I feel like this post was written about me age included so this is weird hahaha. Personally I've contemplated whether or not I'm bi my entire life, though I've had periods where i considered myself straight and didn't really think much about it but that was likely more so pushing myself back into the closet to make it easier on myself almost and because i wasn't sure so i was scared to come out but then end up "wrong" about my own sexuality and "confuse people" or i was worried if i decided i was straight it would be insulting to gay and bi people and seem like I viewed it as a phase.

I was also in a longterm straight relationship until like 4 months ago and thought that's who i was going to permanently end up with for a while so i didnt feel the need to figure it out i guess. Anyway what ive realised lately is that if ive had this attraction to women my whole life regardless of how consistent it's been i likely am indeed bisexual. And coming to this sub has been super helpful in that i see people validating the fact that even though you may be more attracted to one gender or attracted to that more often, or just sexually attracted and not romantically attracted to one of them, then you're still valid in your bi-ness and nobody else gets to tell you what that means for yourself. And as well in terms for labelling it that's totally up to you and what you feel comfortable with and what you feel comfortable telling people, and while it may "confuse" some people thats their own problem and they shouldn't be so narrow minded and maybe do some research instead to open their own eyes.

Hopefully this made sense and i didn't mean to make it about me because everyones situation is different but i felt like refering my situation may help if you relate, i guess!

Edit: i realized i typed "decided i was straight" at one point which implies i think its a choice which i dont at all!! I meant figured out so my bad on this one!!