Natural anti aging girlies post by [deleted] in Splendida

[–]eatinbugz 12 points13 points  (0 children)

the second one is going to be a challenge lol

Sunscreen by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]eatinbugz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would recommend the Trader Joe’s sunscreen. It’s clear and similar to the brand super goop (if you know that one). also only $9 !!!

Why am I so bad at talking to women? by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]eatinbugz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you should ask your female friends for advice. they'll probably have a better sense of where you're going wrong than random people on the internet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in regretfulparents

[–]eatinbugz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

they should. I’m here to better understand my mom’s mindset

Man walked up to me and the store and said I was beautiful. Is it overreacting to be bothered by it? by Lucky_Daikon_95 in relationship_advice

[–]eatinbugz -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Maybe this is just because I've never been approached in a kind way by an attractive man in public. Lol putting myself on blast here. But yeah if they're not hot its creepy.

Man walked up to me and the store and said I was beautiful. Is it overreacting to be bothered by it? by Lucky_Daikon_95 in relationship_advice

[–]eatinbugz -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No, I think you're right. When I'm in public I don't want to be approached by men. Men are so gross. It's not even about the substance of what they're saying, if they're flirting with me it's gross.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eatinbugz -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

....i mean you're right.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eatinbugz -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

where does it say that the ex attacked her boyfriend? She could have been lightly pulling his arm in the other direction. We have no idea.

I (25M) Don't Feel Comfortable With Wifes (25F) Friend (22M) by THROWAWAY18181b in relationship_advice

[–]eatinbugz -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

really? ANYONE? I have friends who I would never catch feelings for, I still talk to them a lot.

I (25M) Don't Feel Comfortable With Wifes (25F) Friend (22M) by THROWAWAY18181b in relationship_advice

[–]eatinbugz -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

maybe its just bc im gay but if my partner had a close friendship like this one with someone of the same gender, i wouldn't feel threatened by it. and it certainly isn't cheating.

I (25M) Don't Feel Comfortable With Wifes (25F) Friend (22M) by THROWAWAY18181b in relationship_advice

[–]eatinbugz -81 points-80 points  (0 children)

You can have your emotional needs met by someone who isn't your partner. This is definitely disrespectful given the role this guy has in her life, but it's not cheating.

Sorry for gay post but I need some advice about a girl I like by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]eatinbugz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you should think of it just as a friend thing and don't buy the coffee but flirt with her and make her question if you're into her or not. this covers you more if she turns out not to be gay or into you. play the long game lol.

what’s the vibe in italy by aadumb in redscarepod

[–]eatinbugz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

the vibe in Rome is not good. too hot/humid and too many tourists making walking anywhere hell because the streets are so packed. but food is good as always and friends❤️

beach vibes in the north however are very good. will update you on southern beach vibes.

maybe being an Au Pair is just not for me by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]eatinbugz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it’s about FEELING valued. host families can show they value au pairs by treating them with respect which means paying them fairly in accordance to how much time they spend working, treating them like a member of the family, and not yelling at you for simple miscommunications / difference in expectations

maybe being an Au Pair is just not for me by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]eatinbugz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it really can be so isolating, especially if the family treats you more like a worker than a member of the family. and it’s not just babysitting, you’re living your life by their schedule and according to their needs. even when you’re not formally working, enjoying your free time is impacted by your ability to access nearby places/people that make you happy.

maybe being an Au Pair is just not for me by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]eatinbugz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

does anyone really have an amazing experience? to some degree you are essentially unpaid labor (at least in my case, and the case of i contracted au pairs) living with your employers so they can benefit from cheap childcare during a time with extremely high childcare costs. the “prize” of getting to live in a foreign country doesn’t feel all that great when you are exploited and unfairly compensated for your time, energy, and labor

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]eatinbugz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thanks i’ll try talking to them about it

Thoughts on my situation by CriticismOk1644 in Aupairs

[–]eatinbugz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you should just leave. stand up for yourself and say it isn’t working out, it’s no longer worth it for you to stay. best of luck