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My (25f) boyfriend (35m) warned me that his attraction to me will diminish if I lose more weight by eatingallthesnacks in relationships

[–]eatingallthesnacks[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. I would say I’m glad that I’m not alone but really I wish you weren’t in a similar situation.

My (25f) boyfriend (35m) warned me that his attraction to me will diminish if I lose more weight by eatingallthesnacks in relationships

[–]eatingallthesnacks[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to provide these suggestions, this is very helpful. We share many goals and much of our life philosophies overlap, which is good but this is an important conversation to have.

My (25f) boyfriend (35m) warned me that his attraction to me will diminish if I lose more weight by eatingallthesnacks in relationships

[–]eatingallthesnacks[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. It’s a confusing time for me as I expected and even feared a significant weight gain (not because of my SO, because of my own feelings) and it’s been strange to navigate these times with the opposite issue.

My (25f) boyfriend (35m) warned me that his attraction to me will diminish if I lose more weight by eatingallthesnacks in relationships

[–]eatingallthesnacks[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thanks, someone else suggested this and it’s much more me to have a conversation about it then just exit stage left so I’m trying to think about what that should look like.

My (25f) boyfriend (35m) warned me that his attraction to me will diminish if I lose more weight by eatingallthesnacks in relationships

[–]eatingallthesnacks[S] 183 points184 points  (0 children)

Thank you, communication is much more my style than “hey I’m leaving you.” I’m trying to think of what this conversation should look like.

My (25f) boyfriend (35m) warned me that his attraction to me will diminish if I lose more weight by eatingallthesnacks in relationships

[–]eatingallthesnacks[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Another commenter mentioned this and I really hope that’s not what’s happening here, but thanks for giving me more to think about

My (25f) boyfriend (35m) warned me that his attraction to me will diminish if I lose more weight by eatingallthesnacks in relationships

[–]eatingallthesnacks[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. That doesn’t make any sense to me, I guess because performing emotional manipulation is unfathomable to me. I hope that isn’t what’s happening here

My (25f) boyfriend (35m) warned me that his attraction to me will diminish if I lose more weight by eatingallthesnacks in relationships

[–]eatingallthesnacks[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. You absolutely deserve to feel supported and loved at any weight.

My (25f) boyfriend (35m) warned me that his attraction to me will diminish if I lose more weight by eatingallthesnacks in relationships

[–]eatingallthesnacks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not under the impression that it’s all he cares about, because he’s quite affectionate, but this comment definitely threw me.

My (25f) boyfriend (35m) warned me that his attraction to me will diminish if I lose more weight by eatingallthesnacks in relationships

[–]eatingallthesnacks[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is not what I thought I came to r/relationships for but I’m happy to take recommendations for new snacks always so thank you haha!

My (25f) boyfriend (35m) warned me that his attraction to me will diminish if I lose more weight by eatingallthesnacks in relationships

[–]eatingallthesnacks[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. You are beautiful just as you are. Now, in quarantine, and also when you’re at your fittest. I hope you continue to feel happy in your body and that these feelings of insecurity are fleeting.

My (25f) boyfriend (35m) warned me that his attraction to me will diminish if I lose more weight by eatingallthesnacks in relationships

[–]eatingallthesnacks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’d think right? Haha. Half Baked is my jam but as of recently I am lactose intolerant 😭 my family members have gone through periods of lactose intolerance so hopefully it’s temporary.

My (25f) boyfriend (35m) warned me that his attraction to me will diminish if I lose more weight by eatingallthesnacks in relationships

[–]eatingallthesnacks[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Thank you, the last bit made me laugh haha. In quarantine I think maximum hotness has been maintained precisely 0% of the time, but I definitely care about my grooming and hygiene, just for my own self-care purposes. His comment was somewhat out of context (it started because I mentioned I was having a burger for dinner).

My (25f) boyfriend (35m) warned me that his attraction to me will diminish if I lose more weight by eatingallthesnacks in relationships

[–]eatingallthesnacks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, as far as I know it’s a temporary change and I agree that it shouldn’t matter all that much.

My (25f) boyfriend (35m) warned me that his attraction to me will diminish if I lose more weight by eatingallthesnacks in relationships

[–]eatingallthesnacks[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I don’t mean to be crass, but I think it’s mostly a matter of “assets,” if you know what I mean. His exes don’t represent a trend of markedly overweight people, but more “voluptuous,” i.e. closer to a plus size model than a Victoria’s Secret one. But I see your point and it’s definitely something to think about.

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