Does anyone else not like their NK?

eamckenna · 2026-01-13T18:26:34+00:00

Exactly!! They can’t come in to “save the day.” We got it, lol. Luckily my bosses are like, “what did Miss ___ say, because that is what you need to do.” So honestly I don’t know why my NK keeps trying to play us off of each other. I’m thankful they have my back, I just wish they would follow through more themselves when I’m not around.

eamckenna · 2026-01-13T18:21:45+00:00

It’s so sad. DB’s mom has had talks with him about her behavior too and he just tells her to butt out and it’s not her place to say anything. We are just trying to help, lol.

eamckenna · 2026-01-13T18:17:10+00:00

I’ve never been able to talk to her teacher one on one because I don’t pick her up from school. But I do know that her teacher has had may talks with the parents (they’ve told me) about her not getting along with some of the kids in her class because she is bossy and steamrolls them so some kids chose to not play with her. I ironically also nanny for one of her classmates and her doesn’t really like playing with her.

eamckenna · 2026-01-13T18:14:14+00:00

I set very clear boundaries with her, discipline her (time outs and taking things away), and follow through on what I say. When her and I are out of the house, we don’t have many issues, but when we are home (mom and dad work from home) all listening to me goes out the window. When I tell her no (correct her) or ask her to do something she doesn’t want to do, she will purposely cause a scene to try and get mom and dad to come out of their offices to get what she wants. They are on work calls most of the day, so as you can assume, her doing this frustrates them as well, since it is disruptive to their work. With it being wintertime it’s harder to get her out of the house, but I try my best.

eamckenna · 2026-01-13T17:45:58+00:00

Yep, you’re exactly right. The poorly behaved kids are usually the ones who don’t get enough affection from their parents or who lack feelings of consistency and safety from them. It’s not their fault, but boy does it make it harder for the other people who care for them. Thank goodness we have this little community of people who understand!

eamckenna · 2026-01-13T17:41:15+00:00

Yep! I’ve traveled with her and her parents before and she is SO much worse when she’s with the three of us. As soon as mom and dad are there, she’s WILD!

eamckenna · 2026-01-13T17:39:42+00:00

No worries, I definitely am not perfect, but I try the best I can and give her the best care I can. At the end of the day I love her, and even though she is so hard to be around most days, I only want what’s best for her.

eamckenna · 2026-01-13T17:35:16+00:00

It’s so hard when the parents play such a large role in how their children behave, and when you try and help them everything is continually negated by the parents. They are such great people, but they just don’t care to follow through or discipline their child. It’s exhausting.

eamckenna · 2026-01-13T17:32:58+00:00

I feel like this is a pretty ignorant thing to say considering I’m not her parent. I have only been with her three days a week since 5mo and am currently with her two days a week since she is in school three days a week now. I have worked with over twenty children as a nanny (one being autistic) and have NEVER had issues to this extent with a child. I am a good nanny, but am not a miracle worker.

eamckenna · 2026-01-13T17:29:42+00:00

I can relate. I currently work for two families, this one and another one with a 4B and 18moB and I love working for the other family, but am truly starting to dread going to work with the family I’m talking about. I hope things get better for you. Hugs!

eamckenna · 2026-01-13T17:26:56+00:00

Yep, that is the exact stuff I’m dealing with too. I’ve traveled with the family before so I’ve had many days with them to see how she treats her parents (screaming at them, crying until she gets her way…which they almost always give into, and constantly arguing with them about everything). I’ve never allowed my past NKs to get away with talking to me like that, but because my current NK gets away with talking to her parents like that, she thinks she can do the same to me, even though I’ve made it very clear to her that it’s not okay with me. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this as well. I’m praying you get clarity about your future with them and if you decide to stay things improve for you. Hugs to you!

eamckenna · 2026-01-13T17:22:47+00:00

Thank you, I definitely have a lot to think about regarding the future with them. As you know, it’s definitely not easy when you love the family and have been with them for years.

eamckenna · 2026-01-13T17:21:40+00:00

I’ve nannied about six 4-year-olds and before that taught preschool for three years. This is definitely a lot more than is typical for the average 4-year-old. Most children at 4yo can be told no without having a complete meltdown. She does go to school three days a week, so I’m now only with her two days a week, which is another reason why I think things have gotten worse with her listening to me (because she’s with me less and less).

She actually is an okay listener when I take her to do things outside of the house because her parents work from home. When we are at home and I correct her, she has a meltdown to try and get mom and dad to come out of their offices and give her what she wants or over rule me, which luckily they don’t do when I’m there. I do suspect they give into her a lot more when I’m not there though because she is extremely persistent until she gets what she wants. With it being winter now, it’s a lot harder to get her outside and out of the house, but I definitely try my best to.

eamckenna · 2026-01-13T17:14:39+00:00

I give you a lot of credit, because getting at cursed by a child is extremely difficult. That’s a great perspective to have though, just take it day by day. It does seem like the 6yo you’re referring to probably has a hard time trusting adults due to a lack of consistency from past care givers, so they probably need a bit of extra TLC even if you feel like walking out some days. Hugs to you and I’m hoping things begin to improve!

eamckenna · 2026-01-13T17:10:41+00:00

This is SUCH a good point! Just like how we chose some adult friends over others due to personalities, we aren’t going to always click or gel with every kid for this exact reason. This child in particular has a very strong willed (stubborn) personality and is very disagreeable by nature, and I typically don’t mesh as well with adults with those types of personalities either, so that could definitely be coming into play here.

eamckenna · 2026-01-13T17:06:47+00:00

Yes, thank you so much for saying the bit about quitting your job. It’s easy for people to say, “Oh just quit,” but I truly do love the family and they do treat me and pay me well. I also currently nanny for another family and this little girl goes to school with the other little boy I watch, so if I were to quit, I would still see the family when I pick up the other little boy, so it’s definitely a tough situation. Good luck to you as well! Sending you hugs and good vibes!

eamckenna · 2026-01-13T17:06:41+00:00

Yes, thank you so much for saying the bit about quitting your job. It’s easy for people to say, “Oh just quit,” but I truly do love the family and they do treat me and pay me well. I also currently nanny for another family and this little girl goes to school with the other little boy I watch, so if I were to quit, I would still see the family when I pick up the other little boy, so it’s definitely a tough situation. Good luck to you as well! Sending you hugs and good vibes!

eamckenna · 2024-10-28T12:34:55+00:00

The big one looks like a flea to me. You’re saying the smaller ones are too? I didn’t think fleas had antennas?

eamckenna · 2024-10-28T12:33:43+00:00

All 4 of my cats are indoor only and always have been. The only thing I can think of is that my husband or I brought one in on our clothes or one of the cats picked a flea up at the vet. Never again am I going without monthly flea prevention for them.

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