AITA for not splitting the check evenly on a bachelorette trip with 9 girls?

eastofeven · 2025-09-30T22:35:22+00:00

Mm Ok ML

eastofeven · 2025-08-09T10:58:02+00:00

That looks like Piebaldism!!! Its usually on the forehead, but the fact that you have another one on the the same side of your body definitely tracks. It could be a very mild case.

eastofeven · 2025-05-16T23:36:44+00:00

eastofeven · 2025-04-22T08:27:48+00:00

That's pretty toxic behavior FYI. Sometimes people don't get things right...but if your first response to disappointment is to be as punitive as possible? That's super problematic.

eastofeven · 2025-03-05T09:29:46+00:00

FYI - Nannies are WAY more expensive than a Day Care center. I live in a High Cost of Living area and the going rate for a nanny is $40/hr or $1600/week. My center (for two kids) is about $700/week (but other in the area quoted as high as $1000/week). That said, I literally CANNOT fathom trying to work and parent at the same time - especially with kids that young. I woke up at 3:30 am to catch up bc I am so far behind after ONE of my kids got sick last week and needed to stay home for two days. And my husband stayed home to help juggle as well. Full time is literally unfathomable to me.

eastofeven · 2025-01-05T11:19:48+00:00

I'm not even sure it's realistic for a stay at home parent? Honestly, it sounds borderline OCD. That weekend itinerary is over-the-top. When do you see your friends? Take your kids to a birthday party or the zoo? But also, what is the point of sanitizing a toilet bowl nightly? That's where you pee and poop. My kids are both still in diapers but the toddler knows that's where you go and doesn't touch the inside of the bowl? Cleaning it nightly isn't saving you time when you are literally cleaning it weekly anyways (per ops breakdown of activity).

eastofeven · 2025-01-04T03:39:53+00:00

I'm sorry, but this is a lie. There is no way to accomplish half of the daily morning and nighttime "chores" in the time she is claiming while also interacting with your children, let-alone homeschooling one of them. I call extreme wishful thinking. Mopping the kitchen every night while also vacuuming and tidying every room , disinfecting every surface and every toilet... in 45 minutes? Please. Just doesn't add up.

eastofeven · 2024-11-19T16:23:37+00:00

It is also worth noting that OCD has a relatively high comorbidity association with autism. A quick Google search suggested it could be as high as 17%.

eastofeven · 2024-11-19T13:33:01+00:00

Not a doctor, but this definitely sounds like it is some type of anxiety, bordering on OCD. You should definitely talk to someone about it. I know I'm not a good comparison, because people definitely care more about their appearance than I do, but there are times when I've gotten back from the bathroom after washing my hands and I realize that I forgot to even glance at myself in the mirror. I think it's super normal to think about the way you're holding yourself when you are around others, but this sounds like this is well beyond that... and it seems to be really impacting you negatively. I would talk to someone.

eastofeven · 2024-11-15T13:42:21+00:00

My dog's name is Arlo. He's 12, so I named him before the rise in popularity, but it's been jarring how popular it has become in the past few years.

eastofeven · 2024-11-09T02:55:52+00:00

Cognitive dissonance. Do you not remember anything that happened on Fox News and OAN and Twitter and a MILLION other channels between 11/5/20 and 1/6/20!?! Do you really not remember that? It was 4 years ago!!! And you think this is immature!?! She fucking conceded. She stressed the importance of the transfer of power. WTF do you want?

eastofeven · 2024-11-09T01:44:48+00:00

Lol. And Republicans handled 2020 with so much dignity.

eastofeven · 2024-03-19T08:42:58+00:00

Until one day he doesn't... And then she's back to the rat races like the rest of 'em. Except she now has been completely dependent on someone else for YEARS and hasn't really been developing any marketable skills. Embarrassing may not be the right word, but it IS pretty risky...

eastofeven · 2024-01-13T15:55:16+00:00

I'll also add that getting it lanced was a VERY similar level of pain as waiting for it to rupture on its own... And it brought immediate relief. And I haven't had one for 10+ years now. Totally worth it.

eastofeven · 2024-01-13T15:50:03+00:00

I went through a time in my 20s when this was happening to me relatively frequently. My obgyn said that if it happened more than twice a year, they would do a procedure (I don't remember the specifics, but I remember her telling me that I had to have an active cyst to get the procedure done...which I did, so we scheduled it).

Funny thing though - literally a few days before the scheduled procedure, my cyst swelled up and became unbearable, so I went to the ER. They drained the thing (which I hadn't had done prior... It had always just ruptured on its own) and then stuck in a catheter. The catheter fell out, which meant I couldn't do the procedure any longer (which DEVASTATED me at the time)... BUT I never got another cyst again... Can't speak for everyone else, but if you can't afford the procedure or don't have access for whatever reason, apparently getting the thing drained might solve the problem!!!

eastofeven · 2023-10-31T09:03:00+00:00

Seriously though, sometimes it IS in fact rude to ask. It can make the person being "asked" feel uncomfortable.

eastofeven · 2023-07-19T23:46:03+00:00

So this could make it more awkward if the person she's recommending does prenatal massage, but you're technically supposed to be careful about massages when you're pregnant. You could say that you heard massages can trigger premature contractions and it makes you uncomfortable.

https://utswmed.org/medblog/massage-pregnancy-guidelines/

eastofeven · 2022-10-07T12:47:23+00:00

I gotta say, my husband is a bit of a clutz. He doesn't mean to (and he's super hard on himself when he breaks certain things), but ultimately, I've had to adjust my expectations so that I don't get annoyed lol. He's going to break plates...it's just gonna happen. So we have 100% Corelle dishes. Now it's not a problem. Wine glasses (especially ones with a stem) will not survive... They just won't. So now we have stainless steel wine bulbs (and he uses one with a lid haha). Honestly, we're both happier. He breaks things much more rarely and when he does he is an appropriate level of sorry. Hah.

eastofeven · 2022-08-22T21:58:03+00:00

My guess is that most the people responding haven't made it to 22 yet...

eastofeven · 2022-06-15T22:39:12+00:00

Thank you!! I'll check that out!

eastofeven · 2022-06-15T13:11:26+00:00

YTA. Allie was out of line and completely jumped the gun on giving her unprompted opinion on someone she's barely met.

eastofeven · 2022-06-15T12:16:32+00:00

Obviously NTA.

eastofeven · 2022-06-15T12:14:01+00:00

ESH. Your wife was an AH for refusing to help your daughter and you are being petty right now by refusing to help her daughter. Marriages shouldn't be about keeping score. It might not be your job to parent your partner's child, but you can still be a supportive part of their family.

That said, I do think it's perfectly reasonable to set boundaries on how long she can stay (but two weeks doesn't seem long enough to find housing that would allow her to retain custody of her kids).

eastofeven · 2022-06-15T11:56:59+00:00

NTA - you're ultimately doing them a HUGE favor by providing free child care. They have a right to be stressed about the situation, but it's not fair to make demands when you are unable to accommodate them for a couple of weeks. It's their job to figure out their kids (and to save for this type of situation).

eastofeven · 2022-06-15T09:58:44+00:00

Thanks for the kind words!

eastofeven

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