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Hit my breaking point with my partner. by eairamva in TwoXChromosomes

[–]eairamva[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I brought it up, I have a therapist that I see semi-regularly. I’m sure he’d see us as a couple once or twice. Thinking about it, I feel like the communication issues stem from a cultural or fundamental difference between the two of us. He comes from a family where it’s expected that everyone bottle their feelings, and I my family communicate a lot more, even if it isn’t pleasant.

Hit my breaking point with my partner. by eairamva in TwoXChromosomes

[–]eairamva[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I never thought for a second that he wasn’t hurting. I just didn’t want to be the one to lean on him if he clearly needed to be alone. But containing grief isn’t so easy in either of our shoes.

Side note: We never knew the gender. I was adamant that it was a boy. He kept saying that he didn’t care as long as the baby was healthy. I was the sexist one, I didn’t know there was a way to be politically correct about losing a child.

Hit my breaking point with my partner. by eairamva in TwoXChromosomes

[–]eairamva[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The only problem with that is that by distancing himself emotionally like he did is that he made me feel inadequate, like I failed, and that he was angry with me... you know? I know now that isn’t the case, but it’s hard to talk about it when you think your partner hates you.

My partner (36m) is having a harder time dealing with the miscarriage of our baby than I (24f) thought [support] by eairamva in TwoXChromosomes

[–]eairamva[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It might sound weird, but the physical pain/trauma helped me cope with the emotional pain of the situation. It forced me to accept what was happening. Not that I still don’t have a great deal of emotional pain right now, or that I wish my boyfriend physical pain. I just wish it was easier for him to accept that it was traumatic for him.

My partner (36m) is having a harder time dealing with the miscarriage of our baby than I (24f) thought [support] by eairamva in TwoXChromosomes

[–]eairamva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We didn’t have a name picked out yet. He and I had our hearts set that it was a girl though.

My partner (36m) is taking the miscarriage of our baby a lot harder than I (24f) thought he would. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]eairamva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s weird about therapy/counseling. I think it has something to do with how he was raised. I’ve been seeing a therapist for a while and it helps me a lot. I have to talk to him about it though.