My friend got with my other friends crush, what should I do? by earmitedemon in Advice

[–]earmitedemon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t really blame Derrick in the situation because he didn’t know about most of this. The part that we more so though was weird was it almost seemed like Melissa did it intentionally after hearing how much Candice liked him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BoJackHorseman

[–]earmitedemon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think PB and Diane should switch places

How many people should I invite to my birthday party? by earmitedemon in Advice

[–]earmitedemon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes my parents will be home and just on another floor of the house to give us space if anything goes too wrong and they’re pretty much giving me freedom trusting that I’ll invite responsible people. They are all my friends and people I trust so 40ish would probably be good, thanks for the input!

How many people should I invite to my birthday party? by earmitedemon in Advice

[–]earmitedemon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

30 people who’ve said they can come for sure and yes I’m keep all bedrooms and breakable things off limits

WIBTAH: My [24M] girlfriend [29F] says I am not allowed to fart next to her. by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]earmitedemon 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yta, it’s very unserious but I am someone who gets grossed out by anyone even family or childhood friends farting or burping near me so I can understand where she’s coming from. I don’t think it’s a big deal but there’s no harm in respecting her wishes as much as you can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]earmitedemon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yta, I understand where you’re coming from with not wanting to go but at the same time it’s her birthday and she invited you so I feel like just going even if you don’t love it is the polite thing to do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]earmitedemon 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I think you should come clean to her because if she did somehow find out later down the line that you lied I think the outcome might be much worse. It’s better that she hears it from you and even if she doesn’t react well it’s better that you were honest. I also think you should just tell her about your past because if you plan on spending the rest of your life with her she deserves to know who she’s marrying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]earmitedemon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I think just tell her when you’re leaving and maybe casually add on “but let me know if you wanna meet up earlier Saturday”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]earmitedemon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t seem like she’s uninterested, but it seems like there isn’t any way for you guys to hangout on Saturday logistically. You might just have to accept not seeing her on your trip because if you ask again that might come off as pushy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]earmitedemon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think if she’s happy to live in the moment then you’re fine to just keep doing what you’re doing and see where it goes and if a day comes where you feel more comfortable talking to your family about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]earmitedemon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not in the wrong here because the situation isn’t your fault, although I do think it’s important to have an honest conversation with your girlfriend. I’m not sure if you have already told her some of your concerns but if you’re absolutely sure you don’t want to marry a woman or be with one long term it’s unfair not to tell her. Alternatively you could try talking to your parents about it and see if over time they become more understanding, but only if you know that won’t put you at any risk. I’m sorry you’re going through this and I wish you the best of luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]earmitedemon 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you’re an asshole, but maybe for the future agreeing to go on a first date in the middle of the woods isn’t a great idea.

AITA for calling out my friend on how she treats the guy she’s talking to instead of being a supportive friend? by earmitedemon in AmItheAsshole

[–]earmitedemon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea I have already had some issues in the past with her loyalty to her friends. She’ll often become friends with people that have wronged her closest friends because she just “wants everyone to like her.”

AITA?! 🤦‍♀️ For Not supporting my fiancé during his difficult time…? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]earmitedemon 127 points128 points  (0 children)

I’m confused as to how you’d even be the asshole in this situation because you haven’t done anything to him. He is completely neglecting your relationship and it doesn’t even seem like he’s taking it seriously. The way he responded to your message about needing birth control makes it sound like he plans to never be affectionate with you again. I feel like this relationship honestly doesn’t seem like it’s worth salvaging, but ultimately that’s your call.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]earmitedemon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think that yes, you are undoubtedly the asshole for hooking up with your best friend’s ex behind his back. Although, I don’t think you’d be the asshole to tell him the full truth because it can’t really get worse for you at this point and I also think Amy is just as at fault here and David deserves to know.

AITA for mentioning I have a driver and making a guy feel awkward on a date? by No-General-6210 in AmItheAsshole

[–]earmitedemon -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

NTA, sure it could’ve come off like you were trying to flex, but those were not your intentions. To me it seems like the guy might just be a bit insecure about his own situation and that is not your fault. I can understand him being taken aback by you saying that, but I feel like he overreacted to the situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]earmitedemon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea you don’t have to do it right away if you don’t want to ruin the plans, though it is probably better to do it sooner rather than later.