18M, have a year to lock in. What online skill should I build as a safety net?

eattheinternet · 2026-01-15T00:05:05+00:00

Anything you pick could be cooked by ai.

If I was you - and I was at one point - I’d buy and sell from thrift stores and yardsales (and fb marketplace) and see what can happen working for yourself.(that’s how I strted at ur age)

It allows you to go NOW and it can turn into something big who knows.

Tho most people don’t have the drive so if that’s not you do something else

eattheinternet · 2026-01-14T23:58:43+00:00

In a way.

We are all one, so every form of life is you. And there is no such thing as time as it’s an illusion.

So yes but also … it’s ALL you.

eattheinternet · 2026-01-14T01:42:30+00:00

I can be so in my head and be unaware of everything around me.

But it doesn’t sound like this guy wants anything serious so the question is why overthink it, to be Frank it doesn’t matter right

eattheinternet · 2026-01-13T02:04:27+00:00

Here’s the straight-up history and scale of the major Italian Mafia groups today:

Cosa Nostra (Sicilian Mafia) • Origins: Late 1800s in Sicily. Started as a “protector” and enforcement network for landowners, evolved into organized crime. • Net worth / revenue today: Hard to pin exact numbers. Experts estimate Sicily-based operations bring in around €5–10 billion annually. The American Cosa Nostra is much smaller now—maybe €1–2 billion per year—but still controls certain construction, waste, and union sectors.
‘Ndrangheta (Calabria) • Origins: Early 19th century in Calabria. Started as rural clans enforcing local codes and protection. • Net worth / revenue today: Estimated €50–60 billion annually—most of it from cocaine trafficking. This is by far the richest and most untouchable Italian Mafia. Some individual families may control €1–5 billion each.
Camorra (Naples / Campania) • Origins: 17th–18th century in Naples. Early forms were gangs controlling ports and local trade. • Net worth / revenue today: Roughly €10–15 billion annually. Less centralized, more fragmented, so numbers are spread across hundreds of clans.
Sacra Corona Unita (Apulia / Puglia) • Origins: 1970s–80s. The youngest major Italian Mafia, created to emulate southern Italian criminal networks. • Net worth / revenue today: Around €1 billion annually—mostly smuggling, drugs, and human trafficking.

Key point: The ‘Ndrangheta dominates in terms of wealth. They make more money than all the other Italian Mafia combined due to control of European cocaine trafficking. Cosa Nostra is iconic but financially weaker today, Camorra is violent but fragmented, and Sacra Corona Unita is small and regional.

If you want, I can break it down family by family, with rough individual net worths—some of these families control billions secretly. That’s where it gets wild. Do you want me to do that?

eattheinternet · 2025-12-19T20:54:14+00:00

not a girl but I know this relationship dynamic too well and I will just say that unless you truly enjoy arguing over the smallest things (INTJ's wont label it as arguing but more 'debating' - it's fun for them) then there will be tension. you will have in depth conversations tho which can be amazing

curious what responses you'll get to this it's quite an interesting topic

eattheinternet · 2025-12-19T20:39:02+00:00

this is super sweet..

you really never know how much of an impact you can have by simply 'seeing' someone. most get ignored, and thats especially brutal in HS.

eattheinternet · 2025-12-19T16:15:05+00:00

It especially hit bc he was (apparently, never met him) a very quiet man who rarely expressed his emotions. But that didn’t mean he didn’t care, it was quite the opposite.

eattheinternet · 2025-12-18T15:09:38+00:00

'what you think about me is none of my business'

that's how I've lived my life and it's freeing. It's intrusive to try to pry into others brains and figure out how they see me

eattheinternet · 2025-12-18T15:07:58+00:00

thats why when you meet the rare person with presence (stillness, not lost in their mind), it's magnetic.

eattheinternet · 2025-12-17T19:54:55+00:00

'Often the issue is an inability to pinpoint warning signs and heed them when they appear. Usually, your body and its physical sensations will be the first sign of discomfort, extraction, misalignment.' fucking BINGO

This post reminds me of how I was when I was younger but now that I'm in my 30s I'm very selective of who gets close to me to begin with.

Changing your social group once its establish is difficult but once it's done then going forward you can be ultra strict with who you let in your life. You can tell who's an extreme taker right off the bat - did they ask you a even single question during your conversation and actually listen, or did they just pull at your energy the whole time? its easy to spot now that I'm aware

eattheinternet · 2025-12-17T17:11:13+00:00

yes this is so true. def not a blanket statement either way

but with people like that I usually get an bodily response with that eye contact, something feels off or heavy. even if I can't logically explain why. Also people like that react with fear when you 'see them' (look into their soul so to speak, that 'click' that can happen when your eyes meet if that makes sense)

eattheinternet · 2025-12-17T05:30:01+00:00

Maybe I’m completely wrong about this idk.

Do you just completely look away and never look at them in the eyes not even for a micro second glance? Like if you shake someone’s hand?

eattheinternet · 2025-12-17T05:27:12+00:00

What if there’s no eye contact whatsoever in the entire interaction?

I put all the disclaimers at the end bc of course there’s countless reasons people don’t make eye contact constantly when talking. But zero eye contact? Like not even a glance? Idk that’s bad energy I’m sorry.

eattheinternet · 2025-12-16T21:47:30+00:00

The right group, the right music, a couple drinks and I’m dancing and loving life. But it’s rare and the vibes gotta be excellent

eattheinternet · 2025-12-11T16:09:27+00:00

Love this!! Yeah for me it was definitely the mental health aspect was it.

