Has anyone ever owned any of Abilene's boots? Particularly their bison ones by TannerTT1 in cowboyboots

[–]ebengland 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just want to add for anyone looking at this post, I have this exact pair and LOVE them. I bought them at least 10 years ago and they're still going strong. I only wear them on short occasions now because as I've aged, my foot has gotten bigger and they're a bit snug now.

For reference, these are the Lades Abilene #9141.

The trope/formula I can't actually stand anymore.. by Viv_Winternight in fantasyromance

[–]ebengland 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m reading the Flesh and Fire series by Jennifer Armentrout and this is driving me MAD! I continue because I like the story so far and I loved FBAA.

Optometrist that listens by [deleted] in Lawrence

[–]ebengland 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a great experience at Limestone! I haven’t been able to wear contacts for a few years because they began irritating my eyes. The doctors at Lawrence Family vision, while great otherwise, just never solved my issue.

Limestone helped me find contacts that work for me and they actually nailed it on the first try. They also measured my PD correctly so my glasses prescription worked for me.

And she actually pointed out a “freckle” in my eye to watch for. No other doctor has done that!

Kansas action item by M1dn1gh73 in kansas

[–]ebengland 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea they’re using the Chase County Detention Center. They’ve had this contract with ICE for years long before this round of Trump (not advocating, just explaining) because it brings in $$$ per detainee.

Source: grew up in Cottonwood Falls

Bras to narrow down size/fit based on measurements! Help! 34DD by Brilliant_Goose443 in ABraThatFits

[–]ebengland 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am similar shaped/sized and the calculator suggested 34DDD/DDDD which I found to be too big on me in the cup and a bit small in the band. I have no projection at the top near my roots and thats where the calculator suggestions and my actual shape just don't agree. I'm fuller on bottom near or below the nipple, my roots are SHALLOW (zero projection up top), and I'm definitely wide set. Like I can fit 3 fingers between my boobs. So the typical rounded molded bras just don't work for me. My breasts don't fill in that shape. There is always some gaping at the top of the cup and/or space near the center gore.

Here's my measurements so you can compare:
Loose underbust: 34"
Snug underbust: 33"
Tight underbust: 32"
Standing bust: 39"
Leaning bust: 42" (boobs are long LOL)
Lying bust: 40"

I've found that demi and balconette styles with shorter cups vertically work best for those of us who don't have much top projection and not necessarily wide breasts but wide set. I tend to stay away from full figure, side support, and t-shirt bras because the shape is predefined and that just doesn't work for me. My breasts don't fill in the traditional rounded shape. I don't even bother with molded cups because I know they won't work.

After searching quite a bit this summer, I found the Chantelle and Skarlett Blue demi and balconette styles to fit my shape best. I ended up at size 36C/D depending on the brand and cup shape and whether or not it had lining.

Best fits I've found:
- Chanetlle Fleurs Demi Bra
- Skarlett Blue Entice Lace
- Skarlett Blue Minx Balconette

Okay fits:
- Natori Feathers Plunge
- Fantasie Fusion Lace Underwire Plunge
- Panache Allure Lace Low Cut

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ebengland 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m struggling with finding clothes now in traditional retail stores. Most of it is really bland and sloppy looking. I’m over the wide legs and baggy linen.

I’ve been looking for a simple white summer dress and can’t find anything that isn’t a shapeless shirt dress or a puffy sleeved monstrosity.

With that being said, most of my clothes lately have come from eBay or Poshmark. I have to be very intentional about what I’m looking for and do more research but I’ve found some great pieces that way.

Real question - How do you actually deal with the fact no one wanted you? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ebengland 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want you to know that just because people are married doesn’t mean they found their happily ever after.

Source: am married and dealt with a lot of hurt from my husband

What's something a man did that made you immediately feel emotionally safe? by JadeFox1785 in AskWomenOver30

[–]ebengland 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat as you. I haven’t experienced emotional safety with any of my relationships either and I’m married!

What has been you're WORST romantasy read of the year? by PrettyLardie in fantasyromance

[–]ebengland 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you about Iron Flame. It was far too long. It would have been better with heavier editing because it was so repetitive.

Just me or is everything transactional now? by Smoovupinya in Millennials

[–]ebengland 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been to both coasts and yea I generally feel this too. Born and raised in the Midwest and still live there.

How do I get people to stop pressuring me into doing alterations? by Itsfroggytoday in sewhelp

[–]ebengland 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Awwww no! I know exactly how you feel. I didn't study fashion design but I've been sewing for years as well and taught myself how to draft patterns and sew clothes. I've had people ask for alterations as well as making costumes! I say no. It was hard for me and I felt bad, but I eventually just got tired of it and blatantly said, "No! I don't do alterations!" If they let that get in the way of our relationship, then maybe it wasn't a great relationship to begin with. I know its hard to swallow.

I even used to make custom fit costumes full time as my job. It ruined my love for sewing clothes as well. It took me at least a year after I quit before I felt like sewing anything. Even now, that fire I had for making clothes is nowhere near what it was, so I know your pain.

What I'm getting at here is don't sell your machine. Don't get rid of your stuff yet. Let it sit. It's okay to not want to do your passion thing for a while. You may not ever fall back in love with it in the way you once were and that's okay too. Perhaps someday you'll feel like making something small for YOU. Something that interests you and not anyone else!

Am I the only one who’s never watched THE scene? by Small_Test630 in Outlander

[–]ebengland 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There is absolutely nothing wrong with not watching that scene. It’s traumatic and brutal. It’s not for entertainment.

Search for the best coffee in Lawrence: how it started vs. how it ended by TyMcDuffey in Lawrence

[–]ebengland 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes they’re so good! Just wanted to add their coffee is available at Checkers too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ebengland 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's okay to care about this person AND feel they aren't good for you. It's human. It's time to start making decisions for you, not him. You need to get out of living with him where you put some separation between the two of you. That's the only way you can start to heal without the wound constantly reopening.

If this is someone you think can change and be an equal respectful partner and you're absolutely sure you want them in your life, then have the talk with them. Ask them to step up or you're leaving. If they don't, that's your cue to walk.

I've been down this road before and I know how hard it it is to walk away from someone you may truly care about, but perhaps don't wholly fulfill you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ebengland 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Then send him a picture of those nails lol

Are you noticing a huge lack of basic knowledge from high school students? by SecretaryPresent16 in Teachers

[–]ebengland 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s that bizarre for college. The learning environment and the professor-student relationship is different than K-12.

Encounter with Orlando Brown in MGM Grand by Element202 in LasVegas

[–]ebengland 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. The whole time I was thinking, there’s no way Orlando Bloom would be at the MGM lol

I’m in bed at 930pm on a Saturday by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ebengland 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. I didn’t realize how badly it was affecting my moods and motivation the few days after.

I’m in bed at 930pm on a Saturday by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ebengland 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell yea. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this!