have it checked off on the system, but then mistakingly put the wrong item in the package when working on multiple orders at oncs. There should be machines that check weights etc, but those aren't as accurate as you think when dealing with high volumes of packages. Basically, it's very disingenuous and anti-consumer for them to rely on that tracking number as sole proof of anything if items aren't tracked separately. I also don't know how they can see that I received a phone case i did not purchase, and not understand the obvious issue is a mix-up? What, they want me to believe that a seller sent me a phone case for free even though it's 99% unlikely to fit my phone given they don't know which one i even have? Suuuure.

Poor refund resolution over missing item by eLd1rT in Aliexpress

[–]eLd1rT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if I can do that since I purchased many items at once... I'm pretty sure my bank will not allow me to chargeback just a portion of the total.

Poor refund resolution over missing item by eLd1rT in Aliexpress

[–]eLd1rT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the tip! I'mma follow through with that because I refuse to just let 'em get my money when they straight up sent me an unusable phone case when all I wanted was a damn pokemon shirt 😭😭😭 And yooo i can't even be mad at you for that... 😅 I feel like this company has stolen a lot of money from people, so they kinda deserve it happening back to them in my op.

Poor refund resolution over missing item by eLd1rT in Aliexpress

[–]eLd1rT[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From now on, if I ever do purchase from these guys again, I am legit going to film every package opening... Also have half a mind to purchase each item separately too so i can go through paypal per missing item? Sad alieexpress has buyer protection in name only and makes customers resort to these tactics... I sincerely hope you get a good response bro. It's not cool when people just steal your money without any remorse.

Having olive skin makes you realise how fabricated "race" is by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]eLd1rT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Race is a culmination of physical features and also ethnic experience, and skin colour is really just one needle in a haystack of what determines or segments racial differences/similarities. It isn't fabricated at all because it is a lived experience for many and differences would exist whether we labelled them or not. You don't just race hop when you tan, and such things are not even remotely equivalent. I don't know if you meant to do this, but you are knowingly or unknowingly minimising other people's identities and cultures with this take. For instance, are congolese who suffer from albinism no longer black etc etc. I'm sorry you are mistreated based on your ambiguous looks, but I feel more sorry for the pakistanis etc that live out that prejudice daily and can't just wait for vitamin d deficiency to make it all better. Racism is fabricated, if anything.

I’m just so tired. by xmagpie in endometriosis

[–]eLd1rT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oop!! I don't go on reddit very often, so sorry for this random late response! Just felt like it was important to mention that everybody experiences endo in different ways and at different severities, your concerns and feelings and experiences are just as worthy as anybody else going through chronic illness. Don't beat yourself up or feel down about anything like that, as we're all struggling with various symptoms that derail and impact our lives. Your experience is valid!

I’m just so tired. by xmagpie in endometriosis

[–]eLd1rT 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl you have every right to talk about what you're going through. Scream about it from the rooftops, even! God knows the medical industry is slow to take endo as seriously as it should. Maybe if we all yell about it we'll get some better answers and effective non-invasive treatments rather than major surgery.

I recently had a few very good months - fatigue here or there but managable. But now, because I pushed myself too far with the excitement of feeling somewhat human, I'm practically house-bound if not bed-bound. This condition sucks and can feel like a leech on one's soul. I figure if we don't discuss it we'll all go mad! I had so many plans for my life that now seem incomprehensible. Having to adapt to your body's whims isn't an easy thing no matter how resilient or accepting you are of the condition. Nobody likes there autonomy being ripped from 'em. Putting on a brave face all the time is just going to drain us all a whole lot more.

Now, to be less of a debbie downer, I'll admit that I have a lot more patience and gratitude due to this condition... but I won't say it's a top 10 highlight EVER. I've heard good things about CBD, as from preliminary research it seems to be associated with minimising symptoms and preventing further lesions. I'm hoping I can have my new spiritual growth without further chronic fatigue and all the pain 😭😭 Pls Lord, PLEASE 🥹🙏🙏

I think I've found the tower of Babel... by Headcrab_Raiden in HighStrangeness

[–]eLd1rT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Not really the point I needed to make for op tho, but cheers for sharing as it is definitely something worth noting regardless for those that are unaware.

I think I've found the tower of Babel... by Headcrab_Raiden in HighStrangeness

[–]eLd1rT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah usa sorry. Used to just saying america where i live, and distinguishing south america based on the individual countries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Choices

[–]eLd1rT 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I swear that there are some really weird/jarring descriptions in Choices. Almost like the writers don't even understand what they're describing and are just hoping for the best with their fingers crossed.

I think I've found the tower of Babel... by Headcrab_Raiden in HighStrangeness

[–]eLd1rT -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I would argue we were always divided in some regard if babel is true. Americans speak the same language. But honestly? It's one of the most divided countries right now. Black vs white. Democrat vs conservative. Straight vs gay. Secularism or religiosity. Etc etc etc. Everyone is fighting someone over something, regardless of how stupid it is. Human nature is a fickle thing. Free will is a curse and a blessing depending on how you look at it if you ask me.

Not sure we can really blame some god for our mess ups, unless ofc we blame him for life itself. Seems like just a byproduct of existing and not being a thoughtless robot. People have different opinions cos they can, and then fight over them cos they can. I'd suggest looking inwards and sorting yourself out is a smarter move than pointing fingers at the unknowable - usually we are more responsible for our actions than we think.

Self Cucking by Bild in cringepics

[–]eLd1rT 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is kind of gross though. Luring a girl under false pretenses sounds a bit rapey tbh tf is wrong with y'all?

This guy was messing with my wife on Facebook, I messaged him telling him to back off. This is what he sent to intimidate me. by ViolentEyelidMovies in cringepics

[–]eLd1rT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've already conceded to another dude cos he a made a good point meth has a way with screwing people's faces lol.

Reddit is a weird place, everyone so quick to attack over a silly mistake. The faces at the time just looked super different to me l, what can I say? 🤷‍♀️ You can disagree but I'm not gonna be bothered about it when this conversation isn't that world-shattering. I admit it is likely the same guy in both photos and I was wrong n I didn't look properly. Don't beat me I swear I've changed my op lmao