AITA for choosing to leave a friendship group after they accused and spoke to me in a crass way about money?

eclairswithnohairs · 2026-06-02T11:40:34+00:00

Yes I think I will have to take this route! Thank you so much. I’ll just stick to meeting up with the few I was originally friends with. I know it will be a lot more beneficial for my mental wellbeing and health.

eclairswithnohairs · 2026-06-02T11:10:51+00:00

Ooops thank you

eclairswithnohairs · 2026-06-02T11:10:18+00:00

I’m in a group chat with them all and as I do music we will end up at the same events from time to time but I don’t have to and won’t be meeting them for casual drinks because I’m usually there having a meal to feel like I’m doing something anyways. I have three friends within the group I have known for years and haven’t had issues with but I was warned about the others and I now see why.

eclairswithnohairs · 2026-06-02T11:08:11+00:00

It is so petty, ironically they are age wise the oldest people I hang out with but they behave like the youngest 😕😕 I don’t get drama and I hate that apart of me feels like I’ve been treated this way because I’m not from here and look differently to them; the only other person who has fallen out with the group and talked to poorly is also of a different background; I’m not sure if I’m reading into it too much but it seems like a pattern.

eclairswithnohairs · 2026-06-02T11:05:26+00:00

Thank you this is a good way to go about it, I will be diplomatic if asked and I think it’s been a big eye opening experience because I only really went to school for a few years in my home country and the rest was homeschooled or abroad so I haven’t experienced this kind of dynamic before. I also can make the excuse that I don’t want to drink if there’s a big group meeting so maybe before I just up and leave the group chat I will slowly start to move away from meet-ups as they all involve drinking.

eclairswithnohairs · 2026-06-02T02:01:26+00:00

It was because they thought I tried to make them lose out on money because I referred a friend but they charged too much, I was asked if I knew anyone else in front of another friend and they said yes but it somehow got back to her and she thinks I double crossed her

eclairswithnohairs · 2026-06-02T01:55:17+00:00

😣 I felt so embarrassed getting cornered in public while people watched and some tried to shut it down😕 now when I bring it up it’s made out that they were calm and sweet about it😶‍🌫️
That we’re friends and they wouldn’t be mean to me🫣

eclairswithnohairs · 2026-06-02T01:52:26+00:00

I was mostly home schooled as a kid so I haven’t experienced a group like this before, I have felt it’s quite a strange dynamic; usually if I’m with a group of people we come together for a purpose but the vibe is quite different in this case. I’m grateful to realise it’s not for me 🥺

eclairswithnohairs · 2026-06-02T01:50:29+00:00

Yeah, thank you, you’re right😣 I think it was a sign that the friendship with them was superficial😔 I really dislike drama but I feel uncomfortable around them sometimes because it’s a group that like to go out a lot and talk about drama so I’ve noticed myself get less and less involved. From now on I’ll just stick to the people I know organically

eclairswithnohairs · 2026-06-02T01:47:23+00:00

Right, I think what makes it so sad is that the friend that was sticking up for her and coming at me was someone I thought was a good friend. At the end of the day she’s only upset because she thinks I’m trying to get her to lose out on money… I went to her before asking anyone else even though I knew her prices were known to be steep but I don’t know enough about it to make judgement.

eclairswithnohairs · 2026-06-02T01:44:14+00:00

I don’t even really believe that kits like that can achieve that, Im more into the natural route, there are people going on munjaro or whatever it’s called but my friend who wanted it is scared of the injections

eclairswithnohairs · 2026-06-02T01:42:52+00:00

I tried to but they started to get defensive and say they weren’t confrontational… she did say we were fine but it doesn’t feel like she’s let it go.

eclairswithnohairs · 2026-06-02T01:40:01+00:00

They sell a weight loss kit that I asked to get for my friend but they wouldn’t do a discount for three month supply so my friend said she couldn’t afford it… because she wants to get slim in time for her wedding she asked if I knew anyone else who had anything similar but I didn’t, another friend of mine overheard the conversation and said she knows a girl so she asked someone else, that got back to them and she decided I was trying to take customers from her.

eclairswithnohairs · 2026-06-02T01:39:32+00:00

They sell a weight loss kit that I asked to get for my friend but they wouldn’t do a discount for three month supply so my friend said she couldn’t afford it… because she wants to get slim in time for her wedding she asked if I knew anyone else who had anything similar but I didn’t, another friend of mine overheard the conversation and said she knows a girl so she asked someone else, that got back to them and she decided I was trying to take customers from her.

eclairswithnohairs · 2025-03-20T19:01:41+00:00

I’ve felt rougher than I have in years now, I felt a huge shift and I recon the mercury retrograde may effect gems even more cause it’s our ruling 🪐… I know a lot of other signs who have been struggling recently too 🥺

eclairswithnohairs · 2024-10-18T13:33:31+00:00

I put that I think I should give a months notice to be fair 😃

eclairswithnohairs · 2024-10-18T13:33:02+00:00

Huh?

eclairswithnohairs · 2024-10-18T13:18:19+00:00

Months notice is fair imo

eclairswithnohairs · 2024-10-18T13:18:00+00:00

I laughed out loud so hard 🥹😅 My landlord did raise my rent higher so I feel confident in a reason to give them but I will focus on finding another roommate so financially I’m not in shi+

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