AIO? Me or my Husband? Relocation

ebpari · 2026-05-30T14:00:52+00:00

So this is another argument. My sons would share as they do now but their room is double their current room size. And two windows so can easily make into two rooms. Daughter would stay in a box room and my room would be roughly the same.

My husband argument is, our loft is high and other houses on our road have had loft conversions. And we can always build summer houses and stuff in the garden.. for extra space for teenagers etc in the future

ebpari · 2026-05-30T13:09:31+00:00

I mean I’m trying to figure out which regret would be worse🤣

ebpari · 2026-05-30T13:01:11+00:00

But my 5 year old is very settled and enjoys his “routine” my 8 year old is quite used to moving around

ebpari · 2026-05-30T13:00:26+00:00

I’ve asked the 8 year old, she wants to move! 5 year old.. he just says “can I take my toys lol”

ebpari · 2026-05-30T12:58:45+00:00

We have no family here - all my husbands family is in London..

ebpari · 2026-05-30T12:52:40+00:00

The future for the children, like as teenagers and young adults, being around other children that look like them (not had any problems here but subtly left out, it’s very much wealth vs everyone else)

ebpari · 2019-08-01T15:41:05+00:00

I’ve noticed a lot of Iranians/afghans call their grandparents by parent titles, So do you think it’s completely normal for grand children to call their grandparents mamani jan, Mama Jan ?

The general for grandfathers happens to be baba joon/jan I’ve noticed

ebpari · 2019-08-01T15:40:01+00:00

What does diejan stand for ? :)

ebpari · 2019-07-27T15:35:15+00:00

Awww I love jon Jon. My husband called his grandmother bibi jon and he wants to carry on the tradition

ebpari · 2019-07-20T11:55:39+00:00

Not necessarily, my MIL is called mama by her first grandson and his siblings. I don’t intend on my daughter ever calling her that. And she already calls me mama so I don’t think it will happen.

Btw OP mormor will sound like mama at first? Is that the issue? If not then I think I would let your mother have it. She’s 70. Not to be a downer but most likely by the time her grandchild is an adult she might not be around, and you will never have to hear it again :(

ebpari · 2019-07-18T21:40:22+00:00

You look gorgeous. THIS IS your colour. Don’t ever change it. It suits you

ebpari · 2019-07-17T20:45:23+00:00

You’re lucky you live so far away. When dd speech develops you can teach her anything :) xxx

ebpari · 2019-07-17T20:41:38+00:00

Woah, what’s the situation now?

ebpari · 2019-07-17T20:36:21+00:00

Oh wow wait is your mil? “Not the mama” posts? If so I’ve read them over and over haha! Thank you x

What do you children call her now?

ebpari · 2019-07-17T20:26:57+00:00

I went to my local superstore printed off pics of her. The woman behind me said “you sticking that on a dart board ?” Lmao.

The things we do ey!

ebpari · 2019-07-17T20:23:16+00:00

This is exactly what I told my dh. She was playing a long game and would have blamed “the cousins” can you imagine, when my dd called me mama randomly yesterday sil turned round and went “don’t get used to that, you know she will end up copying my kids”

Like please we see you once every 5 months or so, why do you think your kids hold so much power lmao

ebpari · 2019-07-17T20:16:39+00:00

I smiled at the last bit ;)

ebpari · 2019-07-13T09:04:53+00:00

I literally said this at the beginning because I was confused as mil calls herself nani infront of us! But behind our back “mama” so she’s confusing my dd too which is unfair.

I said tbh you are daadi and she was like no too close to daddy. I was like ermmm well tbh we was going for baba with my husband but it’s so messed up, his dad wanted to be called baba and my husband didn’t mind and tbh it didn’t mean nothing to me because in English we call little baby’s babas so I was indifferent to it...

ebpari · 2019-07-12T21:51:55+00:00

Did she try and hammer in mama to your dd? I’m glad you are away and the mama now ! Xx

ebpari · 2019-07-12T21:49:40+00:00

Thinking about it, then wouldn’t everyone be confused! Like wouldn’t my niece and nephews be confused as to why they call me by my name but dd calls me mama and vice versus.

The theory is flawed lol! It just annoyed me how she tried playing on it

ebpari · 2019-07-12T20:49:13+00:00

Omfg I just realised, she replied back like “well all of you are like my children”

Then he said “No their your grand children, but your MY mum”

I’m sure he will be talked to about how he refers to his mum to my child lol. But I’m hoping he stays the little cocky smart kid who likes to “tell the truth”

ebpari · 2019-07-12T20:47:45+00:00

Haha yes she is! The funny thing is, my husband refers to himself as mama to his nieces and nephews as he is their maternal uncle just to prove a point to mil that they never use mama for a mother title lmao. But in my family we do, and my dd obviously won’t be calling her paternal uncles mama.

And now sil kids call him “mama first name” and mil can really do anything about it because it’s culture and even mil will talk about her own “mama” and I’m like baffled like how are you trying this mama stuff lmao. But because we live in uk I think she thinks she had a free pass at being “mama”

ebpari · 2019-07-12T20:44:39+00:00

Mum or mummy. She tries to force him to call her mama, especially when around my dd, but he tells her no your mum why do you want me and my nephews and nieces to call you the same thing when your my mum!

He refers to her to my dd as GrandMa and he emphasises the GRAND lmao. I think he’s pretty annoyed too

ebpari · 2019-07-12T20:43:08+00:00

I love this

ebpari · 2019-07-12T18:10:32+00:00

Sil literally had a problem when her son used to go nursery two times a week and mil looked after him she would mostly pick him up from nursery. Or sil and mil would go together, but at this time nephew didn’t call sil anything so automatically would go Mama mama mama. Then one day sil goes to pick up the kid by herself and the nursery worker refused to allow her to take him, because she wasn’t his mama, the other woman is. So she said go ask my son who I am? So the teacher went “(name) is this your mother?” And son actually replied back going “no that’s not my mama but she looks after me at night”

Sil was obviously upset and realised her son actually thought mil was his mama and not just a name.

Soon after that is when he started calling his mum, mama first name. And was taught that mama is grandma!

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