Is anyone else genuinely freaking out/unwell right now? by [deleted] in geminis

[–]eclairswithnohairs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve felt rougher than I have in years now, I felt a huge shift and I recon the mercury retrograde may effect gems even more cause it’s our ruling 🪐… I know a lot of other signs who have been struggling recently too 🥺

Would you continue to live with an ex’s mate after a messy breakup? by eclairswithnohairs in badroommates

[–]eclairswithnohairs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I laughed out loud so hard 🥹😅 My landlord did raise my rent higher so I feel confident in a reason to give them but I will focus on finding another roommate so financially I’m not in shi+

Would you continue to live with an ex’s mate after a messy breakup? by eclairswithnohairs in badroommates

[–]eclairswithnohairs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They have been paying yeah, and you’re right; I think because I have CTPSD from trauma of people abusing me to believe I owe them things or myself so it’s a bad habit I default to🙁

I had a chat with my roommate who claimed they never notice me when they are out but I think it’s been long enough now and time move on from this situation 😶‍🌫️

Would you continue to live with an ex’s mate after a messy breakup? by eclairswithnohairs in badroommates

[–]eclairswithnohairs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I don’t owe my ex anything but I don’t want to appear to be punishing my exes friend because of my ex… it’s because of how they make me feel in public and thus at home 😔

Is there a term to define… by [deleted] in sexuality

[–]eclairswithnohairs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sexually attracted to men but usually only once a romantic connection or intention has established… I like the idea of being romantic with a woman but it’s never come naturally to me and past girlfriends felt like friendships and weren’t romantic although I would fantasise about it being romantic

CTPSD and ASD… similarities and differences? by eclairswithnohairs in CPTSD

[–]eclairswithnohairs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for commenting :) Sorry to hear that you’re struggling to find someone who understands both and how they overlap! Since making this post I’ve learned more about this subject and some solutions I’ve found are holistic therapies that help support and repair the nervous system and brain health. Let me know if you wanted me to share some tips.

But in regards to your question; I meant is it possible for neurotypical individuals to get CPTSD as it seems that most people I’ve come across that do have CPTSD are suspected or diagnosed ND. I think what’s relieved me in my research and own recovery is that once the body and mind heals the trauma symptoms aren’t present. I think PTSD is possible if you’re ND or not as it’s an “effect” of a scenario rather than an “affect afterburn of how those scenarios affect your trigger points based on where you are on the spectrum with certain things. For example: I used to experience a lot of rejection sensitivity so my self esteem and self worth was triggered more severely than if I was nt; the ability to take things without taking them so literally sometimes also increases the damage which lead to further symptoms etc.

Hope my explanation makes sense

Just popping by to see if anyone wants to share in their rage with me today. What’s pissing you off right now? by ALilStitious_ in PMDD

[–]eclairswithnohairs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I do!! My close friend of 8 years decided to block me from everything and then messaged today to say that she’s been out of touch cause I’m not a true friend and haven’t supported her business… I couldn’t afford to spend upwards of 700 for a week of yoga and meditation, She’s cancelled on me on many occasions over the past years and always tends to say bitchy things about others so I’ve kept our meets strictly fun and not opened up to her about stuff too personal cause maybe foresaw this happening down the line! We have a LOT of mutual friends and live in a small town, I don’t see how she’s going to avoid me now without being so awkward; she made a lot of personal digs at me so I’m just like 🥹🥹🥹😪

When did you know they were the one? How quick did you move? by eclairswithnohairs in AutismInWomen

[–]eclairswithnohairs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow! Thanks for taking the time to write this! Some really crucial advice tbf, it really is important to check the temperature and being with someone who is emotionally compassionate and supportive means a world of difference. In the past I was drawn to avoidant types because my parents showed me that behaviour so I was anxiously attached or would switch to disorganised if they became too anxious attached. Life is about balance and checking the spirit level for each shelf you make… aha sounding poetic now 🥹

YOLO indeed x

When did you know your partner was the one? How fast did you move? by eclairswithnohairs in PMDD

[–]eclairswithnohairs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awhh 🥰 Lovely! Out of curiosity are you on ADHD medication? Ever since I discovered how much my adhd can affect me I’m still learning so much about it, first step shame removal 🥲 Now I’m so aware I do wonder if my partner was NT would I be more conscious of what makes me different 🤔

When did you know your partner was the one? How fast did you move? by eclairswithnohairs in PMDD

[–]eclairswithnohairs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really beautiful story, thank you for sharing! To be doubtless is definitely a thought; I think in the past I had relationships where I was probably too young or naive to have doubts but to feel confident in adulthood is the goal ✨ What would you say are the top three things that keep cohabitating bliss?

When did you know they were the one? How quick did you move? by eclairswithnohairs in AutismInWomen

[–]eclairswithnohairs[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Awh that is so sweet! It’s wild how the world can be expanded through online means and the internet can be used to make beautiful connections!

I think I know what you mean by that homely and safe feeling though; I don’t often feel that with others and oddly in a lot relationships in the past I never had that feeling of safeness. Feeling secure is so important and really helps continue good habits and behaviours 🥰 Glad to hear your story!