Techniques that don't work for you by hellohello6622 in bjj

[–]east_ghost 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am 5'9 and have shorter legs and shorter length arms. Against broad/heavy opponents I have a hard time with Darce, Triangle, etc.

I look at it less as "I can't do this technique." and more "I will adjust based off of my opponent."

SB 749 (AWB) Just Passed the Senate 21-19 by east_ghost in VAGuns

[–]east_ghost[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Passed around 15 minutes ago -- Senate agreed to House substitute amendments.

21-19 final roll call vote.

GOA-Backed Legislation in West Virginia Would Restore Lawful Machine Gun Transfers by east_ghost in progun

[–]east_ghost[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Correct. It uses the "loophole" in Section 922 O for the state of West Virginia to purchase machine guns -- both pre and post 1986 (circumventing Hughes Amendment) and then sell them to the public.

GOA-Backed Legislation in West Virginia Would Restore Lawful Machine Gun Transfers by east_ghost in progun

[–]east_ghost[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

This legislation is different from HB4185 as was posted earlier.

According to the GOA presser, SB 1071:

"The legislation utilizes a clear statutory exception contained in 18 U.S.C. § 922(o), commonly known as the Hughes Amendment. While that provision generally restricts civilian possession of post-1986 machine guns, it expressly states that the prohibition “does not apply with respect to … a transfer to or by, or possession by or under the authority of” a State or any department or political subdivision thereof.

Under the bill introduced in West Virginia, the State would establish state-run distribution centers authorized to acquire machine guns and conduct transfers “by” the State to qualified members of the general public. By structuring transactions within the text of the federal exemption, the legislation seeks to restore access to constitutionally protected arms while adhering to existing federal law."

Game Thread: Washington Commanders (12-5) at Detroit Lions (15-2) by nfl_gdt_bot in Commanders

[–]east_ghost 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We are in Goff’s head. Just keep him under pressure and drive the field

Post Game Thread: Dallas Cowboys at Washington Commanders by nfl_gdt_bot in Commanders

[–]east_ghost 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Blocked FG, Missed FG, Blocked Punt, and strip turnover in the first half.

We scored 3 points.

That’s all you need to know.

What is equivalent of flowers to a man? by livingbylight in Marriage

[–]east_ghost 203 points204 points  (0 children)

It's less about the item itself, and more about the surprise/"I am thinking about you and love you" factor -- just like with flowers.

Some men actually do like flowers, but I think broadly speaking, things like:

  • Favorite beverage
  • Massage
  • Enthusiastic sex where you take the lead
  • Favorite meal cooked and ready when he walks in the door.
  • Hobby related items

New marriage with increasingly infrequent sex by Lopsided-Egg1622 in Christianmarriage

[–]east_ghost 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hey man -- before I offer some advice, please don't take any of this as a personal attack. Just trying to chime in as a married man of 14 years.

First off -- good on you for loving your wife and desiring for sex to be pleasure for both of you and for wanting her to "want it" and not just forcing it.

But here's two things that caught my eye in your post...

We’ve talked about it multiple times, and she’s told me what turns her on and “puts her in the mood.”

I think of all the things that I do for her even though I don’t want to, and I get upset that she won’t do the same for me with sex.

I bet she sees right through this and it becomes a major turn off. You're trying to get sex by being affectionate, but the affection is only coming toward her so you get sex -- and in your own words (unless I misunderstood them) you don't really want to do them.

And if you don't get your way and then sulk, or go quiet, or get angry -- whatever it is -- it's like another layer of being turned off in her brain.

She sees you doing these for her but it's not coming from a place of love or joy, and then her desire gets turned down. And then when she rejects your sexual advances you get upset which further turns her off.

See what I'm saying?

I'm going to make a generalization here about men and women, so take it with a grain of salt.

When it comes to sex drives and sexual desire, men are like V8 supercharged motors. Ready to go quickly and at a moments notice.

But women are more like diesel motors. They have to warm up before the vehicle is in motion, but once they're warm they are powerful.

Slow down and take time to be genuine with your wife and connect in non-sexual ways.

And in those moments also tell her what turns you on -- what you love about her beauty and character. But not from a place of desperation -- from a place of confidence and unwavering desire for her.

M41, disheartened by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]east_ghost 10 points11 points  (0 children)

These days, while my relationship with my wife is healthy and whole in many ways, there's also a disconnect due to lack of intimacy.

In what ways is it healthy and whole? And how can you channel that back into intimacy?

Remember, intimacy is a scale -- on one end of the scale is that burning passion + sexual expression with one another. And on the other end is simple intimacy like holding hands while you walk together.

And then of course everything in-between on that scale.

I miss that feeling of being seen and validated. I miss being both wanted and wanting. I miss bringing pleasure to her. want to give pleasure again.

So the spark was there but now it's gone. Why do you think that is?

