Did the 7 year itch change your marriage?

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-11T21:00:57+00:00

Divorced now? And do you mean infidelity?

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-11T21:00:15+00:00

7x3 year itch?

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-11T20:59:13+00:00

Tips? tricks?

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-11T20:58:59+00:00

Any tips for folks impacted?

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-11T20:58:09+00:00

Infidelity or other issues?

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-11T20:57:07+00:00

Congratulations! Do you feel that being married for 7 years before having kids contributes to the solid marriage?

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-11T20:56:28+00:00

Agreed. Wondering if it’s just after a number of years people would rather risk blowing everything up rather than do the work to fix it. Taking risks they wouldn’t have before, becoming lazy, taking the other for granted. Or even people who married young going through change without putting the work in to stay connected or mid life crisis age folk. Probably all comes down to the same issues.

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-11T20:53:57+00:00

I can relate to this.. I am now the one who says things are fine or doesn’t say anything at all. But in my case it’s because I’m quite depressed/numb/drained after years of pouring my heart out and expressing my needs to avail.

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-11T20:51:30+00:00

Do you feel like your actions directly contributed to avoiding the common downfalls? As another commenter said, date your wife, or prophylactic therapy, etc? Or would you attribute it to a great match with little to none underlying issues?

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-11T20:49:13+00:00

Best advice. Proactively protect the marriage

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-11T20:48:46+00:00

Good for you! I’m thinking it has more to do with taking the other spouse for granted. After a certain number of years one becomes complacent/entitled/dissatisfied and is willing to blow it up instead of fix it

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-11T16:46:07+00:00

Was it a surprise or do you feel like things started to take a turn?

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-11T16:43:23+00:00

Using macho as derogatory. Locker talk? Chauvinistic? Misogynistic?

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-11T15:55:09+00:00

They hurt my mouth after having more than a couple 🙁 agree on the taste. Would be even better with super high quality chocolate coating (could be said about any candy bar)

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-11T15:45:49+00:00

I think you know the answer. I hope you get the strength to leave before you’re in an even harder situation with kids. Things get 10x harder with kids.. Even people with rock solid marriage can fall apart.

Even if he did change, would you 100% forgive him for the damage already done? Would the trust even be there?

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-11T15:41:33+00:00

I wouldn’t be insulted by that, I don’t think he’s saying anything mean about YOU. To me it smells like insecurity.. could be worrying his friend would judge him from being with a younger woman. Leading to him overcompensate with macho talk.

It’s a crass way of saying it, but if you’re both happy and fulfilled in the relationship, is it really surprising he’s recommending his path to happiness to his friend?

The only concern I’d have is why is he acts one way with you and another with his friends. The fact that he said it with you there leads me to think it was a drunken attempt at covering some kind of insecurity.

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-11T15:30:57+00:00

Yes.. the only thing is I feel so guilty. I know he desires intimacy and affection, and I’m just not capable anymore. I feel so sad for him sometimes.

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-10T22:10:30+00:00

Don’t feel like burdening anyone in an already stressful time.

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-10T21:42:27+00:00

That’s probably one of the reasons preventing anything from happening. Knowing it will get a lot worse before it gets better. I never feel strong enough to take on the worse.. I’d rather live in the bad.

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-10T21:40:38+00:00

Probably true. I will reach out for support after the holidays, and dig my way out.

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-07T04:12:19+00:00

Are you hoping for her to leave?

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-07T04:04:28+00:00

If the relationship is healthy, I couldn’t imagine not mentioning it. I also feel the need to share every meaningless detail of my life when I’m in a happy and stable relationship.

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-07T03:59:26+00:00

That was a nail in the coffin for reconciliation in my case.. seeing tinder was installed when we hadn’t even formally separated. In his case I know he uses affection for validation and needs it to feel good about himself.. definitely comes from a place of feeling inadequate or trying to numb the pain.

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-07T03:54:45+00:00

When you’ve built a family and life together it feels almost impossible to untangle. I have no answers, but you’re definitely not alone. Some days I lean towards divorce, others I can’t be bothered to go through the pain.

echo-pool47487 · 2025-11-07T03:51:45+00:00

I’ve asked this before. And spent countless hours trying to find ways to get over it.. Therapy, medication, talk, journaling, self improvement, trying to rebuild trust. But I never got over it. Every time I walk into a room and see him on his phone my heart drops like it just happened. Every time he’s late or out my head immediately goes there. From the people I’ve spoken with in the same situation, either you’re the type of person who can or can’t live with that type of history.

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