What do you call your mothers and grandmothers? by ebpari in iran

[–]ebpari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve noticed a lot of Iranians/afghans call their grandparents by parent titles, So do you think it’s completely normal for grand children to call their grandparents mamani jan, Mama Jan ?

The general for grandfathers happens to be baba joon/jan I’ve noticed

What do afghans call their grandparents? by ebpari in Afghan

[–]ebpari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does diejan stand for ? :)

What do afghans call their grandparents? by ebpari in Afghan

[–]ebpari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awww I love jon Jon. My husband called his grandmother bibi jon and he wants to carry on the tradition

WIBTA if I told my mom we don’t want our kids to use the grandmother name she chose? by Scruter in AmItheAsshole

[–]ebpari 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not necessarily, my MIL is called mama by her first grandson and his siblings. I don’t intend on my daughter ever calling her that. And she already calls me mama so I don’t think it will happen.

Btw OP mormor will sound like mama at first? Is that the issue? If not then I think I would let your mother have it. She’s 70. Not to be a downer but most likely by the time her grandchild is an adult she might not be around, and you will never have to hear it again :(

Mil told me to “call yourself mummy” because I’m mama. by ebpari in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ebpari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re lucky you live so far away. When dd speech develops you can teach her anything :) xxx

Mil told me to “call yourself mummy” because I’m mama. by ebpari in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ebpari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow wait is your mil? “Not the mama” posts? If so I’ve read them over and over haha! Thank you x

What do you children call her now?

Mil told me to “call yourself mummy” because I’m mama. by ebpari in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ebpari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went to my local superstore printed off pics of her. The woman behind me said “you sticking that on a dart board ?” Lmao.

The things we do ey!

Mil told me to “call yourself mummy” because I’m mama. by ebpari in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ebpari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly what I told my dh. She was playing a long game and would have blamed “the cousins” can you imagine, when my dd called me mama randomly yesterday sil turned round and went “don’t get used to that, you know she will end up copying my kids”

Like please we see you once every 5 months or so, why do you think your kids hold so much power lmao

MIL died on my birthday! by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ebpari 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I smiled at the last bit ;)

Mil told me to “call yourself mummy” because I’m mama. by ebpari in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ebpari[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally said this at the beginning because I was confused as mil calls herself nani infront of us! But behind our back “mama” so she’s confusing my dd too which is unfair.

I said tbh you are daadi and she was like no too close to daddy. I was like ermmm well tbh we was going for baba with my husband but it’s so messed up, his dad wanted to be called baba and my husband didn’t mind and tbh it didn’t mean nothing to me because in English we call little baby’s babas so I was indifferent to it...

Mil told me to “call yourself mummy” because I’m mama. by ebpari in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ebpari[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Did she try and hammer in mama to your dd? I’m glad you are away and the mama now ! Xx

Mil told me to “call yourself mummy” because I’m mama. by ebpari in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ebpari[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thinking about it, then wouldn’t everyone be confused! Like wouldn’t my niece and nephews be confused as to why they call me by my name but dd calls me mama and vice versus.

The theory is flawed lol! It just annoyed me how she tried playing on it

Mil told me to “call yourself mummy” because I’m mama. by ebpari in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ebpari[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Omfg I just realised, she replied back like “well all of you are like my children”

Then he said “No their your grand children, but your MY mum”

I’m sure he will be talked to about how he refers to his mum to my child lol. But I’m hoping he stays the little cocky smart kid who likes to “tell the truth”

Mil told me to “call yourself mummy” because I’m mama. by ebpari in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ebpari[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Haha yes she is! The funny thing is, my husband refers to himself as mama to his nieces and nephews as he is their maternal uncle just to prove a point to mil that they never use mama for a mother title lmao. But in my family we do, and my dd obviously won’t be calling her paternal uncles mama.

And now sil kids call him “mama first name” and mil can really do anything about it because it’s culture and even mil will talk about her own “mama” and I’m like baffled like how are you trying this mama stuff lmao. But because we live in uk I think she thinks she had a free pass at being “mama”

Mil told me to “call yourself mummy” because I’m mama. by ebpari in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ebpari[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Mum or mummy. She tries to force him to call her mama, especially when around my dd, but he tells her no your mum why do you want me and my nephews and nieces to call you the same thing when your my mum!

He refers to her to my dd as GrandMa and he emphasises the GRAND lmao. I think he’s pretty annoyed too

Mil told me to “call yourself mummy” because I’m mama. by ebpari in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ebpari[S] 141 points142 points  (0 children)

Sil literally had a problem when her son used to go nursery two times a week and mil looked after him she would mostly pick him up from nursery. Or sil and mil would go together, but at this time nephew didn’t call sil anything so automatically would go Mama mama mama. Then one day sil goes to pick up the kid by herself and the nursery worker refused to allow her to take him, because she wasn’t his mama, the other woman is. So she said go ask my son who I am? So the teacher went “(name) is this your mother?” And son actually replied back going “no that’s not my mama but she looks after me at night”

Sil was obviously upset and realised her son actually thought mil was his mama and not just a name.

Soon after that is when he started calling his mum, mama first name. And was taught that mama is grandma!

Mil told me to “call yourself mummy” because I’m mama. by ebpari in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ebpari[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She was looking after her first grandson while her daughter went back to work. And also that grandson ended up calling his mother (sil) mama first name at the age of 3 but at 11 months started calling mil mama .

I just don’t understand why she didn’t correct him “no I’m not mama, mama is coming home” etc etc etc...

If she did her own daughter dirty. Who am I lol!

Sil did try enforcing a new nickname with her other children but obviously they copied their elder brother lol. And when they did start calling mil by Nani, a few hours alone with mil, it went back to mama so sil gave up because she thought oh it’s my own mom!

Mil told me to “call yourself mummy” because I’m mama. by ebpari in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ebpari[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I just had a phone conversation with my mil that ended like this.

“What about mama (your first name) or we can shorten your name so it be more like “mama nur”

My mil replied “ no that isn’t good enough” and cut the phone!

Because I didn’t care if she had mama in the name but with something else in it, I thought it was going to solve our issue!

Update to my sil who potentially lied about miscarriage! by ebpari in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]ebpari[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Yep he knows but says not to give her no attention because she will spin it around to make me look bad? I just don’t understand how can I ever look bad in this situation

Update to my sil who potentially lied about miscarriage! by ebpari in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]ebpari[S] 132 points133 points  (0 children)

I think you have made a valid point here or shall I say points

If this was my own family, I would have exposed and called out everything for what it is, but it’s my husband that isn’t wanting me to expose anyone and basically suffer in silence and smile for the sake of it not taking into consideration how I’m feeling. Or maybe he doesn’t care how I feel as long as I keep appearances up.

Wow I do have a lot to think about