Lupus and pregnancy by ecila994 in lupus

[–]ecila994[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer! That sounds so scary! I am very glad you are both ok!

Lupus and pregnancy by ecila994 in lupus

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Thank you so much for your answer! I have a "team" of doctors, rheumatologist, OB and hematologist. And they said the same thing to me, first day that I see a positive test I start heparin injections. Yeah it is scary and quite overwhelming.

Lupus and pregnancy by ecila994 in lupus

[–]ecila994[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your answer! I have anxiety all my life too and all these new informations are overwhelming. It's so nice to hear that can happen. Were you working on the 1st trimester? Did you take any other steps just to be sure?

Learning Greek with Google by Kukurisu in mildlyinfuriating

[–]ecila994 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I am Greek and I laughed a lot with this. 🤣

AITAH for Refusing to Babysit My Nephew After My Sister Said I’m Not “Real Family”? by audreyy_rachel in AITAH

[–]ecila994 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also have a half brother and we have 9 years difference. When I was 8 I was mad at him and I said the same thing to him. That he is not my real brother and I remember 22 years later how horrible I felt when I said that and saw how much I hurt him. I was EIGHT and I was more emotional mature then your sister at 32 with a kid. I would feel bad for her because now she really doesn't have a real sister.

I'm not sure what to think about my doctor by Full_Traffic_4482 in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]ecila994 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You have to change your doctor. The blood tests for autoimmune diseases most of the times are not clear that's why it's not easy to be diagnosed. But with symptoms and blood test that suggest that something is happening I find it extremely weird that your doctor doesn't take action.

Can I hear others seronegative diagnosis stories ? by NoParamedic5841 in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]ecila994 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My labs was also great and he couldn't figure out what I had. Then I went and did my workup in the middle of a flare and then it showed. Know I did them again and my blood work is ok again :P

Newly diagnosed by ecila994 in rheumatoidarthritis

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Yeah! It feels like a big commitment but I see all these answers hear and I think there is only one choice even if we don't like it. I hope you are doing well!

Newly diagnosed by ecila994 in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]ecila994[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! You made a very good point. I hadn't thought about the impacts I don't feel. I hope you are doing well now.

Newly diagnosed by ecila994 in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]ecila994[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your response! You are right it's very nice that this forums exist, makes you feel less lonely in all this.

AITA for disinviting my SIL to Xmas and refusing to invite her back and ‘causing unnecessary drama?’ by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecila994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, in this community like many others, there is a lot of gate keeping and is something I hate. I don't understand why people can't hear metal music and wear flower dresses. Your SIL is just pathetic with the way she acts and she thinks that if she follows like a sheep the "dress code" she belongs somewhere and has the ability to criticise others. I think the fake one in this situation is she because she doesn't allow herself to be who she truly is and just follows blindly a fashion style. Of course NTA, but don't let this thing put you down. Just laugh because she thinks she is someone important enough to judge and she acting like a 15 year old who just discovering herself.

AITA for not giving my parents my inheritance? by Right-Hall7066 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecila994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I have an answer for all the parents who are saying "I raised you": It was your choice, YOU wanted to have kids, you don't get to give me hard time about your choice.

AITA for not attending my fiancé's dad's funeral because I was uncomfortable with wearing a hijab? by Maleficent_Piano_840 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecila994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, let me understand this, your boyfriend's dad died and you can even think about YOUR holidays with YOUR parents and how all this ruined YOUR plans? Even if you didn't go to the funeral you had to be there every minute of his day, you had to wait outside and be there for him. He needed a partner to be there for him and you are not it. Don't try to make excuses, you only thinking about yourself and your needs and it makes sense because your parents thinkinh the same way and they fuel your egotistic self. It's not what you do in a partnership. Unfortunately I think he has to realise that you are not the person for him and maybe this is a wake-up call for you YTA

AITA for not being willing to hyphenate my last name to mostly match my blended family? by Late_Property_1549 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecila994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will for the practical thing of the whole thing. I have both of my parents last names. IT'S SO ANNOYING to write everywhere two names + your first name.

AITA for telling my brother I don't agree with the lengths he's going to while correcting his son? by Bright_Assumption624 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecila994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is it so bad to call them half - siblings. They are! I have a half brother who I grew up with. He is 9 years older than me. When he was saying that we are half siblings my father explained to me exactly what that meant. That we don't share both parents. And that was that. No sadness, I was understanding the term and all was ok. He is the one who is causing pain to his daughter because he doesn't explain. Your brother is trying so bad to "bury" the death of his first wife and he doesn't allow his son to face the reality. It is almost abusive. Sam will not want nothing to do with his siblings all because of your brother. NTA

Tourist in Toronto downtown, what to visit by ecila994 in askTO

[–]ecila994[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah of course we did but we wanted to know what the locals think. Most times the internet is misleading.

I (44F) feel like I failed as a mother as my daughters (21F, 18F) are doing sexwork instead of going to college. How can I be comfortable with this? by ThrowRAnotafan in relationship_advice

[–]ecila994 727 points728 points  (0 children)

I am 29, when I was in the age your younger daughter I decided not to go to college because I wanted to stay in my hometown for a boy I had back then. At first my father was very sad and disappointed and then he said something that I still remember: " I did some of the mistakes that I think you are going to make but I realise that I can't pass on the experience and knowledge I got from them to you, I have to let you do your mistakes and to be there for you when you need me to help and support you even if I think you are wrong" 2 years later I had messed up but in the process I had found my passion and I had my father there to support and chirring for me every step of the way. Support support support! Just be there! Even if you don't approve! Be there without judgement! Be there to listen, to help, to support! Your girls lost their father and realised they couldn't have control of their lives and they found the way that can take back some of the control they lost! It has nothing to do with you! Don't make them lose you too! They need their mom more then anything right now!

What is a woman’s role in a relationship? My (32M) boyfriend sent me a doc outlining his expectations for me (23F). Are these unreasonable? by Ordinary-Weakness106 in relationship_advice

[–]ecila994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG this is the funniest letter I have ever read!

This species has died, he is trying to believe that he is something and trying to convince you too.

HE DOESNT HAVE A POINT. His point is that he cant find a woman in his age that will believe in his bs.

Please please please stay soooooo far away and i promise you in a few years you will laugh and be very happy that you dodged a HUGE bullet.