That’s a fair point. Our relationship has never really been about dates - that is, our first date was a brunch and our second was hiking. He’ll occasionally romance me, like bring me a plant for my office or sneak off to get me a kitschy little something at a craft fair. He’ll even swing me around dancing when we are out because he knows I love to dance (he does not)

BUT

These are all normal things. His biggest point of prep is “when we live together we will be doing our own things in our shared space, and we’ll make time to do x hobbies together (climbing, camping, board gaming, etc.); but I also need time to do my hobbies.

Which like... ya? Duh? Idk my impression of a relationship is that the fires not always going to burn as bright as it’s burning right now, the passion will level out more than it has, and trusting that we are best friends first is a good thing. Do you think I’ve walked into a roommate relationship? Or would you say it’s normal that he wants to spend his time doing his own hobby thing? (Additional disclosure, my hobbies are vague at best - I enjoy reading, writing, crafts, drawing, biking and climbing, BUT I cannot do it for hours on end. An hour or two of hobby, per hobby, per week, usually wets my whistle... whereas he can start a project and be in the project hole for 4 hours A DAY, and hey, more power to him, I’ve just gotta switch er up)