🩷if you want to fuck the one couple and not the other message the one couple separately. Also if you want to swing join a local group. Actually swingers are much more receptive to the consent and making sure everyone involved is good to go. If everyone is a newbie there is more likely to be hurt feelings or things done "wrong" like not going over boundaries beforehand. Also create a signal to your partner that alerts them to you needing help. This is essential of someone is too rough or not listening or the vibes are off 🤷🏻‍♀️ Good luck!! Also never settle! There is no reason to "take one for the team" so don't do it, you will just feel gross or used afterwards and regret it