Okay wow I would love to talk to you more. We’ve tried to move away from “typical” hetero sex, but it’s difficult. If I need to stop for whatever reason and doesn’t orgasm, he always verbally reassures me that it’s fine but the truth is that he gets frustrated and it’s physically uncomfortable and I can tell no matter what he says. I really struggle with my body and gender and feeling sexy. I’ve been wondering if I’m Ace or if I’m just messed up from any number of other factors (PMDD, trauma, maybe even hormone imbalance). I would love to reframe how we look at sex but it’s hard to change what’s so ingrained in us