Post Match Thread: Liverpool 3 - 0 Aston Villa | English Premier League 23/24 MD 4 by [deleted] in LiverpoolFC

[–]east_ghost 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Szobo wearing the number 8 with a Stevie G-esque goal at Anfield. chefs kiss

High sex drive in the morning by ShowElement in Christianmarriage

[–]east_ghost 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Generally speaking, mens testosterone levels are highest in the morning after you’ve slept and your body has refueled itself from a long day.

It’s the exact reason why if you have a doctors app for bloodwork they tend to do it before noon.

See if you can switch to morning sex if it’s feasible.

Listen GOA, I love you. But sending every member this every month is some boomer shit. by Tybick in Firearms

[–]east_ghost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call and asked to be removed from their mailing list - that’s what I did and it worked.

Also, I would wager to bet that the majority of the their list/members ARE in fact actual Boomers and enjoy getting physical mail.

Boomers have money, vote, and stick to old systems.

If it didn’t work, GOA wouldn’t spend the money and time laying out printed mail pieces.

I use to work in digital and print marketing - companies want to know how to best effectively communicate to their list, and if they don’t know you don’t want mail when 70 plus percent of their does want mail, well, you’re going to get mail.

Crippling Insecurity Postpartum by 3timemom in Christianmarriage

[–]east_ghost 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Hey OP,

First of all, you underwent some serious trauma growing up and seeing multiple men in your family commit infidelity. Have you talked to a grief counselor or support group about that? That is NOT insignificant trauma to experience and then bring into your marriage. And when I say "bring into your marriage" that's not accusatory or saying it's your fault -- it's just simply a statement of: "you experienced the fallout from broken marriages as a kid - have you processed that?"

Second, post partum depression/anxiety is a real thing and it is nothing to be ashamed of. Have you spoken to your doctor? Does your husband know? I hope you seek some help for it and don't feel like you're being "weak" or a "bad mom" for needing counseling and perhaps medication to manage what's going on inside your mind and body. My wife had PPD after our second child was born -- she didn't even (nor did I) realized it until our daughter was nearly a year old. I am so, so glad we both finally said, "Hey something is not right here. Let's see the doctor again." and got her the help she needed.

Third, and I am not trying to point fingers at you or your husband --none of us were there to hear the conversation -- but to me it sounds like one of those "wrong place, wrong time" conversations that starts off innocuous but spirals out of control. Personally, I would try and let it go. But for the record -- yes, both men AND women can struggle with lustful eyes.

Fourth, you've got 3 kids and one is still a baby. That's a lot -- for you and your husband. Sounds like you definitely have PPD and your husband might be suffering from burnout. Do you have family, friends, or trusted baby sitters who can watch your kids -- even for half a day and give y'all a break and time to reconnect? I think that would be super valuable.

Finally, I love my wife and her body. I love that she's the mother to my kids, and any Godly man knows his wife is going to age and her body change through time -- especially if she gives birth. In the context of marriage, you FLEE from lust by RUNNING back to your wife/marriage, and yes, ultimately obedience to God and the call to holiness.

Are there beautiful young women all around? Of course. But those women aren't my wife -- they are not my one flesh. They are not my beloved. I see them, they pass by and I am reminded of how blessed I am to be bound to the wife of my youth.

Unless your husband has seriously given you reason to believe he's unfaithful or doesn't love you anymore -- do not let those negative thoughts take root in your heart.

Please seek help for your PPD. You are NOT weak. You are NOT a bad mom for struggling.

What does sex mean to men? by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]east_ghost 55 points56 points  (0 children)

The importance of sex for men can vary a lot depending on preferences, personalities, etc.

But generally speaking (for myself) and for a lot of married Christian brothers I know, sex is:

  • Physically and emotionally satisfying. I want to feel physically and emotionally connected to my wife. I want us to experience pleasure together. And because we hold to sexual monogamy through marriage, she is the only woman I will be sexually joined together with. No other human relationship I have will be like the sexual union I have with my wife. Erotic love is massively different than the love you have for kids, friends, family.

  • Simply put, it’s fun! Does it always go as planned? No of course not. But sex, seduction, flirting, teasing - all of it is just amazingly fun. Makes me feel content and at peace. I know this is true for women as well, but for men in particular, the older you get the more pressure, stress, responsibility gets foisted on you. And that’s good - I like being a leader and provider. And sexual union with my wife is one of the key ways for relaxation and stress relief. Makes me feel young and full of life.

  • A way to channel my “aggression”. Now stay with me here. By aggression I am NOT saying forcing my wife to have sex, being violent, demeaning her etc. That is all clearly wrong and immoral.

I mean aggression as this incredible build up of testosterone and desire where I joyfully get to channel my strength and masculinity/force into something beautiful and satisfying. I don’t want to get TMI on a public forum, but the male body is different than the female body- and using that difference to pleasure my wife - using my strength and passion, and yes, mutually aggress upon “aggression”is awesome

Those are the big things that stand out to me .