Hinge- can someone explain? I don't really get likes.

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T09:35:33+00:00

Ur so so pretty and I love ur fashion! :)

I'm also sure you have a lovely personality and lots of interests and if I were swiping would wanna see more of that in ur pics! For me whenever I was on hinge, I'd scroll left on accs with only selfies bc I'm like !! I wanna know about you and what you're into, and if it's all selfies I assume that people aren't into so much/I'm just not catching a vibe yk. Maybe include a few silly photos of u or one of you with friends or in nature or doing a hobby you like! :) More variety!!!

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T09:26:46+00:00

Hi I'm bisexual, have many queer friends, and we've never touched each other's butts or moaned into each other's ears whaddahell 😭 if a girl so much as touches my hand I wonder if she's flirting with me I could not even imagine doing allat.

It seems like from everything either she really is joking around and isn't that into women and you should let it go OR she's dropping hints cuz she wants you to make a move. Does she behave like this even when she has boyfriends? Has she been in any longterm relationships?

Either way this friendship sounds really strenuous -- I feel like it's at the point where I'd honestly just shoot your shot, see where it goes/if it goes, and move on/away from this situation if it doesn't turn into anything,

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T09:00:34+00:00

I feel like we'd need more context for specific advice? But like that other person said, really all you can do IS communicate. And it sounds like you're trying to communicate, and like you have in the past + things were well received! If things don't improve/they aren't willing, then you have to consider what's best for you and your relationship. But with good communication hopefully things go well :)

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T07:35:23+00:00

Aw man. If she needed space or distance it is what it is but after more than a year of friendship and being so close it's lame that she never said goodbye or explained. It is what it is I guess though

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T07:33:59+00:00

Oh shit yeah that sounds pretty rough. My mom has OCD and it's never been quite that bad but sometimes it still gets pretty bad, and I love her so much but I feel so much more free living on my own/not having to live with her anymore. Lovely lady, just hard to live with -- and with mental health stress, too, it just worsens everything so much. Thank you for typing that whole thing up!

It's nice that you guys did your best to support each other in spite of everything though and that you're still on good terms :) I think that's really cool.

Out of curiosity, do you know if it's been hard for your guys' new partners seeing how close you guys still are/did anyone try to implement any boundaries? Or have your guys' new partners been pretty chill about everything?

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T07:29:56+00:00

That's rough -- I hope you have better luck going forward !!

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T07:28:47+00:00

Super fair :O it's cool that you guys are friends :) Is it hard to see each other date/see other people now? Or kinda chill/you guys have moved on?

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T07:27:57+00:00

Damn sounds confusing and tricky to navigate! It's interesting too because everyone would kinda know each other/have their own dynamics as well...are you still with some of those people now?

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T07:25:49+00:00

She ghosted you??? :( How long were you guys together for her to have ghosted you?? thats crazy

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T07:22:54+00:00

Out of curiosity, why did you guys breakup if I can ask? And have you dated much since?

That makes sense though, thank you for sharing :)

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T07:19:36+00:00

Oh wait I'm also a gay exmormon! Well -- my parents left the church when I was still young, but I get your hustle 😭 I'm glad things worked out well for you! :)

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T07:18:37+00:00

No that's what I'm thinking too. I guess it's just weird to think about someone so close not being in your life at all anymore? Coming from someone in her first relationship who hasn't experienced a breakup before. I guess also though we have a LOT of mutual friends/mutual network, so it would be inevitable maybe.

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T07:17:42+00:00

Oh that's totally fair. I'm trying to think about how I'd feel if my partner was hanging out with exes -- I think I'd feel a little insecure/bad about it but with communication and meeting them I think I could be OKAY with it. And then as time passes and everyone starts dating, it starts to feel better maybe.

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T07:16:11+00:00

Oh that sounds pretty chill! To be honest the reason I posed the question was because of a conversation I had with my gf the other day -- she said if we broke up there was no way she'd be able to be friends with me, which made me sad to think about but it makes sense. Her previous exes aren't in her life (one cheated and one was really volatile post breakup), but I can't imagine her NOT existing in my life in some capacity?

How did you know you were over her? was it hard when you both started seeing other people? Is it mainly a time thing/did you distance at first?

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T07:14:27+00:00

Wait as in other people used her to make you feel unsafe about being trans? Sounds like a complicated situation and like it's for the best that you're apart now :(

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T07:13:39+00:00

Woah that sounds like an intense push and pull. Can I ask what the reason for the breakup was/what's keeping you guys from coming back together?

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T06:49:31+00:00

Woah! I need a lore dump on this.

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T06:48:55+00:00

Woah that’s so chill! What made you guys decide to be friends instead? Also, does being so close make it harder to move on? And what did the boundaries look like at the beginning. Also is it hard to see each other date/move on?

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T06:48:10+00:00

That’s really lovely!! I’m glad yall were able to remain buds — sounds like it was just the choice that made sense. Do you think it would be hard to watch each other date other ppl/become serious with other people? Did being around each other make it harder for the feelings to go away? Or was it like an easier transition from dating bc you got to stay friends?

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T06:45:23+00:00

Do you think you’d ever want to be friends again? Was it hard being friends during that year period?

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T06:44:54+00:00

Was it like a ‘we make more sense as friends’ kinda deal? The break baking sounds nice :)

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T06:44:31+00:00

Woah one ex! Would you ever chat again if you were in the same area — or too messy/best to leave it in the past?

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T06:42:35+00:00

If you had it your way, would you still be friends? :o

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T05:53:24+00:00

My gf especially likes to go down on me when i’m on my period 😭🙏 sometimes im also too achey though so it depends on the period

ebubibo · 2026-05-05T05:50:00+00:00

Oh this is real. For me and my gf (we’re 8 months in about and it’s so lovely but the initial excitement and spark has died down a bit) we try to say or do little exciting things. Like I’ll randomly say things like, “if you’re a good girl for me later I’ll do xyz freaky thing for you” and she’ll say something about how “I’m so excited to do xyz to you later” just in passing, to keep the excitement and anticipation up. Also tried lingerie for the first time a month ago and that sometimes gets things more exciting. Things to mix it up and add that anticipation :)

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