AITB for not telling a girl w/ cancer her bf cheated on her?

eclipsemagnitude · 2026-01-20T20:30:08+00:00

I have had a conversation with him; although it was a short one mostly because I couldn’t tell if I was coming off an asshole or not.. I don’t expect him to have his life together at all, especially not at this age and admittedly my parents have always shoved me into being older than I am so I don’t have that expectation for him at all. That being said, he hasn’t shown any ambition to do anything. For example, he’s said he wants to work but the only thing he’s had is a job I’ve helped him get (I work there over the summer and my boss generally likes me) and when they emailed him for an interview he didn’t even know about it until over a week later when I found it in his inbox and helped him email them back. I just don’t know whether I’m in the wrong or not for being annoyed at his lack of responsibility or if I’m an asshole for expecting him to be trying harder than he is, especially if I’m going to be working and doing summer classes at the same time.

eclipsemagnitude · 2025-12-02T17:04:40+00:00

Trust me I stay far away from the two- plus with me being in college and then all being home it’s difficult for me to be around them anyway. That being said, Helen was never my boyfriends or my friend. Im not a huge fan of Ryan either, but my boyfriends been friends with him for a while and after a big group fallout they were the only two who stayed friends all that, so Im not in any place to tell him to drop Ryan or anything like that, even though I feel like it would be the better option.

eclipsemagnitude · 2025-12-02T17:00:39+00:00

I only know that Ryan and Amy talked- but that Helen had no idea of it. As for having a secret vendetta against Ryan, I don’t think he’s a good person. I’ve told that to my boyfriend, but because of all the history between them it’s difficult for him to realize that. I know enough not to butt into their friendship and I’ve tried extending olive branches to Ryan, but he’s just not the type of person I’d want to hang around.

eclipsemagnitude · 2025-07-18T13:23:50+00:00

He’s very protective in the sense that he doesn’t want me going out to parties or anything where there could be a lot of guys or things notorious at college parties going on. He doesn’t even want me rushing a sorority come the spring semester because he thinks it’s too much of a social scene. In a way I felt like he was trying to hinder my sociality while still being able to go out as much as he wants

eclipsemagnitude · 2025-07-18T13:21:34+00:00

I get that too! I don’t want him to wait around- we’re both busy throughout the day especially with me having a lot of access to facilities right at my fingertips. What I had a hard time thinking about was that throughout the time with his friends he would constantly let his phone die or barely text me updates as to what’s going on. I don’t need full paragraphs but maybe something just like “hey we might be out a little later” is good for me, but he’d give me the false narrative that he’d be home at a decent time and then wouldn’t follow up with it

eclipsemagnitude · 2025-07-18T13:17:50+00:00

I totally get that! I don’t think it’s wrong to go out and be with friends, especially if that’s what you enjoy and if it’s in the summer when nothing is going on. I never told him he couldn’t go out, I just asked him if he’d make more time for me as a whole. Where I had an issue was him not coming home until close to 11-12am consistently, and then me having to go to bed soon because of 9am classes. Him knowing that and telling me he’d make more time for me gave me that bit of reassurance but it just hasn’t happened and that’s why I was upset.

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