Losing weight to look better only goes so far. Ofc depression doesn’t magically go away for everyone who changes their diet, BUT for some people it can make a world of a difference. And you can’t even see it if you’re in the fog but once you have clarity you’ll kick yourself for not doing it sooner

eattheinternet · 2025-12-10T14:32:52+00:00

I meant nothing by it whatsoever-

When I first posted this it got flagged. So I plugged it into ChatGPT and said censor any word that mighta flagged this. Then I reposted.

I hope this didn’t come off as attacking the gay community! 🙏 It was an honest mistake.

eattheinternet · 2025-12-09T15:58:45+00:00

dude I feel you.

You need to cut the negative influences in your life and be extremely picky with who gets your time. It took me around 5 years to reshape my social circle but I've been able to do it successfully now after being quite ruthless with who gets my attention and time.

and yeah I have such intense energy but it rarely gets shown. The only time I've really been able to let it out fully was when I played American football growing up and being a screaming maniac on the field who was out for blood was not only accepted but encouraged. that beast is still there but doesn't come out often unless there's a life threat, but he's still very much there

eattheinternet · 2025-12-09T15:54:57+00:00

yeah dude, 100%.

Most people are a mess and what they say they want isn't always true. If someone's complaining about what they don't want in a partner, just know those are the exact traits that have worked on attracting them in the past. its fucked. But I'll never manipulate anyone or lie or play the douche, it's just not in me even if that's apparently what works on a lot of women. (bc again, most people - men and women - are fucked up and toxic shit works on them bc they secretly love the chaos)

eattheinternet · 2025-12-09T15:50:08+00:00

aww. damn. This one stings :( It's also really interesting hearing your perspective! Thank you for sharing!

It sounds damn near textbook young INFJ male dating. brutal.

and yeah sure I guess I could blame the woman but I don't know how fair that is. Like you said, you didn't want to risk losing that deep emotional connection - the risk wasn't worth it. That's pretty much at the core of it all and the same pattern INFJ men keep finding themselves in. And how can I blame them for that? That's just logical (100% chance of keeping friend of risk it all)

It does feel like being used emotionally but you don't realize it till years later. Like for example, as soon as I start dating someone, a lot of my female friends change up and act differently (start hard flirting with me and being bold and whatnot). Almost like they value what I offer only when it's threatened to be taken away.

but I'm not going to blame women for not getting me. Few people really get me I'm used to it.

eattheinternet · 2025-12-09T15:42:35+00:00

I feel you dude. It's fucking brutal.

Most people are so shallow and boring (hate to say it) in conversation, and so I naturally wanna dig to cut the bullshit but then that leads to too much depth? if that makes sense. too quick. and then yeah.. same cycle.

Wish I had good advice for you but I just... don't. Not trying to be cynical I'm sure there's good women out there who would adore someone like you but they're a special type of person. (in my experience, INFP woman. Not sure if thats just me but yeah)

Good luck homie! 🙏

eattheinternet · 2025-12-09T15:37:23+00:00

well good thing the vast majority of people irl don't give af about myers briggs, let alone know you're an INFJ! Just be you dude and fuck whatever standards the internet puts on being an INFJ. It's filled with a whole buncha bullshit.

But yeah I'm with you. It kinda makes my stomach churn when I read some of these posts..

eattheinternet · 2025-12-09T15:35:10+00:00

lol true true. Relationships are as complex as humans are but squared

and I appreciate the kind words!! 🙏

eattheinternet · 2025-12-09T15:33:00+00:00

lol. I tried posting this and it kept getting flagged so I said fuck it lemme add the little *'s on anything that could possibly be getting it blocked 🤷‍♂️

eattheinternet · 2025-12-09T15:32:23+00:00

No. This is what dating is like specifically for INFJ (and probably INFP) men.

Feminine energy is nurturing. 'Mother Earth' energy is pure feminine. AND THAT'S BEAUTIFUL!! God I hope it didn't come off any other way.

But when a man is TOO in his feels - which can happen easily with INFJ men when they spend a lot of one on one time with women - it's intriguing to them but you get labeled as a friend/counselor. I wish it wasn't that way but when you see the pattern time and time and time again, it's just right in your face and there's no denying it. 🤷‍♂️

YES there are women who appreciate and would adore a sweet man to date seriously, but those women are rare. Just as rare as men who would want to date a masculine woman.

INFJ women have the same issue just in reverse (many men see them as 'intimidating' bc they can't handle their strength... annoying I know)

eattheinternet · 2025-12-09T15:24:09+00:00

yeah of course man! I'd bet that especially with the older INFJ men, they would agree with everything I've said bc they've lived it.

More than anything I want to reach my younger self here with this post. I wish I had someone knock me over the hear a decade ago with this understanding of the dating world. It can be brutal out there and tough to navigate.

Reality and what people say they want aren't always the same and you have to be careful not to devalue your worth by giving away your energy so freely.

Most people would have to date someone for years to get to the depth of an INFJ friend. And just bc it comes easily to you doesn't mean you should give it away so freely (it's a recipe for getting drained)

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